December 07- MC Avengers in big pants, going through, been through or pg after a mc, still here, still eating cakes. We will not be beaten!

Hi

So So sorry Lcy, I hope it turns out ok for you, the waiting is agony I know. thinking of you.

Verso its hard isn't it, I went back to work today following my MC last week and feel like I am surrounded by pregnant people who are very nice but I am jealous.

Never feel like you are self obsessed loveangel, if you can't vent here then where can you, it is very hard to follow everyone.

Hope everyone else is ok.

X

Okay caught up phew
loveangelgabriel I had three friends PG when I MC - hated them all but we're okay again now they have babies - spesh as they are getting no sleep/sex/life...hmmm am stil trying to persuade myself I don't want this as too horrid not to be able to do anything to make my pesky body sort itself out

I was so full of this overwhelming jealousy and sadness whenever I saw them and their swollen bellies so you are definitely amongst friends here...I actually told them how I felt cos it was tearing me apart inside - I was getting the scan pics as I asked them to carry on as normal but dies inside every time i received news - I was writing cards to them all (5 with new babies) last night and felt a pang - but that is all it was ...so it does get easier even if it never goes away

My biggest fear now is going to my mums for xmas and seeing old friends who I knwo are ttc - i feel like asking them to warn me in advance so i can enjoy xmas instead of dreading an announcement - however sense prevails and I know i have gotten through a lot worse than that (popsy counts her life battle scars and cos she feels strong!!)
Been shopping again today on way home from conference (was about amputees - so good for me to see people worse off - makes you think how lucky you are in grand scale of things)...bought some snazzy cards and wrapping papers from paperchase and some pretty note books and pink pens- all girls need one

Hmmmm this has turned into a long one sorry - you can tell I've been missing in action today....

hi Lcy I am sorry you are bleeding again it is so hard after a mc to have anything like this {{hugs}} please feel free to talk here. have you called the doctor? I know they are not always helpful, as you know these things can happen and all can be well.
take care

hi lcy i haven't read over the posts yet but wanted to write straight away and send you HUGE hugs! I know this must be a really scary time for you but I know loads of people who have bled during PGs and gone on to have healthy babies - my sister bled (AF) all the way through and my nephew is now seven - and the lady i was with today had a period in the first month even though she was PG. Am crossing everything that this is all it is for you and that the MC last time was just your 1/4 chance thing.
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I am having a terrible day - i am now 5 weeks and i started bleeding today. This is exactly the same time that everything went wrong last time - although i took another 6 weeks to mc properly. Shit i just can't believe it is happening again - i am so scared i will never be able to carry a baby full term.

Please can i have some support / kind words

LoveAngel I am sorry you are feeling like this October is not so long ago and pregnancies of those near are hard to take.
be kind to yourself and take care, things will change

Hello all. I feel terrible, as I keep ducking in and out and missing what's going on with everyone else. I am feeling so self absorbed at the moment. I apologise if I come across as selfish right now . I hope everyone is ok? I will try and update myself by reading back through the thread in a bit!

Well, I'm back again as I am feeling absolutely awful about my m/c in October. I dealt with it so well at the time, and thought I was fine, but in the space of a week I have found out my step sister and my best friend are pregnant - exactly the same dates as I had. It's just too much to cope with right now. I feel like my insides are being pulled apart (literally - it's a horrible feeling).

Many big hugs to verso and sfxmum xxx
It's rubbish when you're going through it, but we all understand here, so use us to vent whenever you want.

Sorry you're feeling sad today Verso. Some of the wibbly feelings could be down to the anaesthetic, never mind anything else. Is there anyway you could take a few days off work and rest? Allow youself time to come to terms with what has happened and grieve - it does get easier I promise. We're here if you need to talk. Hugs to you x

hello all

back from hospital, scan confirmed all out and looking normal except for tiny clot which should just come out naturally.
I certainly feel like I am ovulating, or maybe just 'in the mood'but we will use protection until after the first normal period I think.

feeling dazed and a tad sad but it is expected, hope my cold/ cough clears as I could really do with going jogging, that always lifts the cobwebs.

my sister went with me and to look after dd, which was nice I then visited the newly opened choc shop for some consolation

hope you are all holding up ok

hugs to Verso

Hello, everyone. Thanks for making me feel so welcome. I was going to post about not being sure how long to wait before trying again but I think someone else was saying exactly what I meant... I should scroll back to check who. Anyway - I too have a DD who's 2.8 and wanted her to have a sibling sooner rather than later as I'm 37. Been fretting that I've left it all too late and my eggs are rubbish quality etc etc. No idea if that's true but I'm worrying anyway.

I know I have to wait at least until we've seen the consultant - and no idea when that will be. Not even sure if I can go through it again. Maybe one child should be enough and I should just be grateful for what I do have.

