Trying to conceive over 40 part 2

@October1979 I'm so glad OH is supporting you I don't think it's an easy decision to make at all and I don't think anyone who decides this does it lightly. At the moment OH just point blank refuses to talk about it. I'm not sure why he's adamant it will happen for us when it clearly isn't.

I really really hope this works for you xx

@Kelb79 I felt similar. I was 39 when I fell pregnant on my honeymoon by complete accident. I remember thinking well that was easy. Sadly it ended in a mmc at 10 weeks and I was absolutely blindsided. I had no idea I’d have mcs and how common it is. I just assumed not getting pregnant would be my issue as my mum and sister struggled and needed fertility drugs. It was definitely a baptism of fire into the world of pregnancy loss.

I really hope you get a surprise bfp. I found out I was expecting my son a few days before the due date of my mmc baby. I have to say it was a relief. A midwife once said to me some women almost need to get that due date out the way to fall pregnant again. She’s seen it many times and thought it was part of the recovery and grieving process. I hope it rings true for you. Xx

Congratulations @Catconfusion

I have lurked on this thread for ages and remember seeing your posts on it so am really pleased for you!

Thank you so much ladies for the well wishes. This thread was such a great source of support for me. It’s lovely to hear my story has given some hope. I wish I could say it’ll be ok in the end. Although I can’t say that, I can say miracles can happen and no one is more surprised than me that I’m in this position. I’d pretty much given up when I fell and felt at peace with it not happening. Not sure if that helped.

The month we caught I’d been following a Mediterranean diet off and on. I was also taking ubiquinol. I’m not sure if those things helped. I’d lost a few pounds but nothing major. Honestly I think a lot of it was luck. I’d had three early losses pretty much in a row so I think egg quality was an issue for me.

Anyway I really hope to check back and see more bfps and that you’re all doing ok. It’s such a gruelling process and my heart goes out to you ❤️ Xx

Hi @October1979 yes, it's on my mind as well. going to see how this round of ivf goes and then give it serious consideration. I'm not sure how keen my husband would be on donor eggs because he's more of a believer of the importance of nature over nurture. And I'm not sure whether emotionally we could deal with a failed donor round....

Can you remind me, I think you decided not to go ahead with ivf with your own eggs because of the expected success rates? Did you manage to get a referral for more investigation given how many chemical pregnancies / miscarriages you have had? Hope you're doing ok.

Hello group newbies 👋👋👋

@Kelb79 you never know i got BFP the month we both had covid!!

@October1979 it's something I've been looking into outside of the UK, they have better success rates and its cheaper. At first I thought no way it wouldn't be my baby but I've read so many stories of women feeling the same but have no doubts its their child. I think it might be our only option now but OH is refusing to talk about it.

I have 2 Daughters from a precious relationship and conceived with no issue but I was 20 years younger then.

11dpo today BFN on CB Digital so think I'm out and my TTC is going on hold.

@October1979 a good friend of mine successfully used a donor egg as she has unexplained infertility. She had a very positive experience and a happy outcome! I think they did it in Spain.

Hey everyone, hope you’re all doing ok?

@Catconfusion she is gorgeous!!!! Huge congratulations!! It’s so hard to stay positive but miracles do happen!! I just always thought when I decided to have kids it would just happen - didn’t expect for a moment that I’d find myself in the minority of not being able to get pregnant - that happens to other people right?! And then I in no way thought I’d be the one to have a miscarriage 😕
You just assume you’ll be fine - I think that’s one of the hardest things to come to terms with.

I’m 3DPO but I’m not holding out a lot of hope for this cycle - we both had Covid so didn’t BD much at all! there’s always a chance though I guess 🤷🏼‍♀️
This is my last full cycle before my would have been due date on the 30th - I so hoped to be pregnant again before that 😵‍💫😵‍💫

So 12 dpo today temp dropped a bit yesterday and went back up today tested and got a negative hpt where I was getting vvfl on 5/9 dpo now nothing I do believe my body is trying to do something but for now I’ll just wait for af how’s everyone else doing anyone tested how many dpo are you ?

Congratulations @Catconfusion !!

She's gorgeous and also absolutely huge - no wonder you had a c section!! Hope you are enjoying the crazy newborn phase and thank you for reminding us all that it is still possible. All fingers crossed for more babies on this thread :o)

Thank you @traceyann44

Hi and welcome 😊

Hiya I'd like to join the group if that's ok? On 2nd cycle of trying and 10 dpo. Got a bfn today but I know it is early

@stuntbubbles Hi, hope you're alright hadn't seen you for a wee while. I can imagine the frustration of not poas but hopefully it will be worth it when you can x

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And congratulations @Catconfusion – what a beautiful bean! Hoping I can come back to this or future threads with such a wonderful update.

Just placemarking this thread while I can see it at the top of the board - I always lose it! Currently 5dpo and on holiday rigidly saying to myself “relax, relaaaaaxxxx” because people always say they got pregnant when they relaxed… 🤪 Also I’m with oodles of family and nosy toddlers so couldn’t bring any tests with me so I can’t do any mental “POAS at 7dpo” type shenanigans.

@Catconfusion congratulations lovely that's such amazing news!! I'm so so pleased for you all and that gorgeous big bundle! Xx

@Catconfusion Congratulation!!!! She's Gorgeous! What wonderful news.

@Catconfusion I can imagine she wasn't going to come out easily! Glad you're feeling alright. She's absolutely perfect 🥰

Well my period was due on Monday and it never came and I’m always very regular. But tests are negative so no idea what’s going on, I did weirdly have about 5 days of loads of ewcm so I couldn’t pinpoint ovulation (I didn’t use opk this month as they were stressing me out)

So now I suppose I just have to wait