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Secondary infertility. Anyone?

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Angie887 · 19/07/2021 07:28

Is anyone here going through secondary infertility? Some days I feel like giving up 😢. 6 months trying, a fibroid resection surgery and still nothing 😢

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Kiki1703 · 11/05/2024 08:28

Hi all - just wondering if you found out you could get pregnant but your eldest was already ten years old - would you go for it?

Loz2467 · 04/12/2022 21:24

@Angie887 Thanks so much for replying! :) gentle congrats on your latest transfer and wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months!

This is what I’m thinking. I have to give it a try. I don’t want to turn around and ever regret not trying IVF but I think I want to kind of put a limit on it but we will see how we get on. I just didn’t know if to have a laproscopy first but given my age - nearly 37 maybe I should go straight to IVF. I’m just worried incase the brown spotting is endo with no other symptoms.

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Angie887 · 03/12/2022 14:59

Hi @Loz2467
I'm so sorry about your loss.

I started IVF beginning of the year after trying naturally for years without any success. First transfer I got pregnant but it ended in a miscarriage, second and third transfer failed. Our fourth transfer is positive. It still early days but I'm praying this little one stay with us.
I actually felt that IVF took a huge weight off my shoulders as I know they are taking care of everything. I don't have to worry about tracking ovulation and timing baby dance.

If you're Spotting when on progesterone maybe you're not getting enough. But the only way to find that out is by having blood test.

Good luck 🌈

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Loz2467 · 01/12/2022 20:53

Hi ladies,

Im just wondering how you all got on?

im 36 and conceived my 3 year old DS on the first cycle trying. When he was 15 months old we started trying for a sibling and got pregnant that month. We lost her at 18 weeks in feb 2021 and I haven’t managed to get pregnant since!!! I’ve tried clomid: a hyterscopy: and nothing has worked! Oh and cyclogest after ovulation as I’ve ended up with spotting for a whole week before my period. Most people start the cyclogest. It stops the spotting and they get pregnant but not for me.

Im starting IVF In the new year but I feel worried.

MrsRosaline · 29/10/2022 23:49

Congratulations @user1489320949. Always lovely to hear there's some hope.

I fell pregnant twice since the thread, but both ended in miscarriages. The doctor thinks it's to do with blood clots.

GingerFox2021 · 29/10/2022 17:14

TTC number 2 with gaps over 2 years now..

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Angie887 · 29/10/2022 15:29

I don't have a positive story yet but I'm still trying to keep a positive mind frame and hopeful that it'll happen soon ❤.
I'm unexplained secondary infertility and I haven't managed to fall pregnant naturally so I resorted to IVF last March. I was very blessed to end up with 7 lovely embryos. First transfer I got pregnant but miscarriage at 6 weeks. Second transfer failed and just had third transfer last week which unfortunately failed again. I'm hoping to have another transfer this year. Praying for a Christmas miracle 🥰.

Good luck to those still trying and congratulations to those who have already been blessed ❤

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user1489320949 · 29/10/2022 15:17

I did! Currently holding my beautiful 6 week old baby boy in my arms. 4.5 years between him and his brother who was concieved with clomid due to my pcos. Never used any birth control after the birth of my oldest boy. Sadly had a miscarriage in may last year and finally fell pregnant again january of this year naturally. It can happen although its a heartbreaking journey and feels impossible at the time xx

Chloecloverxx · 29/10/2022 12:06

Hey did anyone on this thread ever overcome secondary infertility? Be nice to hear some positive stories:)

Summer0101 · 27/11/2021 20:27

Hi there,
My daughter is 3 and we’ve been trying to conceive for 21 months. I haven’t fallen pregnant again during that whole time but I feel pregnant first time of trying with my daughter. I’m 41 now…almost 42 and starting to give up hope. We have been to a fertility clinic and no clear reasons for secondary infertility which makes it hard. I had a few adhesions which were removed but other than that, we are both fine. It breaks my heart watching my daughter playing. She came out from nursery the other day and her key worker said “congratulations we hear you’re having another baby” as my daughter had been telling everyone that she was having a brother or sister :( how I didn’t cry there and then I don’t know. It’s so hard and not having a clear reason to point to other than my age as I just don’t really understand why this is happening. Just wanted to send love and hugs to you all who are on the same journey xx

greendress789 · 30/07/2021 17:44

I'm sorry @Jellyfish7 😢. I agree there should be a club for only children to meet up!

