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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Secondary infertility. Anyone?

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Angie887 · 19/07/2021 07:28

Is anyone here going through secondary infertility? Some days I feel like giving up 😢. 6 months trying, a fibroid resection surgery and still nothing 😢

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Mattieandmummy · 19/07/2021 20:59

I miscarried in January and also feel like that was our last chance, even more bitter a pill as I massively freaked out when I realised. My DD had a very traumatic birth and I think I was just frightened of that happening again. Now I feel like I'm so stressed about it never happening again it definitely won't.

Have to say this is not where I thought we'd be.

user1489320949 · 19/07/2021 20:39

I have a 3 year old DS. Not used protection since he was born. Finally got pregnant in April this year and sadly miscarriaged, feel like that was our chance and it will never happen again! Also currently on period so feeling extra sad about it all, super guilty for my DS that we can't give him a sibling!

Mattieandmummy · 19/07/2021 20:14

Just to say this, this and all this. It's beyond sh*t it really is.

Jellyfish7 · 19/07/2021 19:54

I feel your pain 🫂 Same here, we’d love to give our 4 year old daughter a sibling, I’m dreading the question about why she hasnt got one 🙁 I feel so many emotions about it all, angry, sad, anxious, even jealous when I look at friends who appear to have had a second so easily. Ivf is our only option now but I can only take so many negative results, crushes me every time.

MrsRosaline · 19/07/2021 14:03

Yes I'm the same. I know exactly when I ovulated and timed everything perfectly. I don't understand why it's not happening!

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Angie887 · 19/07/2021 09:24

@MrsRosaline I can feel your pain. Af arrived yesterday and that really got me down too. It's so tough when you know you can get pregnant and do everything as you should, track ovulation and dtd every day and still get a negative. I'm trying to find reasons but can't find any.
Have you had any fertility investigation done?

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MrsRosaline · 19/07/2021 09:11

Morning @Angie887. I had my DD four years ago and we have been trying for another for ages. I feel like time is running out and soon the age gap will be too big, and my DH will be too old (he's 44) so we'll have to stop. Feeling very sad this morning as my period arrived 😣