Just feel very wibbly again today. Went back to work (D&C was Friday) - but came home at lunchtime due to mixture of wibbliness (feeling sort-of spaced out like life isn't quite real) and big cramps. Think I overdid it at the w/e. Mum came down and meant well but she is high maintenance really - and I insisted on putting up the tree. Glad I did as DD loves it - and it's nice to do positive things - but I'm tired, and so so sad .

I wish it was this time last week when I didn't know yet

Hey all - hope all OK this morning

How you doing today jules?

The night is young coolkat - besides, it's his birthday, wake him up!
Only reason we were supposed to be waiting was because of the blood tests I had - hate the idea of getting a bfp then finding there's something wrong which caused me to mc last time and would mean that I'd have to go through all that again... Too horrible!
Now if that little speech hasn't put you in the mood for some bd-ing then I don't know what will (!) sorry

Wake him up

OK, hes fallen asleep on the sofa .....asshole!

His loss!

Coolkat

I say that if you feel ready, go for it! Your body knows best.

DH and I carried on with ttc 3 days after my bleeding stopped !!

Hi Ladies

Well my bleeding has stopped and its DH birthay tomorrow and I was thinking of surprising him - you know I don't have any contraception - shall we just do it, they say to wait a month after miscarriage but would it be so bad if we did not use anything for the month? let me know -

You've got about an hour!!!!!

You're totally right popsy, about the laughing thing I mean. I really need to remember that, especially today. Been feeling really weepy today, mostly cos I think I might have OV'd about 12 days ago and was stupidly hoping for a bfp this morning... We were meant to be being careful this month to wait for at least one af after EPRC before ttc again, but we had a little "ooops!" 2-3 days before possible OV (apparently condoms don't work so well if you leave them in the drawer?!?), really early to test I know but for all sorts of stupid reasons I did...
Anyway.. .
I get the results of my blood tests on fri, tests were weeks ago. Can't decide if I feel more sad or more impatient, I just want to get on with it!!! Although of course I know that's not how it works...aaarrghhhhh
Now off to look back through the thread for that genius list of presents popsy wrote last week... Let the credit card melt down continue!

oops sorry I meant ER not casualty

I can't do a sad santa - hmmm do they think is insensitive to make sad santa festive - I'd quite like to be sad in a slightly festive way...laughing at yourself is only way to stay sane

Morning ladies (or is it afternoon where has today gone???)

Trying to do some work still - feellike if I put books all over table will at least be absorbing clever information from them...hmmm just means dining room is a mess to be fair

TJ OOh get some platforms...they make my ankles ache but I feel it is a sacrifice I am willing to make for luscious long legs ..actually you can't have them - you'll get so top heavy and be like a weeble tee hee. Are you working in Denmark? What's going on woith your folks? I told my mum early and she was really cautious and worried - i remember being p*ssed off with her then found out when I MC'd that she had too and not gotten PG again for 2 years poor mummypopsy and poor me (there is another fig perfume..oh god am off to look it up...popsy feels a pre-shopping-sweat coming on)

jules hang in there lady - just get your bloody feet up, hire some DVDs (I like casualty the old days) and stay put til beanie gets strong - great excuse to be waited on hand and foot? We're all rooting for justbeaniejules!!!

sfxmum we could write some stories on crap responses couldn't we? From the MILs to the DHs.....work mates and don't get us bl**dy started on the medical professions .

hi jules

i did ask him last night actually, but he was finishing his paper of Assisted Reproductive Technology - can you believe it? he has been analysing sperm samples -eeew!

but will remind him now. he did say that the emedicine is a brilliant site but i just read an article in the observer mag about the double-edged sword of expert patients and their self-diagnosis. knowledge is power, as far as i am concerned. (although i do tend to put my fingers in my ears and go "la la la" when friends moan about the agony of childbirth and how babies put a strain on your relationship etc . .)

shall we do the list or what do you think?

Lcy - Hope your Mum has as good a 60th as my Mum. I think the celebrations are going on for 3 weeks! My sister and I bought her a lovely necklace she can wear at the wedding. She's not really a jewellery person but she wanted something special.
CD23 today according to the ttc board - I must admit I had lost track over the past few days! So yes, firmly on the 2ww, although I've not given up alcohol. Just trying to be sensible just in case .
Weather awful here too.
Hope everybody else is ok.

Hello ladies sorry to see there are some new people hear and very happy to see some have got a BFP - congrats Twilight!

I'm just comming into the most vunerable stage of my pregnancy but obviouslt hoping that this baby stays in here! One wedenesday I will be the same stage I was when I last mc'ed so I am very glad to have a scan booked on that day.

TJuice, even here they sometimes call a mc a spontanous abortion and it does really hurt as an abortion to me is a choice that someone has made whereas a mc is not.