Jellyfish7 · 26/07/2021 01:54

@greendress789 I totally feel your pain, it’s so tough and consumes you. I worry it’s taking over the time I spend with our dd as always lurking in the background. I can’t plan much because of the days I might need to be free for my next scan/transfer, only to get another negative result. We’ve kept loads of baby stuff in the hope we might have another. Desperately need this chapter to be closed soon so we don’t live in limbo anymore. I just dread it’s not the ending we want. I feel teary a lot of the time and think it’s depression creeping in, god I’m so sick of it.

cupcakesandglitter · 25/07/2021 22:11

Thankyou @Angie887 I really hope so 😓

Oh @greendress789 so sorry ☹️ can't imagine how tough it is

greendress789 · 25/07/2021 22:08

5 years trying for baby number 2 here with multiple IVF failures. It's really shit.

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Angie887 · 23/07/2021 21:25

@EmbarrassingMama Thanks for sharing your story ❤️. Congratulations

@cupcakesandglitter it'll eventually work out ❤️. Just keep going and your time will come. My Fertility doctor said a positive mindset can do wonders so let's have faith. We'll have our little miracle in our arms in no time ❤️

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cupcakesandglitter · 23/07/2021 19:36

@EmbarrassingMama that's amazing, congratulations ❤️

cupcakesandglitter · 23/07/2021 19:36

Loving the success stories here too, it does give me hope. Like you @Angie887 I think I want to keep going until it happens but equally don't know how many more mc I can cope with along the way

EmbarrassingMama · 23/07/2021 13:10

We tried for 13 months for our second before being referred for IVF for scaring and adhesions in my tubes. In that time I fell pregnant with an ectopic.

Two weeks before IVF was due to start I got my BFP. It can happen, so don't give up hope! I truly know how heartbreaking it is though.

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Angie887 · 23/07/2021 13:02

@BabyMoonPie love Reading the successful stories ❤️. I had all investigations done and they can't find anything wrong with me. So the fertility doctor said if I keep trying naturally I have 50% chances and if I try IVF I only have 35% chances. Like you I'll keep trying until successful even if it takes years. Hopefully it happens sooner rather than later

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Angie887 · 23/07/2021 12:56

@Callisto1 I can relate with that. I'm so obsessed with ovulation and trying to find out if there's anything wrong with my fertility that I'm becoming a bit paranoid 😂. Glad you're successful in the end. ❤️ It gives me hope ❤️

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Angie887 · 23/07/2021 12:52

I wouldn't be worried about age gap. My 2 children have a 5 years age gap and although they've always been at different stages they get along well most of the time. It was so much easier for me as a single mum bringing them up as the older one would help me a little with the younger one. Now they're 20 and 15 years old and I'm ttc again. They're very excited about the possibility of getting a new sibling.

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Jellyfish7 · 21/07/2021 18:18

@Callisto1 sorry to hear you went through such an awful time, great to know it turned out so well in the end. Also good to hear re the age gap.

Callisto1 · 21/07/2021 11:35

I never knew that secondary infertility was a thing until we experienced it.
My first pregnancy happened fast and when our DC was a bit over 2 we started to try for a sibling. I got pregnant soon after but miscarried just before my 12 week scan. It was rough.

It took over a year to get pregnant again and at the end I was a obsessed with cycle length and ovulation. DH wanted to end all the madness but I resisted and we have our lovely DC2. The age gaps is 5 years rather than the 3 we wanted but it has worked out ok. The kids get on and play now the younger one is over 2.

Good luck to everyone in this difficult situation and I hope it works out well for you. Flowers

MrsRosaline · 21/07/2021 10:09

You are right @whistlers but watching her playing like that exacerbates my own sadness that I haven't been able to conceive another yet.

BabyMoonPie · 21/07/2021 09:27

It took 27 months for us to conceive our second. I'm 41 and 19 weeks pregnant. Had the usual tests at the GP and nothing showed up so we just kept trying. I don't know if it was the difference or coincidence but the month I fell was the first we used a fertilily. Wishing you luck, it's a tough thing to deal with

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