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Give my my bfp!!! 🙈🙌🤞🤞

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Skl2021 · 24/07/2021 13:28

New thread for us ladies trying to conceive baby #3!!!

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Nikkic2123 · 26/10/2021 09:52

[quote Skl2021]@Nikkic2123 aww yes I'm fortunate that I have support and love around me too 💞 glad things are finally settling for you. Yes I took a pregnancy test and an ovulation test and they are stil really dark don't think you could get much darker 😩 never wanted a pregnancy test to go lighter so much!! Xx[/quote]
If u test again in 7-10 days I think u will see a significant difference providing all passed through ok, stay strong, hoping we both get there again x

Skl2021 · 26/10/2021 09:41

@Nikkic2123 aww yes I'm fortunate that I have support and love around me too 💞 glad things are finally settling for you. Yes I took a pregnancy test and an ovulation test and they are stil really dark don't think you could get much darker 😩 never wanted a pregnancy test to go lighter so much!! Xx

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Nikkic2123 · 25/10/2021 22:41

[quote Skl2021]@Nikkic2123 ahh I see I don't get any symptoms just ewcm but I can get that for around a week so still wouldn't know when ovulation actually is. I don't know if I should try straight away or wait especially if my tests are still positive it might get a bit confusing wouldn't know if I was pregnant again. The thought of going back to ttc is draining it can be such a long hard process. X[/quote]
It’s a terrible journey, but I’m thankful I’m in a position of a happy marriage and secure family unit to be able to try, some people aren’t unfortunately. I’m nearing Ovulation again now, my last period was slightly more settled that previous ones, I’ve no headaches this cycle after my period and up to Ovulation do something got better x
If you get pregnant again, your tests will keep getting darker, it will be easy to tell.
Maybe wait for your own peace of mind.
I’ll be 42 in December, I’ve blood tests 7 days after ovulation, I wasn’t going to test this month but I’ll do one cd 13/14 then again 15/16 so I know when to go for tests xx

Skl2021 · 25/10/2021 22:17

@Nikkic2123 ahh I see I don't get any symptoms just ewcm but I can get that for around a week so still wouldn't know when ovulation actually is. I don't know if I should try straight away or wait especially if my tests are still positive it might get a bit confusing wouldn't know if I was pregnant again. The thought of going back to ttc is draining it can be such a long hard process. X

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Nikkic2123 · 25/10/2021 22:00

[quote Skl2021]@Nikkic2123 I was also wondering this. How did you know you were ovulating if all the tests were still positive? I get ewcm around ovulation but apart from that I wouldn't know I'm ovulating without the test! Xx[/quote]
I can feel Ovulation every month so I took a guess, I started bleeding on 1st June, period came 4th July, when I counted back I was right when I thought I felt it. X

Skl2021 · 25/10/2021 21:42

@Nikkic2123 I was also wondering this. How did you know you were ovulating if all the tests were still positive? I get ewcm around ovulation but apart from that I wouldn't know I'm ovulating without the test! Xx

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Nikkic2123 · 25/10/2021 19:09

[quote Skl2021]@Nikkic2123 thankyou 💞 I think I'm over the worst. I passed the baby on Wednesday. Think the bleeding is slowing down now. Well on and off. Just getting alot of period pains now but guess it's my body trying to get back to normal. It was a horrible process to go through well still going through the bleeding is just a constant reminder. Can't wait to get through this and hopefully try again even through its the thought is so scary xx[/quote]
I bled for 2 weeks it was awful I ovulated about 3 weeks after the first day of bleeding, I couldn’t test tho as my tests were still positive for pregnancy and for LH xx

Skl2021 · 25/10/2021 19:05

@Nikkic2123 thankyou 💞 I think I'm over the worst. I passed the baby on Wednesday. Think the bleeding is slowing down now. Well on and off. Just getting alot of period pains now but guess it's my body trying to get back to normal. It was a horrible process to go through well still going through the bleeding is just a constant reminder. Can't wait to get through this and hopefully try again even through its the thought is so scary xx

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Nikkic2123 · 25/10/2021 18:47

[quote Skl2021]@Nats7504 I have been trying not to cry in front of them and be as normal as I can for them. Don't want them getting upset too. I can't believe how many women go through this it's scary! I never thought it would happen to me and then it did. I just wish the bleeding will stop soon as it's just a constant reminder. It's a tough process doing it naturally I don't think your prepared for what is going to happen and the fact your left to do it alone. It's just like labour. It just wasn't meant to be this time. Hopefully I get another chance 🤞 xx[/quote]
Thinking about you x

Skl2021 · 25/10/2021 17:16

@Nats7504 I have been trying not to cry in front of them and be as normal as I can for them. Don't want them getting upset too. I can't believe how many women go through this it's scary! I never thought it would happen to me and then it did. I just wish the bleeding will stop soon as it's just a constant reminder. It's a tough process doing it naturally I don't think your prepared for what is going to happen and the fact your left to do it alone. It's just like labour. It just wasn't meant to be this time. Hopefully I get another chance 🤞 xx

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Nats7504 · 25/10/2021 16:35

@Skl2021 Aww, that must’ve been hard to tell them when it wasn’t good news. I worried about something going wrong and mine knowing so early. At least with them knowing you don’t have to hide your emotion or if you’re having a bad day. Day at a time lovely. I’m so sorry this has happened. 😞 reading that message makes my heart hurt for you. It’s so unfair and sad that women have to go through this. Tomorrow will be tough and make sure you’re easy on yourself and let yourself feel what you need to feel. Cuddle the boys and your OH xx

