December 07- MC Avengers in big pants, going through, been through or pg after a mc, still here, still eating cakes. We will not be beaten!

oh jules honey.... i dont know what to say...

Hey all -

Hope you are OK today jules and that bleeding is still slowed x

(((((((hugs))))))) to splishsplosh. I know how you feel xxx

good morning all

how are you all getting on?

here things calm, dh had to go to work so am relaxing with dd, awful weather out think we will bake

Morning ladies! Absolutely exhausted.

Tjuice- Haven't lost any weight at all despite not having a steady diet. I'm starting to get my appetite back after changing my prenatal vitamins because the pregnacare plus were making me sick.

Hope everyone is doing ok today.

jules - i know how you feel.

but remember

brown is okay
womb is growing
hormones changing
healthy and well
healthy and well
healthy and well

could it even be implantation? i never figured out the dates for that but its later than i thought - and if your blood is superthin, it may be more intense that normal.

by the way - i do this really babyish thing with ben and jerry's - scoop it out into a glass and then add a little milk and mix it up so it becomes more gelato texture. its so good. have you every tried it?

hi ladies.

welcome to sfx and littlewifey. so sorry about your mcs. hope you are taking it really easy and have enough

aqua - glad that the bleeding has eased up. damn, i fancied a cake too! have a good evening with your mates - its always good to step out for a while.

i have been grotting around in my pjs all day! just can't sleep at night then weekends are the big catch up. but about to shower then get into fresh pajamas for egg sandwich and more telly.

mcchesers - are you losing weight? my appetite has come back a bit. i still can't be bothered to cook though. i contemplates making risotto tonight then just thought "standing up at the stove, stirring for 25 mins - nah!"

so i am holding my bowl out for some of your 'scouse' - jules! glad things are looking up for you too.

splish - hope you are doing well. i went to school in Sydenham, cos my parents lived in lovely south norwood when i was a school. its hard thinking about where you could have been, isn't it. i lurked on the Due March 09 thread the other day and they sound like they are all getting big and in this totally different phase of pregnancy that i would be in too. really sad but maybe it was just meant to be. my friend always says " you close one day, and another opens" - okay not the best analogy here (!)but i guess it just a way of trying to make sense of and be positive about the ordeals we go through.

twilight - when you hit that bar, could you have one for me and the other sisters who can't make it? have a great night.

kazbeth - hope its just too early and that you get the bfp in the next few days or so. i was surprised at how early i ov-ed after my mc (less than a week after my d&c) so i missed that cycle. good luck.

littlewifey for me I bled heavily off and on for ten days before passing the sac. 2 days later I passed on last tiny piece of the pregnancy (tmi). The following day I spotted and that was that. The bleeding will continue until all the pregnancy pieces are out per my OB/GYN. So if bleeding continues for what you feel is too long it's best to be rechecked. Make sure you take it easy otherwise and eat plenty of healthy foods (iron enriched will help with your energy level) and drink plenty of water.

Blimey can't even spell today. Meant attractive not attrative

Kazbeth sfxmum and littlewifey* so sorry you had to join but you will find lots of support here.

sfxmum I am about the same age as you and I know what you mean about worrying that time is slipping away. It took me 3 years and 2 mcs to have DS and I had another mc in Sept but trying to stay positive.

ILTS Congratulations!!!

Jules Thinking about you and praying that everything works out for you.

I have had this horrible cold that has been going round so it's a good job that I am having a break from ttc until after xmas. It's not particularly attrative coughing and snotting everywhere!!

