🧙Witch day did I ovulate?!🧙

Sounds like there’s going to be a run on grapefruit juice in supermarkets next month then

That’s lovely @SkeletonSkins. I’ve told my best friend and also may have dropped a hint to my mum, but only in passing!

Morning all! I got my LH peak at 09:45 on Monday, so I’m pretty sure that means I ovulated yesterday (Tuesday).

However, thanks to a work trip, we were only able to DTD early on Monday morning, nothing since! I’m not going to see DH again until this evening.

So I’m guessing it’s going to be very unlikely this month?

@Peachycream I feel you 😂 we’re basically on the same cycle give or take a few days! Don’t leave me haha

Wow lots of action this morning!

Welcome @Emmaldo14 so sorry to hear about your miscarriage ❤️ I hope we can all offer some kind of support on your journey.

I’ve told a few close friends @SkeletonSkins but like you, opened up to a group of friends at the weekend. It was eye opening really. 1 took 12 months, another 4 months.. sounds like it’s honestly pot luck! But nice to know we’re all in the same boat.

I’ve been off the pill about a year now as I knew we wanted to have kids and I wanted to let my body have the break. I didnt track anything until the past few months though, so I can’t tell how quickly my body regulated, but I’m pretty sure I’m free from all hormones now!

Sorry to hear about the BFN @Eli707 when is AF due? Let us know how you get on with the preseed!

Welcome @Emmaldo14 so sorry to hear about your loss. Hopefully this group helps ❤️

Morning all!

Just catching up

@Eli707 I have been tempted by the pre-seed lube. I've heard really good things about it.

@Peachycream with regards to keeping the romance alive, we make a big effort during fertile week. I've seen a lot of people on here say they don't tell their DPs that it's fertile week so they don't put pressure on them but actually for me I find it helps. I tell DH when my 'good week' is in advance, and then we look forward to that week and make a big effort... lots of early nights, nice undies etc. We can get so busy and tired from work that if I don't tell him when my good time is then we can often miss it through working late etc.

@Peachycream yes I wonder about those ladies from times gone by too! Did you watch Bridgerton? Even being seen together in that without a chaperone was scandalous!

@SkeletonSkins I have told my mum, best friend and sister. But that's because I was on mental health medication and I wanted to come off of it before TTC. So basically I told them because I wanted some people close to me to keep an eye on my mood, how I'm coping etc.

I waited 8 long weeks for a bleed after coming off but settled into regular cycle straight away. Still think things are a bit off tho - very little EWCM and had an overwhelming hormone surge right before last AF which I haven't had since my teens - sobbed for about half an hour!

Ordered EPO and pre-seed this morning, just want to get AF out the way now.

@SkeletonSkins I've told one friend about TTC. Would probably tell others if they asked or it came up in conversation - think they'd be supportive. It's nice to have this group to be talk about things in far more detail tho where everyone's in the same boat

Hello ladies! Sorry I still read this chat so will keep sneaking in occasionally!! I definitely think contraception has something to do with it!

My nurse said the official guidance is 3 months ish, but she said if I had a rough idea in my head then try to give it a year. She was right too in fairness because I tracked my cycles for a while and it took more than 3 months for my cycle to regulate... but maybe that was just me!

@CocoLady sorry to hear AF arrived, fingers crossed for the next cycle for you!

@Peachycream totally agree the hormonal contraception has a big impact. I was on it for 12 years and came off in January and definitely noticed my hormones go mad. It has helped the sex drive issue though 😂

@Eli707 sorry about your BFN, you’re not out till you’re out though so I’ve got my fingers crossed for you!

No totally agree every day would be a bit much for us! Not sure I’ll be saying that once I’ve got my peak, so keen for this baby!

Also @80sPadme I found the book ‘getting pregnant with pcos’ by Claire Goodwin really good for diet/supplement etc advice. I lost 2 stone earlier this year and made it back into the healthy zone by cutting my sugar down, increasing my protein and swapping carbs to brown carbs. I could do with losing a touch more really but I kind of lost my mojo. It’s also really interesting to look at the different types of hormonal imbalances that can affect ovulation.

@Peachycream definitely think it's going to have an impact. Had been on birth control for about 19 years until January this year. I'm not sure my body has properly sorted itself out yet 😵‍💫

@Emmaldo14 - so sorry about your loss. That must have been heartbreaking that far on. Hope you're ok and find this group helpful.

