🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 7 🦕

@Annny27 well it was a day of spotting this month as af came in this morning bang on cd28. So currently riding the why is this so hard and it will never ever work again rollercoaster and why is it so easy for everyone else I know?! :( ah well. How you feeling? I was also wondering where @Babyghirl had got to!

@Miscarriage39 no not yet - she said it was a 6 week waiting list and I haven't even had a date through yet! That sounds chaotic. We changed gp because our last surgery was a bit like that and you got the 3rd degree from reception every time you called for an appointment! Our gp now are much better. Is that an option for you? So I'm on cd27 today- no idea which dpo as I never checked and deliberately ran out of opks and didn't replace but for the first month since the mc haven't spotted for 6 days pre af and was getting excited that it might finally have worked but then this morning had the tiniest amount of pale pink/Brown when I wiped so now I'm fed up again plus have had lots of on off cramping so guessing that's it 😟

I would definitely call your GP, if I were you MrsF111. Hopefully they’ll run some tests just to be sure everything is working as it should be.

Do you have a date for your ultrasound kiwi17? Thanks for your empathetic frustration. Our GP practice is falling apart. It used to operate over two sits, but they no longer practice from one and seem to have all the patients from both using the same number of doctor who used to work at the main hub.

Thanks for your positive story H0peing.

@kiwi17 glad to hear they listened and you actually got bloods and a scan. I’ll call on Monday I think 🤞

Oh @MrsF111 similar to me then. I would speak to your gp as I said to mine about spotting last month and immediately got internal exam, day 3 and 21 bloods and an ultrasound. Haven't had the US yet but everything else came back clear for me so probably just hormonal :(

@kiwi17 the last misscarraige was in March, period came back late April and since then I’ve spotted in the days leading up to my period, days 32/33 to 36 then period starts, they have been light since though. With my first misscarraige it took a couple of months for my periods to come back but then I was pregnant again after 3 cycles.

@H0peing I am thinking it might be time to call my GP, not sure if they will say anything other than everyone is different etc etc. So frustrating

@MrsF111 Very frustrating! Maybe you could get some advice from a GP? Xx

@Miscarriage39 That's terrible! I have a friend who was on the waiting list for recurrent miscarriages after 3 and she told me that the waiting list was about a year long, so she chose to continue trying whilst on the waiting list and had her Rainbow Baby before she would have even been seen!

She couldn't afford private treatment so she just took a prenatal vitamin with vitamin D and folic acid, walked more and tried to eat and drink as healthily as possible.

I know there's no magical one size fits all way to get there but I really hope that you get your Rainbow Baby soon! Xx

How frustrating @MrsF111- how many cycles has it been since your mc? I've had a few of those spotting at 7dpo and then not much more since mine I think it's still hormones in play..

Still a bfn this morning, think I’m going to have to assume the 4 days of spotting I had last week was actually a very light period. So on the plus side I had a 28 day cycle for the first time ever! But on the negative side it started 7 days after my positive opk and ovulation pains 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

@Miscarriage39 if they are guidance for best practice surely they should be aiming for best practise?! Ridiculous and I'm so annoyed for you. I know it just seems like a postcode lottery as to what you get and how you are treated which is really unfair! And that's a really long waiting list too... arghh. I know we have to be positive and keep hoping for our rainbows 🤞

kiwi17 I am so sorry that was said so nonchalantly to you! I have to say, I find NHS policies on IVF very strange and very unfair. I am sure, though, that you will get your rainbow baby.
On the NICE guidelines, apparently they are only guidelines for best practice and don’t need to be followed. She did point out, though, that the waiting list is currently around a year anyway, so not likely to be overly helpful.

@Miscarriage39 that's so rubbish and I'm so angry for you - what shocking treatment. And to sit there and say oh there are other worse off than you or in the same position is so unnecessary. I felt a bit the same when my gp said 'oh and you won't get any ivf on the nhs because you already have a child' which is fine and I don't think we would anyway but still minimises your own suffering and feelings. Can you put in a complaint higher up? If it's nice guidelines why aren't they following them?!

So, seven weeks after my blood test was ordered I have finally spoken to the doctor and……..the blood test was taken at the wrong point in my cycle!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This was the fourth locus to speak to me since my first miscarriage in March, and she has now advise I have day 3 and 21 bloods taken. That would be marvellous, but she has pointed out they cannot be done in my next cycle, and I’ll need to precook the blood tests by 3 weeks (ironically, the blood tests taken before were to look at irregular periods since my first miscarriage!). She has basically advised that after my next period I book an appointment four weeks later, then every week for the following six weeks. She thinks that as long as they get one done before I ovulate it’ll be fine. And that’s the best they can offer!). She also refused a referral to the recurrent miscarriage team, as although NICE guidelines suggest referral after 2 at 39, the local trust doesn’t my work to that. My husband sat in on the call and was really angry, but she just told us that there were lots of people in our position and that she doesn’t my know of anywhere in the country able to offer the bloods or referral as advised 😡😡😡😡😡😡

It’s so hard when all signs seem good, isn't it MrsF111? Really feeling for you at the moment.

Sorry you’re having to deal with more announcements PeanuttyButter and kiwi17. That proverbial kick in the guts is so painful when you are on this journey. Try not to push too much pressure on yourself around the wedding PeanuttyButter. Things can always be moved or amended. I would just aim for everything and hopefully it will all work.

@MrsF111 yea I feel so alone in real life, glad I have all you guys for company here.

In other news my bleeding has stopped. I really don't know what is going on but I've literally spent the night sobbing. I feel broken.

This thread is so amazing, I’m so sorry we have all found ourselves here but also so grateful to all you ladies I’ve never met 🤣🤣 so good to have somewhere to vent, and to have people who just get it

So another friend announced their pregnancy yesterday due in March and my first thought is 'wow imagine feeling that confident to announce now' but secondly how is it so easy for some people and so hard for all of us?! 😟

@PeanuttyButter I think if I was heavily pregnant I would just go ahead with a smaller wedding, we originally postponed our wedding in 2020 and decided to try for a baby instead, so to get to our second postponed date 2 years later without a baby is just really weighing on my mind and making me feel so down! Sorry your DH doesn’t get it, it’s just such an incredibly shit situation for us all to be in, feeling like a punch bag is a good analogy.

@H0peing thank you 😘

@babyghirl🤣🤣 You are so funny! Xx

@ELM7 Glad you told your husband! Have you had any help from a GP yet? I hope that you can enjoy the whole 9 months as much as possible. Xx

@HOpeing
After a few days I'm like can I get of this fucking horse yet 😂😂😂😂😂😂 oh nope the lessons aren't over yet llf xx

@PeanuttyButter Sorry AF came but it's good that you can move on and hopefully the next cycle will be the one! Xx

@miscarriage39 I hope the consultation is helpful. Let us know how it goes. Xx