December 07- MC Avengers in big pants, going through, been through or pg after a mc, still here, still eating cakes. We will not be beaten!

Hi everyone

Welcome cece hackneybird and Ele08 but so sorry you had to join us

Great news lcy and justjules I'm so glad everything is going well for you both!

splishsplosh the mcs have put a bit of a strain on our relationship as well, you're not alone. Even now being pg again I can tell that DH is stressed too. I hope things get better for you both soon.

I'm still a bit too scared to go and post on knickercheckers anonymous, which I know is silly, but my last stay there was so short . Is it OK if I carry on posting here for a bit? I'm still spotting, and had a bit of red blood earlier this evening which freaked me out, but it seems to have stopped now. I keep telling myself that I bled more than this with DS and everything turned out OK with him, so some spotting isn't necessarily a bad sign. I'm going to book a private scan for next week as I just don't think I can face the EPU right now (again probably silly, but it gives me the creeps just thinking about going there again as it's been bad news the last two times).

Hello to all the new people who have joined us, I'm so sorry for what you've all been through, but hopefully you'll find the support here helpful in getting through the next few weeks and months. Cece, it must be even more agonising when you feel like you're in that safe zone, and you're just working towards taking your baby home.

Christmas was OK, though as it was the first 1 since my mum died, it felt like quite a sad time really.

Oddly I find myself more envious of pregnant women than those with small babies. Maybe it's because I just want to go back to where I should be. My relationship is still rubbish, but i still feel the irresponsible urge to become pg again. We did have a reckless moment on the night of day 14/early day 15, so you never know, but I think it would be a bad decision really. I'm just glad for dd who brightens every day (though not so great when awake for 2 hours at 3.30am last night!)

Hope everyone is ok, it's so great to hear the good news from Lcy and Justjules.

Hello, Hackneybird, cece and Ele08. I too wish you didn't have to join us but you are very very welcome. The people on this thread are fab. I haven't read your stories yet - not sure if I can as I'm still v emotional re the whole thing (on first AF post-ERPC so I have an excuse!) but I do wish you all well.

Welcome Hackneybird, cece and Ele08 but so so sorry you had to join us... You will get enormous support here though, I hope that helps you through what we all know is a really terrible time.

cece still can't believe that your hospital made such a cock up (putting it much too mildly) with Hope's postmortem, I hope the new year brings you some answers, but above all (not to sound too new age) happiness and peace xx

Hello all...SKF here. I have changed my login name due to a needing a new start and all that.

Thanks for making me feel so welcome everyone! Cece - Hope is one of the names I had picked out too.

Cece So sorry . I can't imagine what you're going through and all I can offer is (((hugs)))
Ele08 Welcome and so sorry to hear about your mc too. I guess the BFN is good in a way because it means that any pg hormones are now out of your system. Usually AF makes an appearance anything between 4-6 weeks after the D&C but it can vary. Have you seen this site?
I found it had lots of useful information.
Give yourself time to grieve for the moment and take care.

There has been a bit of an error with post mortem tests so will never know for sure. However, Hope was born with the cord wrapped around her neck and shoulder several times. She was in quite a tangle poor thing. The midwife said it was rare but she had seen it happen before so that is probably why she died.

Hi everyone is it ok if i join too? I was called 3rdontheway but changed names after mmc in December. I started bleeding on the 14th December and had a D and c on the 16th December. I bought a pregnancy test today (clear blue digital). I dont know why i bought it as its only 27 days ago i started bleeding and 25 days since the d and c. The test said not pregnant. My hormones are all over the place, i dont know when af is due or if ive even ovulated yet and tbh i just want it out of the road.

SKF and cece welcome, and I am very sorry for what brought you here.

I hope you find some comfort solace and companionship here and that this year brings you hope, and healthy babies

Hello ladies. You will find a fantastic group of ladies here who listen and supply cake and laughter in any order required.

Cece I lurk quite often on the knicker thread as I have managed to get there and then had to move away again! I saw your story and it made me cry with the unfairness if it all. I wish with all my heart that you get another opportunity to have a baby. Have the hospital given you any idea as to why you had a late MC?

Welcome SKF and cece but sorry you had to join us. You'll find lots of support on this thread - it's been a help to me in recent months.
SKF I found out my baby stopped growing at 6 weeks at my 12-week scan. I opted for the "wait and see" approach before caving in and requesting an ERPC. In the end I mc'ed naturally before the date of the operation. Different hospitals seem to have different policies as I could have had an ERPC immediately had I wanted it. I understand what you mean about wanting everything over and done with.
Cece so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter and also your earlier mmc.
I hope we can help you both through this ordeal on this thread by offering you our support.

Welcome cece - i hope you are holding up ok. So sorry about you mmc and losing your daughter. Hope is a beautiful name x

Oh and before that I had an mmc at 9 weeks in March 2006.

Hello, can I join? I know some of you from the other kincker checkers thread. I lost my baby at 18 weeks on 13th Dec. A little girl called Hope. We have been ttc since New Year. No idea of cycle as haven't had af yet.

Thanks Lcy xx

Hi SKF - i have just posted on your other thread but wanted to welcome you to the avengers thread xx

Hullo all

Can I join? I thought I was 11 wks, but started bleeding on Tuesday, and yesterday a scan showed baby stopped growing at about 6 weeks. This was first pregnancy so this is all new to me. Annoyingly, the hospital policy is that I have to wait a week and have another scan to before I have an ERPC (I want it over with quickly).

So it would be nice to join and and cheer myself up a bit.

xx

Yes I wonder if she is lurking around here somewhere. I understand why she had to go but it would be lovely to hear from her.

No real drama for Christmas. It was brilliant.

Popsy has just got back from snowboarding, I am not talking to her as I am very. I am off myself soon but no where near as glam as Popsy.

ronshar - it must be a strange and emotional time. i am still astounded at how much the mc affected me. i cried about it the night before last. of course i am really happy about being pregnant now but losing that one properly broke my heart. anyway, hope you can get some time to think and treat/comfort yourself.

my xmas was well chilled - what about yours? any dramas/scandals?

also have you heard from popsy?

i was also thinking about katend recently? i miss her warm and positive posts . . .

Fertell is an over the counter thing, £24.99 from Boots.

My tests were all done on the NHS because I luckily happen to be in Mr Shehata's catchment area (moved house just a few months ago so this is pure fluke) - he is a consultant with a particular interest in recurrent m/c and likes to see patients after their second m/c.

The usual policy on the NHS is to wait until you have had three m/cs before initiating any investigations (That was the case at Kings, where I had my last one.) so I was really lucky this time, in a way.

Justjules - he told me to start taking low dose aspirin straight away. You have worried me now

Hey Tjuice, I am ok. Not great but not sad. It was exactly a year from my first BFP which MC'd. I realised that I wasnt totally over the ordeal but I am really surprised with how sad I feel.
I know that for a few of us who MC'd in March this will be a hard couple of weeks as it has been a year since the ordeal began. Also some of us are incredibly lucky and are now happily pregnant but there are also some of us who are still desparetely trying!

How was your christmas and how is that little bean of yours. I hope you had an event free holiday?

Jules how are you? Has all your bleeding stopped??

ronshar! how are you lady?

good morning all

verso glad tests went well, it is a relief, I never have tested but perhaps I should really

it is lovely to hear from those who are currently pregnant and doing well.

I hope those of us ttc achieve it this year

am optimistic this morning

but yesterday we went to visit a nursery for dd to attend part time from when she is 3 in the summer and I felt odd and quite sad as in my vision/ plan we would have another child by then.