🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 7 🦕

Hi all, feeling a bit better today after lots of crying. I spoke with my GP this morning who was super helpful. She has asked I do another test and will phone me back tomorrow. If the test is negative she assume it was an early mc and will refer me to a specialist to investigate.
Tiny positive I can take from this is I might get answers.
Thanks for the support xox

@PeanuttyButter Peak opk is good! Hope your scan is really helpful. Xx

@ELM7 How are you? I really hope that it's all going well! Xx

@EmiGoiko I had a MMC in May and ive been constantly crampy since then. When I'm due on the cramps are horrendous to the point I can't function but no bleeding. Got an internal scan on Tuesday morning so will let you know what they say.
Currently CD 11 and had a peak opk this afternoon which is early for me pre MMC so we will see, personally I don't think my body is ready yet.
Where's everyone else at the moment

@kiwi17 sorry for you loss. I know what you mean, my husband just puts it out of his mind. But easier I guess when it's not your body!

Glad to hear that you are having more tests. I don't know much about prolactin and what that means but it's good they are identifying a potential issue and taking it seriously. Hopefully it's nothing but best thing is to know!

@H0peing I'm nearly 36, I've also wondered if it is anything to do with getting older but then does seem to happen at all ages. It does sound like we have a similar experience. And I know lots of women in their 40s having babies so that's reassuring.

I don't have much experience with tests I'm afraid. Like you though, after the second one I pushed my gp for some standard blood tests and a physical exam. I'm on a referal waiting list for an ultrasound as I have been cramping on and off since April, not just on my period. But they haven't found any issue. I think the tests the gp can do are limited but at least rules some things out so @Spotsmama it's worth a try!

By the way has anyone else found they are tender and crampy in general months after miscarriage? I can't find anything online about it.

@EmiGoiko welcome and sorry for your losses. Your situation sounds a bit similar to mine in that my first pregnancy was uncomplicated with my now 5yo DS but I have had 4 early miscarriages (my 4th one was twins) in the last year (all before 12 weeks. The furthest along was one at around 8 weeks but they have usually happened at around 5 to 6 weeks). How old are you, if you don't mind sharing? I was 35 when I had my DS but didn't start trying for the 2nd child until I was 39 and I've recently turned 40 so my current problems could be largely due to my age, although I know that it unfortunately affects younger women too. I hope that you can get some help through your GP soon.

As other ladies have said, we will all get our Rainbow Babies. After what we have all been through, I am definitely hoping for lots of good news from all of us delivering healthy babies next year! Xx

@Spotsmama a warm welcome to the group. I hope that your conversation with a GP on Monday will be helpful. After my 2nd miscarriage, my GP was able to offer me a small amount of tests and an ultrasound examination, which ended up being an internal one because they couldn't see enough externally. Maybe your GP can offer you some tests straightaway. Please let us know how it goes. Xx

@Annny27 glad to hear that you had less spotting this time xxxx

Thanks everyone. Yes, it felt harder this time losing twins but, as we all know, any loss is extremely upsetting xx

I have an appointment with a gynaecologist on Tuesday at 3.10pm but I've just had a text to say that it's now a virtual appointment! Not sure why except they have recently examined me and said that my ovaries, uterus etc looked OK and my fibroid shouldn't be a problem due to it's small size and location so maybe they've physically examined me enough. Not sure. I've heard that they might offer me a laparoscopy to check for endometriosis but I'm a bit scared about having that. We want to keep trying again as soon as the bleeding stops anyway, unless they give me a good reason not to.

Does anyone have any advice about gynaecologist appointments? I've already had lots of tests but I will try asking for as many other tests as possible. Has anyone heard of any successful medication? Maybe I could ask for a prescription? Xx

Welcome @EmiGoiko! It's a horrid situation to be going through and I don't think it gets any less rubbish but at least we have each other to rant to! I don't think the men folk tend to understand quite how much it means to us and that we go through it all every second of every day because we are the ones experiencing all the physical stuff as well as the emotional side. Like I know my dh is gutted it's still not working for us but is able to think of other stuff whereas I seem to have a one track mind! I have a 3 DD who took 10 months of ttc but was straightforward pregnancy and birth and now ttc 2 but had a mc in march at 10 weeks and now struggling to get that bfp but recent blood tests said my prolactin was high so have another test in Sept to see if there is a problem there.