Skl2021 · 25/10/2021 16:16

@Nats7504 yes I had to tell them. We just said baby was poorly and had to go to heaven. My youngest was ok as he doesn't understand but my eldest asked if he can have another one day and my heart broke 💔 I think that's what's pushing me to do it again the fact he was so excited. And like you said it was three months and we had all these plans and hope and dreams that just don't go away overnight. Yes I'm trying to go back to normal and do as much as I can but I feel lost like I can't remember what I did before I got pregnant if that makes sense. I had all the next few months planed with appointments and reveals and scans etc and now I just feel lost like I have nothing to do. My scan should have been tomorrow so I think it will be a tough day for me 😭 And I'm still getting appointment reminders by text and last week I got a letter. Just another kick while your down xx

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Nats7504 · 25/10/2021 15:54

@Skl2021 Oh, you didn’t tell the boys did you. Did you tell anyone else? You need support as it’s a lot for you to take on. I would be a mess and useless. Your boys won’t remember any of this so listen to your body and rest. It’s been such a big thing. That’s shit that he’s had to work through it all, some people find going back to normal straight away helps and others don’t. When my mum died, my sisters and I all dealt with it completely different.

You were pregnant for 3 months lovely, your mindset won’t change that quickly and I would be looking at them too. I hope your body knows what to do and if you want to try again it will happen soon for you xx

Skl2021 · 25/10/2021 15:31

@Nats7504 hes doing ok. He's had to work through it all so it's been tough. Had a nice weekend together and then today I feel a bit lonely again as he's back at work. I do have the kids off but they don't know what where going through and wanting to go here there and everywhere. And I can't keep up with it. So I'm having to be the mean mum and say no to alot of things 😩 my body isn't ready yet I feel so weak and tired.

Yes it's crazy how my head is like no way not after what IV been through but my heart is like desperate to be pregnant again. It's literally all I think about it's mad. I find myself on the pregnancy boards stil on here like nothing has happened. Driving me mad. Guess I can't do anything until I either ovulate or my period turns up. Knowing my luck with my cycles it will be ages before it returns! 🙈 Xx

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Nats7504 · 25/10/2021 15:25

@Skl2021 I can imagine. Your emotions and hormones must be all over the place. How is your OH doing?

From what I’ve been told by friends etc, wanting to get pregnant ASAP is very normal. You’re meant to be very fertile afterwards too. Do what feels right for you, that’s all you can do xx

Skl2021 · 24/10/2021 20:07

@Nats7504 hey 👋 thanks for checking in! Nice to speak to people other than my oh 🙊 I'm doing ok. As good as can be. It's a tough time but I'm doing my best to ride this storm. Sometimes I'm ok and then others I just break down. Trying everything to keep my mind of it as all I can think about is getting pregnant again. Xx

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Nats7504 · 24/10/2021 19:57

@Skl2021 Hey lovely. Just wanted to check in on you. Hope you’re ok ❤️ Xx

Nats7504 · 18/10/2021 19:19

@Skl2021 You’ll get through it. Us women are made of strong stuff. Day at a time. Hopefully your body will start it off naturally for you. The boys will be a good distraction. Big hugs lovely ❤️ Xx

Nikkic2123 · 18/10/2021 19:13

[quote Skl2021]@Nikkic2123 yes life goes on doesn't it I'm just scared IL get a gush or something will happen when I'm out 😩 I will get there thankyou for the support 💕 x[/quote]
Keep thick pads on. Good luck, I’ll let you be now, check back in, in a few days when you have had a chance to get your head round it, take care 😘

Skl2021 · 18/10/2021 18:49

@Nikkic2123 yes life goes on doesn't it I'm just scared IL get a gush or something will happen when I'm out 😩 I will get there thankyou for the support 💕 x

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Nikkic2123 · 18/10/2021 18:16

[quote Skl2021]@Nats7504 I just need to get through these next few weeks 🤞😩 I'm absolutely terrified now. Yes I have oh here and my boys. Trying to take my mind off it with some Halloween decorations need to try and keep it normalish for them 💙 xx[/quote]
When I found out on the Monday there was no heart beat, I had to get up on Tuesday morning, get the kids breakfast, ready and out the door to school. Pretending all was well.
I was told I could try when I was ready. That asked me to wait one month so they could accurately date the next pregnancy xx

Skl2021 · 18/10/2021 17:24

@Nats7504 I just need to get through these next few weeks 🤞😩 I'm absolutely terrified now. Yes I have oh here and my boys. Trying to take my mind off it with some Halloween decorations need to try and keep it normalish for them 💙 xx

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Nats7504 · 18/10/2021 17:14

@Skl2021 I know lovely, we always believe when hope it happens to someone else. I’m so gutted for you and been thinking of you all today. 💔 I hope things happen for you soon so you can start to think of how to move on from this. I hope your OH is at home with you giving you lots of cuddles, it’s a horrible time for you both xx

Skl2021 · 18/10/2021 16:41

@Nikkic2123 yes I just want to be able to move on don't want to drag it out it's hard enough. I was going to ask if your meant to wait to try or if u need to wait for period. I'm still in two minds whether I want to ATM. Maybe the stopping of the opks might be helpful for you sometimes It can be stressful testing xx

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Nikkic2123 · 18/10/2021 16:02

[quote Skl2021]@Nikkic2123 thankyou. I hope it happens soon I just want it over with now. The waiting is horrible. Thanks for that picture we will get through this 💕 I hope you get your happy ever after soon 🤞 xx[/quote]
Some people need the time to process etc, I just wanted it over with too. I wanted to start again.
I’m still hoping for my rainbow 🌈 baby, I’m on cycle 5.
Trying every month, this month I’m not opk testing.
I’m sorry again x