@Peachycream my OH and I have been together for 16 years so before all this sex was dwindling a little anyway. Not becoming a burden just yet which is good. I feel lucky tho because we laugh a lot at some of the ridiculousness of it all. Especially once we get about 4 days in and we're knackered. He does start complaining by the end that his little fella is getting a bit sore and definitely takes a bit longer to get there.

BFN again for me today so I think I'm out. AF due Friday I think - def not today, temp still high. Think I need to try something different as next will be cycle 5. Might give pre-seed a go (it'll give us a laugh at least!) and EPO since others seem to have had success with those and I don't seem to be getting much EWCM

@SkeletonSkins yeah I totally agree far more likely to be 2dpo guessing my body tried to ovulate last week and didn’t. I completely agree with what you’re saying i have noticed this month (dtd 7 days out of 9) the days we dtd 3 days in row by day 3 it takes much longer for him to finish. We are not the sexiest of people at the best of times maybe once a week, sometimes once a fortnight normally 😂
He very much needs that emotional connection to enjoy sex and when you’re on like day 7 of 9 of dtd it’s really hard to find that everytime. We had a night of trying new positions or just ridiculous ones and honestly haven’t laughed so much in ages we are not cut out for that adventurous life 😂 did help us to relax though and feel connected.
I have considered temping and think I’m going to give it a go once this cycles over. Hopefully will give me a little more insight into what’s going on! How long has everyone been ttc?

Have you guys mentioned to anyone that you’re TTC? I wasn’t planning to, just my best friend knows, but it came out by accident to a group of friends today and I actually feel so much better for it. I’ve said it will take a while etc etc but it feels less of a big deal somehow now, like keeping it a secret was adding to the importance/pressure/stress. Also meant that another friend shared she is and another friend shared the difficulties she’d had, so it was actually a really lovely conversation.

@Peachycream this is genuinely a concern for me 😂 we’re normally a once/twice a week type of couple, at most really, so even every other day feels a lot more. This is TMI but I’ve also noticed that my OH is taking a little erm longer to do the deed so to speak, and I’m not sure if that’s just because it’s more frequent or pressure has an element. I’m trying not to tell him when is important as I want to try and keep it feeling vaguely spontaneous. This is another reason I’m hoping I do ovulate in the next few days as otherwise it feels a bit like all the sex is wasted a bit 😂 and I’m not sure he’ll be able to keep it up for several weeks lol.

@Emmaldo14 welcome to the group, it really is so lovely and supportive. So sorry to hear about your miscarriage and have everything crossed for you this cycle. I’d say more likely the be 2 days post ov as possibly your body had a go but didn’t quite manage it so tried again a few days later. I think it would be unlikely to get a positive opk post ovulation but could be wrong!! Have you considered temping? I take my temperature each morning and it tells me when I’ve ovulated or not, as I can sometimes get multiple fertile spikes in a cycle (I have PCOS).

I am in a much better place now. If nothing else it has 100% confirmed to us how much we want this 🥰 Yes I have had negative pregnancy tests since 2.5 weeks after the miscarriage we checked before we started trying again. We started trying straight after the negative pt I had a positive opk about 3 weeks after the miscarriage then my first ‘proper’ period on 10th June. We are trying to be super chill about ttc but I am sooooooo not chill about it 😂 so either way whether I’m 2dpo or 8dpo I’m in ttw now (hopefully) unless I still haven’t ov and my body decides to try for a hatrick 🙄

Hi everyone can I join? This is my first ever post 😬 ttc again following a miscarriage at 17 weeks and 3 days in May this year. This is our 2nd month ttc and currently on CD20. Possibly 8dpo or 2dpo we have been using Clearblue dual and I’ve had 2 static smileys one on CD11 and then another 6 days later 🤦‍♀️ Had the flashing smiley leading up to both and still have it now as I’ve continued to test with OPKs. Not holding out too much hope for this month as I imagine the crazy OPKs are due to my body trying to get back to some normality- it’s been 8 weeks since the miscarriage. AF should be due in around 10days. We have used preseed, and OPKs this month, anything else we can do to improve our chances? 🥰

@Aries491 the pesky egg 😂
I think I might have to down it in the morning, shot style to get it out the way!

@Peachycream abit of both 😂

I’m hoping they’d be proud of us taking control of the situation!

I thought the same @whatwonder however it’s so much more work lol! I prefer to keep ovulation to myself and not let him know so he doesn’t feel the pressure

@Jodalene thanks for replying!
I had a miscarriage a few months ago and this is only my 3rd cycle some were 28 days some more my app says I have an average of 30 days! So that's a great idea! I will start the dah after I stop bleeding thanks xx