Hahah. My husband is so sick of hearing about it. He hates me talking about it now and says we should just be positive. But I'm obsessed - I just don't think he gets it.

Totally get the loss of control thing. I've been trying all sorts in an attempt to feel like I'm doing something. I'm doing acupuncture and taking supplements from tthe it starts with the egg plan.

I vent on here all the time, I don't even expect s reply most of the time but stops my poor DH hearing what I'm slowly starting to believe are the ramblings of a crazy lady haha
Just a continuous cycle of sadness, then hope, then stress of the fertile week, then anxiousness and the loss of control. Repeat.

@Emigoiko
Support on this thread is amazing would be lost without it, just come on and vent when u need to someone will always be there to answer you, we will get r rainbow babies soon 💚

Urrg double post! It told me my first one hadn't worked! 🤦‍♀️

Thank you! Wishing everyone on this thread luck, I'm sure we will all have our rainbow babies in the end.

@Babyghirl so sorry about your losses, crossing everything for you that this is your month. Seems like we are in the tww together! ❤

Thank you. I'm so glad I found this thread. It's so lovely seeing all the support on here. I'm sorry for what everyone has been though but hope we can all be lucky soon.

Im so sorry for your losses, I'll keep everything crossed this is your month. Xxxxx

@Emigoiko
So sorry you find yourself with us but glad you found us for support miscarriages r awful but take comfort that your body has done it and will do it again, I have had 4 miscarriages and 1 cp and ttc num 1 just ovulating yesterday or nw as I have the pain on my left side so going in to the dreaded tww good luck for this month great support on this group. Nothing is ever tmi by the way lol 💚

@Spotsmama so sorry to hear about your loss. It's so hard. I hope your gp is helpful.

@H0peing I'm so so sorry for your loss and what you are going through.

Hey guys mind if I join? I have had two miscarriages this year. One back in March which was a missed miscarriage for which I has the erpc. Then a natural miscarriage in April. I have one daughter who is three who was an uncomplicated pregnancy. With all three pregnancies we seem to get pregnant easily so far, but have lost both the last two at 5 to 6 weeks. We have just started to try again and are now 4 days DPO. I must admit I've really been struggling emotionally dealing with all of this and feeling quite anxious now in the two week wait. I can't shake the feeling there is something wrong with me. Anyway, be really nice to talk to some ladies who understand.

@spotsmama
You can say to doc how it's affecting you and can get referred because of it, don't give up my fear of giving up as nxt one could be successful over rides the fear of another loss, all us ladies will get there and it will be magical 💚

It seems wild they won't help until after 3, I was aware of that as a friend was in a similar position. She has two wonderful children now. I think I need more help with my mental health. After the last loss I was in a bad way. This has just pushed me back down that dark hole.
Sounds like you had a rough journey. TTC is hard, I want to give up because I can't take the heart ache but I know it's the only way of having my own baby.

@spotsmama
After 3 miscarriages you can go to your gp for a referral to the fertility clinic but be prepared as awful as it sounds but they don't alway count cp as a miscarriage my one was the very first loss but did not count it, I have had 4 miscarriages and 1 cp ttc num 1.

Yes, my last MC was in March at 12 weeks. I wish I had waited, trying for a baby and those two weeks wait for a period or to test are so hard! My mind can't focus on anything else. I am going to call my gp Monday and ask for support and help.
TTC and the grief is taking over my life.

@spotsmama
So read that wrong you started ttc again in june sounds like you had a cp that's why they advise to wait a few days late before testing. So sorry ur going through it 💚