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18, really nervous here

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tonijane17 · 09/08/2021 13:45

Hi there.. I'm 18 and have been with my boyfriend for a few months... We had unprotected sex (please don't say anything unkind because it won't help me) on day 19 of my usual 30 day cycle (I use an app to track this)... I'm due on my period in 10 days and am wondering if any of you have any advice as to whether I could be pregnant and if anyone has anything that could prevent pregnancy that isn't the morning after... Please 🙏

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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 15:25

I'm not reacting badly to "advice" - what I've been receiving is not advice.

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DemBonesDemBones · 22/08/2021 15:25

@SpaceBethSmith The op is certainly behaving with more grace and maturity than you are, and I'm assuming you're a bit older?

Squicknick · 22/08/2021 15:24

Congratulations OP, that's lovely news! IMO, every baby and all life is a blessing. That doesn't mean it will be a picnic, children always bring challenges but so much joy too. I wish you a very happy and healthy pregnancy and beyond.

SpaceBethSmith · 22/08/2021 15:24

It’s because you’re a teenager and because you’re reacting badly to the very real and good advice you’re being given.

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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 15:23

@SpaceBethSmith Oh really, is that because I happen to be a teenager? Or perhaps because I'm getting s**t thrown my way for being happy about my pregnancy?

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SpaceBethSmith · 22/08/2021 15:23

Imagine this on AIBU

My 18YO is pregnant - she’s been with the father for 2 month.

The replies would be very different.

Biancadelrioisback · 22/08/2021 15:22

[quote ineedaholidaynow]@DemBonesDemBones I am adopted, my birth parents might have thought I was a blessing early on, but obviously didn't later on. How many men leave because babies are not a blessing. Just being realistic. Thinking a baby is a blessing without also thinking about the realities of life is very naive[/quote]
Okay, so it could all go pear shaped, but that doesn't mean that the OP will suddenly resent her child or the father.
I was actively trying not to have a baby when I fell pregnant. Lots of things went wrong, lost my job, got into a boat load debt and honestly, having a child made thing it much harder. Still consider my child a blessing.

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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 15:22

@ineedaholidaynow Consider yourself the same x

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SpaceBethSmith · 22/08/2021 15:21

Your teenager is showing.

wbgahw1 · 22/08/2021 15:21

That's amazing!! I would suggest writing a list of things your need for the home and for the baby, basics like kettle, cutlery, plates, ect! X

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SpaceBethSmith · 22/08/2021 15:20

OP consider yourself reporter for that comment.

ineedaholidaynow · 22/08/2021 15:19

And I'm not bitter. But this is someone who has been in a relationship for 2 months and who was trying to work out how to stop a pregnancy less than 2 weeks ago.

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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 15:19

@wbgahw1 thank you! I really am exited, it's a big step but we have to do this to prepare our own life for the baby 😊x

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wbgahw1 · 22/08/2021 15:18

Congratulations!!! This is so nice to hear. Are you excited about the viewing for the apartment? X

DemBonesDemBones · 22/08/2021 15:18

@ineedaholidaynow and I'm positive you have been a blessing to your parents. I don't know how what you've written supports your stance.

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ineedaholidaynow · 22/08/2021 15:16

@DemBonesDemBones I am adopted, my birth parents might have thought I was a blessing early on, but obviously didn't later on. How many men leave because babies are not a blessing. Just being realistic. Thinking a baby is a blessing without also thinking about the realities of life is very naive

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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 15:15

@ofwarren thank you so much! ❤️

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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 15:14

@ineedaholidaynow honestly, just stop replying to the thread... You're just a bitter little person and what you're saying is worth nothing.

@JEdgarHoover thank you! Xx

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ofwarren · 22/08/2021 15:13

Congratulations!
I'm glad things turned out the way you wanted them to ❤️

DemBonesDemBones · 22/08/2021 15:12

@ineedaholidaynow ohhhhh so any baby who's parents ever considered abortion or adoption can never be a blessing. Got it. Hmm
Grow up, do.

JEdgarHoover · 22/08/2021 15:12

Congratulations! Glad it has all worked out.

I know someone who had a baby at 18 with a man she didn’t know very well. She didn’t use contraception. I think she was trying to be honest as she’d had a hard childhood and I think she thought a baby of her own would make up for her family’s shortcomings. Well, she went on to have two more and she’s an amazing mum. She was a single mum for a long time and she’s smashed it, she worked hard and now has a brilliant career and happy kids.

Young mums, single mums, mums who have unplanned babies - all can be excellent mums. It doesn’t have to be a 2.4 family to be ‘right’. If the OP is happy and content and has a support network around her then that’s great. It also sounds like the father has stepped up, so I don’t get why a couple of posters are being so bitter.

ineedaholidaynow · 22/08/2021 15:11

On the 9th August the OP was asking what she could do to prevent a pregnancy, didn't appear that the baby was a blessing then.

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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 15:09

[quote DemBonesDemBones]@ineedaholidaynow how dare you. Her baby IS a blessing. She has stated many times she is happy to be pregnant. Why are you so determined to piss on her parade?! The things you've mentioned could happen to anyone, regardless of age. Her baby is worth no less than yours.[/quote]
Thank you so much, I truly appreciate this x

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