18, really nervous here

@GreenTortoise because it’s very early on.

I have experience of that. So does the OP. It would be prudent to wait a bit longer before drastically changing her living circumstances. That’s not ‘disgusting’, it is factual and sensible.

Post likes this annoy me so much.

I'm sorry you're struggling to conceive but just because OP got pregnant straight away at 18 is not a reason for you to make sly remarks.

It is in no way her fault that you're struggling. And it really really isn't fair for you to make such comments.

Why would you say 'it might not all work out' to someone who is expecting.

Ugh, you disgusting person.

Congratulations on your news.

The thing you made a mistake on was saying your age. Some MN's get their pitch forks out for young people especially pregnant ones.

They'd much rather have a 30+ something have a one night stand and get pregnant and have all the sympathy in the world.

Of course, a selective few but they always show up and shout abuse at people. Wouldn't imagine they'd be so brave in person though.

They're mainly keyboard warriors so just ignore them.

Hang on, you’re 18 and you’re rushing into a tenancy now? Why on earth wouldn’t you wait? From a financial point of view you can save cash beforehand by living at home. You’ve been pregnant about five minutes. I’m sorry but it’s not a given that everything will work out how you picture it.

But that’s not how you’ve mapped it all out is it, you obviously can’t wait to play house.

You’re going to need a lot of luck.

Wait until you hit 12 weeks before making grand living arrangements. Take one day at a time.

This ^^ is sensible advice. Please don't rush into any huge financial commitments just yet.

@tonijane17 congratulations and if it's truly what you want, I hope it all works out. Not to be a complete pessimist however, but you can only be around 4 weeks pregnant? Sadly 25% of pregnancies end in a mc as I'm afraid you (and I) have experienced and you're still very much in unknown waters being so early on. Wait until you hit 12 weeks before making grand living arrangements. Take one day at a time.

@SpaceBethSmith but what's the purpose of all the criticism? Make OP realise that you're right she's a terrible person? Make her terminate the pregnancy as she doesn't deserve it? Or in fact let everyone know how perfect you are, that you would never make or condone, such terrible choices?

It looks like those posts have been deleted @SpaceBethSmith.

😭😭😭 and here's me TTC for 2 years!

Not to mention the photos of the pregnancy tests with lighters and cigarette rolling papers, which someone called her out on, and she said it was irrelevant if she smokes or not.

Is this people’s first time on the internet?

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I hope the next 8 months go really smoothly for you. Its lovely to hear that your partner and families are supportive.

I found becoming a mum hugely challenging, but having the support of kind people who I trust has made a huge difference. You know the phrase 'it takes a village to raise a baby', it's so true, regardless of your age and personal circumstances.
Best wishes and lots of luck to you

I know a couple who got pregnant this soon after meeting. Their second is due in November 😍 Good luck OP. These are exciting times and how wonderful to have such supportive family behind you both.

Ideal or not, she's pregnant and focusing on the positives. Dwelling on what she should or shouldn't have done in the past won't change current situation.

If my 20yo son told me that his 18yo girlfriend of 2 months just wanted a baby and for them to move in together and she wasn’t using contraception , I would be telling him to put a condom on it (and possibly run for the hills!) And I cant imagine many other parents wouldn’t do the same. I wouldn’t be saying to him, go ahead son every baby is a blessing.

Obviously, if it was too late and the deed was done I would be telling him he had to step up and take responsibility.

The reality is that it is the exception, not the norm, for a successful relationship to be grounded by the girlfriend of 5 weeks getting pregnant and wanting to not be pregnant, but without taking MAP, and following miscarriage with a different partner in the last 12 months.
It does happen, so let's hope for baby's sake this is the exception.

As much as OP's situation is undesirable and there are questions over the pregnancy (ie how unplanned it really was, the relationship etc. ), I do think a lot of people are bitter because of their own circumstances and passing it off as being real or whatever

@tonijane17

Congratulations!!! 😘
I wish you all the best for the next 9 months ❤️

Congratulations! As long as you are happy, that’s all that matters and you can deal with other obstacles if and when they happen. enjoy your pregnancy!

Do you live together at the moment?

last year I had an early miscarriage at 6wks

So it does seem you planned this pregnancy? Different dad, this time, though.

Honestly, I do not think you can really know someone for 8 weeks. But, good luck and hope it works out for the sake of your innocent child.

Congratulations! Good luck to you both. I had the same negativity back in 1980!
I had my first son when I was 18. Married at 17. Still married, 41 years now. Still happy.