I considered joining several threads but I fell for this tittle really better chance of finding like minded people, it's in the pants

cricri yes very common 1 in 8 so pretty much every woman I know has had at least one, still not easy, you get full of hope for new beginnings, pretty much literally and then they just go leaving you empty for a while, it is hard to take.
but I refuse to feel defeated will still be positive next time

Kazbeth, sfxmum and littlewifey so sorry you had to join us but pleased you found this thread. I would have struggled to cope with my mmc if I hadn't had the support of everybody here. It's not always easy to talk about mc in RL, although I keep being surprised by just how common it is. Somebody else the other day told me they'd had a mc and I had no idea. it's like there's almost a conspiracy of silence surrounding it. Still, with our MC Avengers pants on we'll get there!
Jules Hope you're OK.

hi this 'bleeding normal' is so fraught

I am sorry about bad NHS experiences, I do agree they vary from place to place but there seems to be a general downward trend over the last few years. particularly in maternity/OBGYN

last mc was in 2001 and I had pretty good care, had D&C, my choice. the bleed 6wks later was spectacular, I had blood flooding out for about 1-2hrs but had hospital matron on the phone reassuring me and things slowed down and normalised quickly, still so scsry when it happened.
it took me ages to start ttc was so apprehensive but had a trouble free pregnancy and dd was born june 05.

don't want to wait that long now as I am nearly 39 so no time to waste.

Thanks ClairePO. I agree about this country-my experiences with the NHS these last few weeks have been appauling and certainly haven't instilled me with much faith in them!

littlewifey and sfxmum sorry you have had to join us but welcome

littlewifey I lost baby at 9 weeks but it had stopped developing at 5 weeks. I'm appalled you had to pay for a private scan. I started bleeding whilst in Germany and I had a scan as soon as I arrived at the hospital, this country just seems so backward and 'patchy' in what is offered.

Have you had a gynie consult? You should go see your doc if you haven't already or haven't seen a doctor at hospital then you should go see a doc.

For me the bleeding (red blood) lasted about 8/9 days. I passed the sac after about 6 days. The bleeding was for me like a heavy period, you have to use pads and as I don't normally it is difficult to compare. But they do say if you are soaking a pad in less then an hour you need to go to hospital.

Hugs for you.

Thanks aquababe. I think mine is definitely lighter than yesterday. Doc just scared me yesterday because he said that if heavy bleeding was continuous it means you would need emergency D&G but I wasn't sure how long he meant by 'continuous'! Should have asked really but think I was still in shock. It's horrible isn't it :-(

Hi everyone, thanks for all your supportive comments. Sfxmum big hug to you too. I should have been 12 weeks this week but wasn't due my NHS scan until 10th Dec. Started having some discharge etc last sat and knew I didn't feel right. Went to hospital but they did nothing, just said I had water infection. Discharge got worse, so couldn't stand the wait anymore and we payed for a private scan on Wed night. Found out it was a mmc and baby had stopped growing at 5-6 weeks :-(
After some advice ladies- MC started properly yesterday, but am still having quite heavy bleeding (although not as bad today) does anyone know how much bleeding is classed as 'normal' and how long for? I'm petrified of hospitals and don't want anything else to go wrong!!

Welcome Kazbeth. You're in the right place. There's a good mix of ladies here. Some waiting for their bodies to return to normal. Some ttc. Some in the middle of MCing. Some pregnant and moving along nicely with their growing beans.

Morning.
I've no idea of the weather yet as the sun's yet to rise but I will say it's D@#% cold. Have hired a sitter for DD tonight. She (dd) is almost 4 and this is only the second sitter she's ever had. I'm a little nervous. I'll be checking my cell phone the whole evening I'm sure. Haven't a clue what DH and I will do with our free time. He said dinner and a movie. I said pool/darts and drinks. I can see a movie at home anytime WE BETTER GO TO A BAR!!

AF may be just moments away. Have felt heavy and slightly crampy for 36 hours. If she arrived today that would be 31 days past the start of my bleeding (ultimately a normal cycle for me), 22 days past the "actual" mc, or 16 days past the rupture of that lovely ovarian cyst. But then you know there's the off chance the "night of comfort" left me with a little present...so I could just be 6DPO. Who knows.

Littlewifey pull up a chair and let it all out. Whatever you want this group is here for you. SFX same to you as well. So sad the reason but we're glad you're here.