TTC #2

I'm inclined to try again but we'll see if DH is up for it. I mentioned I would like to DTD again tonight, but left it up to him. Sperm does live for a little while and although I'm still getting the fertile CM I believe I felt ovulation on Sunday evening and had the most fertile CM on Friday. Maybe it's a pregnancy symptom rather than 'still fertile' symptom 🙈😂

My friend and her DP have sex every night for a week over her fertile window. I think I might just do that from CD8 to CD16 next month if I don't get lucky this month. All this testing and calculating is a bit of a headf*.

How is everyone today? What are our CDs/DPOs? Anyone due to test this week?

@darcey87 it's so hard to know whether to just do it again or not. If it were me I'd probably try and go again today if possible. But it's exhausting (especially in this heat).

However it also sounds like you should already have a few swimmers ready and waiting so...if you cba today then I'm guessing it might not make too much difference?

Oh that's good @MamaSJ15 nice to get it sooner and when it's convenient.

I am CV so had mine in the spring and the clinics weren't very convenient so it's great they are doing more in the community now, so much easier when you can just pop in.

So TTC-wise I'm confused! I'm still getting EWCM even though I got my first positive ov test on Saturday evening so would have expected to ov before now. I DTD Friday, Sunday, yesterday and was planning to go again tomorrow but should I go today/tonight as well? Most copious CM was Friday but it's still definitely there. I originally expected to ov today as it's CD14 and my last two cycles have been 28 days.

I don't want to miss an opportunity. I am also tired and it is hot.

@darcey87 tbh I have no idea. I've been on the pill since my late teens - came off to TTC #1 in my 30s and conceived before I had my first period, then went right back on the pill after giving birth. So I have no clue what a "normal" cycle is for me, which is annoying.

I decided this time round to come off the pill a couple of months before trying - more so out of laziness because I ran out and knew we wanted to try soon anyway. Those two cycles have been on the long side, but I hear that can be normal after coming off the pill?

Adds an extra layer of mystery and excitement () to the process haha!

@coles85 if you can wait until after the weekend then you'll probably be more confident of the result! A busy weekend is useful 👍

Have your cycles always been longer? Mine have always been shorter side of normal 25/26 and I have moaned about having too many periods but long can also be annoying too it seems.

Ah that's rubbish @MamaSJ15 I hope LO feels better soon! I've not had to do drops in a while but upside down a bit seems like a good shout.

Glad you're feeling calm about your next cycle, it's hard not to feel quite obsessed with it all! I remember last time I was working in the office and also super busy socially/with life whereas now wfh in a quiet work period, ugh.

Like you no way I could BBT chart with a 2yo who still wakes at night 😂

@MamaSJ15 the drops are a challenge aren't they? I've always just gone with one of us holding her (like you'd cradle a baby, and usually my DP because he's bigger and stronger than me) and then tipping her backwards so she's reclined head down, then I do the drops into her eyes - usually more than is recommend because I just go for it and hope that something gets in there! Gravity helps. The first eye is usually ok, the second is harder coz the know it's coming
Bathing with warm salty water is pretty good too and much more soothing for them than assault by eye drop haha!

@MamaSJ15 oh no! Hope your little one is on the mend soon. Mine has also been ill (cough/cold) and it's so much hard work when they're not feeling themselves!

@darcey87 absolutely! It's so funny how much I worried about accidentally getting pregnant when I was younger - I had no idea how hard it can technically be. Although I'm still in my first month of trying so I've got a cheek to moan 😂

I also find the stories fascinating about people just about to start ivf or who've just adopted a baby and then fall pregnant! Just shows you how stressing about it can be counterproductive...but I'm exactly like you - if I set my mind on something I want it actioned immediately.

I've just assumed the internet tests won't be as sensitive as a FRER. Tbh I got a result using the cheap ones last time round, but from memory I think I must've been about 14 DPO then. We've got a busy weekend this week so I'm hoping the distraction will stop me from thinking about it and I'll test next week! If my cycles are going to remain this effing long it's going to be one hell of a wait for my next chance

Isn't it funny @coles85 that some people get pregnant accidentally from one-time sex and yet here we are, plugging away with our pee sticks and CM I'm very much once I've made a decision I want an action though, and since the actual reality of TTC is you can't guarantee an outcome then sticks and tracking are my action!

Would you get a FRER and test on 11DPO? I think I tested at 12DPO with my last pregnancy and got a good positive, are cheapies much less sensitive?

Already symptom spotting like a lunatic! Every month I get sore boobs after I ovulate, almost immediately, and they are a bit tender today for the first time since before AF. As usual. Trying to read something extra into it this month though! Ugh...

I think being in tune can be a blessing and a curse. In some ways I'd rather have nothing to go on!

What I'm taking from this thread is that we're all just hoping for the best, but none of us have a clue when we're actually ovulating haha it's so hard to predict anything isn't it!? I've not been doing ovulation tests or anything, but based on my last two cycles which were 37 & 40 days I made some guesses. DTD lots and then when I thought my fertile period was over we stopped, then I had some CM that looked like what google told me indicated ovulation, so we did it again once more for good luck haha!
It's a total minefield!!!

The TWW is going to be loooooong. I think (based again on complete guesswork) I'm about 5DPO so still quite a while to wait until I can test. Only got internet cheapies so should really wait another 10 days at least, would you say?

I don't feel very in tune with my body, I'm so envious of those of you who can feel when you're ovulating. Even with my first pregnancy I didn't feel pregnant or noticed changes for quite a wee while. The positive test was a shock to me!

That's good about your period @MamaSJ15 - good luck for this cycle!

I think trusting your body is the better option really - I had loads of fertile CM on Saturday but because my ov test in the morning was effectively negative I didn't DTD that day. But I'm as confident as I can be that we've been having enough sex that if it's going to happen there's sperm there to make it happen!

Oh that's really interesting @MamaSJ15 how do you time things then? They are confusing! I think I have felt ovulation this evening and if so we've DTD twice today so there will definitely be some swimmers around, I hope!

That's good about your period, this heat is hard enough without having a heavy AF.

I feel this TWW may feel very long! Going to try not to test until 12DPO. Would you normally get a positive if you were pg at that point? It's been so long I can't remember!!

I think I may have messed up my ov testing this month. I started my CB ov tests a day later than it says and have had low fertility every day since - except this morning, which was suddenly peak!

I actually took a cheapie last night before bed as had lots of EWCM, and it was positive or extremely close to positive but DH was already asleep so we DTD this morning instead, and we had DTD on Friday afternoon too.

I think I might be having a shorter cycle this month but I may have missed the ov window. How long do sperm live? I think the egg gets released about 24h after the LH surge? so maybe I've caught it by DTD this morning. Feel I should've DTD yesterday though, but we were out all day and I wasn't expecting to ov until Tuesday!

@MamaSJ15 well AF showed up today so boo. Onto cycle 3.
I genuinely log my period etc in a fertility friend app but only so I’m aware when my period is due ish. Otherwise we’re trying to be fairly casual. But obv I want it to of happened like yesterday…hahaha! Standard women. No patience!
Fingers crossed for cycle 3!

So jealous of any one who doesn’t try. I have a friend who has 3 children. She always fell first cycle. I’m just like what! Lol. Stupid science.

FX for you all ladies xxx

Hi ladies

May I join?

TTC number 2 also. Got DD who is 3.

On cycle 2. 13 DPO today but got BFN yesterday. And cramping and spotting today so period is turning up any moment..boo.

Joining for next cycle :)

Have been pregnant twice before as below..

1st cycle - ended in mmc
6th cycle - ended in my DD :D