TTC #2

Hi everyone,

I hope you are all good.

@coles85 I hope your LO is feeling better?

Well, I said I wasn't going to use opks....but I caved. The day before y'day, I had signs of ov but it was way too early compared to the last few months, but I did one anyway and it showed that I was near peak! did 2 more abit later just to make sure it wasn't a dud, and the line got darker each time!

We had dtd the day before and on the same day I tested before I knew I was near ovualtion, so I feel ok about timings etc. I just don't know what is going on with my cycle really!

Did anyone else find that their cycles were abit all over the place post birth? or if still bf?

@MamaSJ15 it's so interesting isn't it, trying to read what your body is telling you. I was the same this month, thought I had ovulated and then had symptoms a couple of days later and was like "oh...maybe it's now". If you can manage it you should try and DTD just in case!

I took one of the CB digital number of weeks tests today and it says 3+ but was only at 1-2 weeks just over a week ago, so I'm keen to trace back and find out when I ovulated - was it in line with the app or when I thought I felt it.

@darcey87 good to know where you stand with the cycle! 26 days is great, not too long to wait too!

First time round we told a select few from my family early because we had a big family occasion that I wouldn't have been able to avoid drinking at without rousing suspicion. It made it easier when they could hand me my "gin and tonic" without anyone realising it was just tonic. Although a drunk family friend did comment (when my sister removed a shot from my hand that said friend had handed me) that it was probably best I didn't do the shot because I'd had enough already and was too drunk she was shocked to later find out I was stone cold sober haha!

This time I'll be waiting til 12 weeks once I've had my scan because I don't have any major occasions coming up. I feel like, if the worst happened I'd rather deal with it in private.

Hello all! Well AF came today which is a relief because I just want to get on with cycle 2! That makes my July cycle 26 days so I definitely need to start taking ov tests earlier this month, probably from CD7.

Good luck to you this month @MamaSJ15! It only needs once to make a baby.

@SLT90 so lovely when TTC brings you closer, I definitely feel that with DH. It's like a shared secret plan. Plus also lots of sex!

@coles85 last time I had dinner with my sister at 5+6 and cracked and told her, and then obviously had to tell the rest of close family. I will probably try and wait til after a (private) 8-week scan when I'm pregnant a second time, but some of my friends will be told sooner as they know we are TTC, will ask and I don't mind them knowing. I've supported them through early losses and know they'd do the same, when I wouldn't necessarily want my lovely but gossipy family to know.

My SIL was pregnant at Christmas and would have some wine in her glass but just never drank it and no one twigged. I think generally people pay less attention than we think!

@coles85 thankfully covid has limited all our social engagements right? 🤣🤣 silver linings!

I had to go to a wedding when I was 11 weeks pregnant and I just avoided getting into drinks rounds and got my husband to buy me tonics without the gin! He asked the barman to put it in a big G&T glass so no one was any the wiser 👍 although i was so bloated I was certain people would guess!!!!

@coles85 a massive mood killer!!!! We never have enough energy 🙈

Yes, I thought I was away, but I got the dates wrong!!! I'm actually away the week after predicted ovulation (phew!) but I feel like I may ovulate a bit sooner than predicted anyway. My cycles are still all over the place!

I've only used OPKs last cycle for the first time in preparationfor starting TTC again this cycle. Didn't use them for TTC DS, but wanted to try them this time because my cycles still aren't back to regular and I'm bf still so I wasn't sure if I would get a peak! So far they've been useful because if I had just used the app predictions for fertile last cycle then I would have missed ovulation!!

@SLT90 the toddler madness is a real libido killer isn't it

Did you say you were away on holidays during your ovulation this month? Or was that last month?

I'm now in the fun period of seeing what we have on between now and my scan so I can figure out what lies to tell to avoid drinking.

Do you find the OPKs helpful?

@coles85 CD 11 here and at the in laws this weekend so I haven't been doing opks yet this cycle. Will try and start them tomorrow and see what's happening! Premom doesn't predict OV until CD23 but last month the OPKs did shift the predicted date earlier so will see what happens! On Fri we DTD unprotected for the first time this time round and I think it's brought DH and I really close again after months of wading through toddler madness! Plenty more of that ahead 🤣

Good luck for your day tomorrow!!! That sounds exhausting, hope he gets better soon!

