Trying to conceive over 40 part 2

@Equimum Welcome! Sorry about your losses. Having children already doesn’t preclude the all-consuming desire for more.

@TTCat40 Haha, thank you. I’m absolutely fine – aside from the horrendous first 24 hours of period which for me always means a sick migraine and cramps like I’ve been run over. Day 1 of cycle and thus the countdown to trying again, and thoroughly believing THIS will be the month, 100% beats the mental trauma of desperately testing at 13/14dpo and getting BFNs and just wanting to move on. It’s a kind of mental and physical reset. Also being so poorly with it gives me carte blanche to park DD in front of Frozen while I lie down

Welcome @Equimum! Really sorry to hear what you're going through. I'm going for my first child but I don't believe that having children already should stop you from wanting more. Your heart wants what it wants and that's okay. I really hope you get the answers you need soon. Keep us updated xxx

@stuntbubbles. You are hilarious; your way with word make me laugh! But I know how annoying it is when AF comes. I hope you're okay xxx

@Equimum Welcome to the group. So sorry to hear of your losses. Hopefully you'll get some answers when you have your appt x

Can I join please? I'm about to turn 40. We have two children who are 8&6. I've always wanted another, but DH was reluctant. He changed his mind in 2020, I got pregnant straight away, but had a MMC picked up at the 12 week scan. I then got pregnant three months later, but miscarried at 6 weeks. Then, I got pregnant the month our first loss would have been due, but lost it at 9 weeks. I've been referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic, who requested blood tests that I had in January. I was due a follow-up at the beginning of February, but the appointment has been delayed until mid-March. Part of me feels like I should think myself lucky for what I have, and we have taken a break to try to move in, but I am crying all the time, and cannot let this go. I know that sounds crazy, but it's just where I am. So we're going to start trying again, but also look at private fertility tests, just to get an idea of whether it is totally pointless or not!

13dpo, stark white BFN, backache, cramping like the devil, AF due tomorrow, me standing in the playground with a headache and no patience, feel a wet gush down below. My brain: “Ah, I’m one of those women convinced AF is coming but actually it’s pregnancy, the gush is the excess CM you hear so much about, and I simply won’t test positive until I’m late for my period.” Felt beatifically smug at my secret pregnancy and close affinity to my body.

Meanwhile in the time it took to walk home my period got halfway down my leg and it now feels like a giant is taking a corkscrew to my uterus, WHY am I so delusional?! Also seems rude to get my period when I dedicated myself so thoroughly to POAS this month.

What a gorgeous poppet, @Littlemiss41andfabulous – well done!

@Littlemiss41andfabulous she is beautiful, congratulations!!! Enjoy every sleep deprived minute you can with her, she's perfect 🥰. You've given me hope xx

@Littlemiss41andfabulous she is a little beauty massive congratulations I am so pleased for you, make sure U squeeze in the rest whenever u can and look after yourself x so happy for you all 🎉🎉🎉

Oh my goodness @Littlemiss41andfabulous she is gorgeous 😍! Congratulations! Thank you so much for sharing and for giving us hope! Congratulations again! Xx

Hi everyone,

Little Elena was born via Caesarean section on Tuesday 25th January, weighing 8lb 6oz. Currently sleep deprived but enjoying my first few days of being her mummy ❤️

What a journey since beginning to TTC roughly 2 years ago, and seeing those 2 lines back in May! Proof it's possible to conceive (your first) aged 41. I hope this encourages those of you still trying for yours.

XxX

Funny enough @Marvellouslymadmum, something came up on my Instagram about a fertility clinic in Cyprus. I can't remember the name but it seems good. Thanks for the heads up!
Hi and welcome @Momddun. It is so possible to have a baby over 40. It's becoming very common now. Not to say it's not hard. I've been trying for my first for 7 months and I know of ladies who have tried for longer. But there are MANY stories of successful pregnancies over 40. My best friend gave birth at 41 and my cousin gave birth to her son at 42. It's absolutely possible. And we are here to give lots of motivation! Don't give up! ❤️

Thx for letting me this group ... I was checking if it possible to get pregnant naturally over 40 (between 41-44) and have baby ... some mentions by relative and other ppl make my heart sink that I am over age 😒just looking for motivation ... I am healthy ovulating desperately wanting my second ...

@TTCat40 there are some really good clinics in a few different countries so definitely worth a look!

@Trying81 that's definitely a positive congratulations

@stuntbubbles oh I dread to think what I've spent on tests, OPKs, FRERs, Cheapies, even bought some FSH tests just to have something else to wee on!!

I actually think I've got a mental block like I'm thinking about it that much its not happening. I have no idea how we can do things differently next month to have a better chance. Help!

@DOB78 I didn’t buy any cheapies because I was going to be sensible. £500 later… I’ve now ordered a bulk bag of one steps to go with my sexy sack o’ OPKs.

@Trying81 Ah, but the lure of that 20%… It’s the When Harry Met Sally thing: you want the rest of your life to start right away. Usually the urge to test kicks in around 3dpo for me so I consider holding out til 8dpo like some kind of Herculean feat of patience.

@stuntbubbles its hard not to when they say they'll work early

I did 3 last week, not even a hint of a line and it was only as my period didn't start on Sunday that I thought about doing one today.

I've spent a fortune on tests, but I do wish I'd not bothered with the early ones personally. At 5 days before period they're under 80% accurate

Ah @stuntbubbles I bought 20 cheapies on Amazon for £3 to satisfy my POAS addiction 😅.

Same, same. @Trying81’s positive is only encouraging my insanity – I’ve pissed away a fairly large collection of tests, all negative at 9dpo (aside from an AWFUL false positive at 7dpo – don’t buy the Freedom £1 twin packs from Sainsbury’s!), but now I’m nodding at her updates thinking “Ah, but later in the week I too might need to rush out and buy more tests!” I should give my money straight to the bin, really.

@Trying81 Congratulations to you!! Hope you're feeling alright x

Hahahhaha this chat makes me feel less crazy!! I'm so glad I'm not the only one keeping pissy sticks for further examination with the torch on my phone just to make sure its startk white.
I'd be so embarrassed if anyone saw my search history "could I be pregnant and still have periods for 6 months".

That's true - we only had 2 in the house as I'd used the rest last week so went straight out for more

Still in slight shock - but seeing all the tests makes it feel a bit more real

Of course, it’s not a BFP til at least five different brands have confirmed it! Plus, once you know the 2nd line is going to come up, you can relax and really enjoy the weeing on a stick.

Thanks, I did 4 more just to be sure!

Weirdly I did 2 early tests late last week and both came up negative so I thought we were out this month