How are you all doing? Anyone testing this weekend?

My DC has been unwell all weekend so looking like a day of WFH tomorrow and juggling childcare...joyful

Hope everyone is well and for anyone ovulating hope you're having fun!!!

@coles85 yay definitely stay! I didn't have any symptoms at all first time round. If e weren't actually TTC it would have taken me a while to realise (except for being late, obv). I never had any nausea or anything. I did carpal tunnel a bit later on (and a bump obv!) but I was very lucky in my first pregnancy. Curious how another one might/will go!! 🤞🏻

Morning everyone,
I'm just catching up on the thread.
I hope everyone is feeling OK?

I'm CD20, my fertile window starts in a day or 2. It's abit annoying having such long cycles, I wish they were back to 28 days like they used to be!
I have a short luteul phase too, its about 9/10 days so I've been taking taking vit B6 and vit C to try and lengthen it slightly.

I'm still bf my nearly 2 year old, I'm certain that is why my cycles have changed and are alot longer.
This will be month 2 of ttc. We are trying to take a relaxed approach at the moment. I started using opks for the 1st time last month but have decided not to use them going forward we, I find it more stressful, although it was good to see when I got to peak ovulation as it was on CD 28! We are just going to dtd alot and see what happens.

Good luck everyone x

Thanks everyone! 

@MamaSJ15 I'm feeling fine, thank you. Other than a little bit tired I've got no symptoms at all. I was the same last time too so not looking into it too much. Well done on not checking the app and keeping your cool. I bet it's making things much more enjoyable!

@darcey87 if you DTD on the 18th but ovulated on the 19th or 20th it still doesn't mean your out! They say up to 5 days it can last!

We DTD every other day but then on a couple of occasions we had 2 days in a row (because of my long cycle I had no idea when my fertile window was so I just assumed it was over a 2 week period which is why we didn't do it every day haha!)

The seven seas ones I found that they have improved my cycle - I have a slightly longer luteal phase when taking them, from about 12/13 days to more like 14/15. 27/8 day cycles vs 25/26.

Glad you're still having a relaxed cycle @MamaSJ15, and that your DD is on the mend!

You're very welcome to stay on @coles85!

I haven't tested this morning, and I don't really feel inclined to. I think we may have stopped DTD too early and I ovulated slightly later than I thought - possibly on 19th or even 20th rather than 18th. We last DTD on evening of 18th. I think I'm going to just wait and see when AF arrives now.

Next month would be a great month to be trying as I'm going on holiday a couple of days after my fertile window ends and could test the day after we get back - just 2 days before AF so would get an accurate result. Avoid this 10 days of madness!

Do you all DTD every other day or just as often as poss during fertile window? Every other day is fine for DH and he will do twice in a row once in the cycle but he's not up for more frequently than that - he works really long hours in a stressful job and I think it's a lot of pressure. Is that enough to get pregnant? I guess it was last time, but I'm 3.5 years older now.

Thanks @MamaSJ15, that’s what I’m hoping for, that they don’t necessarily help with conception, but they’re in my system to help support healthy growth when it happens.xx

@coles85 more than happy for you to stay on this chat! It’s lovely to hear about your journey and so pleased for you and your bfp!xx

@Dollface20 I think you're doing the right thing for your own health. Good on you. Lots of people should take your lead and have a social media break. Hope you're ok and I'll look forward to seeing you back online in the future.

For everyone else, I feel like I should move on from the chat because I don't want to trigger anyone who hasn't gotten their BFP...But equally I'd love to support everyone through TTC #2 and hopefully all your BFPs! I also joined another thread for March/April due dates but there's a lot of first time mum chat that just isn't where I'm at (oh god, I'm one of the people I hated as a first time mum!!)

Would it be ok to hang around? I promise not to take over with pregnancy chat!

Take care of yourself @Dollface20 and (this isn't meant to be patronising) well done for making choices that are good for your mental health

Wow @Josephine2021 that was an epic cycle, how frustrating for you. Our bodies are strange beasts at times. Let's hope this next cycle is a shorter one 🤞

Big fingers crossed too for all you lovely ladies who are in the TWW...there's still time to get a BFP!!!