Month 12, 6 DPO, fed up and loosing hope

@xoJellyBean I was going to say any chance you or OH can nip out first thing and get one but then I remembered nothing opens in NI on a Sunday till like 1pm lol. Otherwise maybe just get one tomorrow and test Monday if the Amazon ones aren't reliable? X

@Loops01 nah not even a hint. Last month didn't use it and actually didn't notice too much leakage, whereas when I have used it it's all sucked out with the cup next day. Also I live in a hard water area so it's gone a bit weird and chalky after several sterilisations and don't much fancy sticking it in anymore 😂 It's just mental though that someone can have success with it first time after trying for ages and the rest of us are like...🤔 x

I would've been tempted to test tomorrow after this but I've got no tests and I'm reading reviews for FRER off Amazon and they're not good 🤯 any suggestions to what I should order?

@suzy124 hopefully getting it next week 🤞🏻😊 something to look forward to if af shows lol x

@Loops01 I think I'm also on some threads with you 🥰

@suzy124 haha yeah I noticed you and @Amy259 who is on another thread with me (😘). Feel like it's been so long I recognise so many usernames haha.

I am still using it yeah. To be honest I've only really had 1 full month of using it religiously. Last month ovulation was quicker than expected and wasn't at home to use it. Will try more this month. With it. Still quite like it. Don't know if it's just because I feel like it's cleaner in the sense of it all doesn't leak out and be minging and it collects and I can empty. Silly I know! You not having much luck still either?

@xoJellyBean eeeek not meaning to get your hopes up but I'm excited for you! 🤞 nope never had any spotting, if ever I did then I'd know something was definitely up!

Nice! When are you getting the car? I'm sure it will be perfect 🥰 x

Hi @Loops01 I remember you from the fertilily thread. Are you still using it? You're in the right place for utterly fed-up ladies x

Arghh I have no tests!! 😱🤣 need to order some!

@xoJellyBean I vote test too! (And lovelyyyy car!) x

I am in the exact same boat. Completely lost all hope. SIL tried after us and now she's due very soon. It's sad to think that she'll have her baby before we even have a hint of a positive. There is not anything I haven't tried. Giving up this cycle. Cd12 and no rise at all just now. I'm sure it'll happen at some point but just fed up with it all. Really feel quite low. Even though we are all in the same boat the loneliness is like no other.

@HJen22 I'm Aberdeen too! Have you had your fertility appointment? I have mine at the end of next month. The first virtual appt. Everyone is like yay you'll get ivf (clearly don't know what infertility is and that ivf isn't always the answer). How long were you for scans and bloods? I have had a private scan that I paid for that showed everything (apart from tubes) were all fine. I ovulate every month (although still a bit messed up since covid vaccine 3/4 months ago). Any help regarding Aberdeen fertility would be great! Thanks!

@suzy124 I've had spotting but usually cramps and af arrives shortly after... I wish we could just KNOW what was going on with our bodies lol have you had spotting before?

Hmm a bit of both perhaps 🤣 he's been on them as long as me so maybe a break will do him good 😊 I'm going for a grey one 🥰 I really hope we can fill the boot with a pram🤞🏻 x

@xoJellyBean I vote test! Have you ever had spotting before AF? I never really test either but if I was late I defo would!

Yeah I'm gonna stop reminding my OH, just so sick of it. Do you mean the anxiety of him not taking it might be hindering things or the actual tablets themselves? lol
Oh nice car! What colour you going for? x

@suzy124 he's only takes them when I tell him to 🤣 I've stopped trying lol I was also worrying what if it's hindering things 🤷🏼‍♀️ I literally have no idea, I found testing messed with my mental health so I'm really reluctant 🙈 I don't even think I have any tests!! How's your weekend going? X

@Amy259 it's just been so long I can't cope with the bfns anymore🤣 I just always assume it won't happen! I have found myself a lovely A6😍 perfect for families... lol🤞🏻I'm glad shout friends are sensitive. Mine are not so much 🙈 I have a couple of friends with kids but they had them when I wasn't ready so it's not so bad. I have a family member currently pregnant by accident which absolutely killed me... I was right for weeks! All part of TTC isn't it 🙄

@Mommabear20 aww that's so encouraging thank you. Hope your pregnancy is going well 🥰

I've had some more brown spotting... guys please tell me what I should do 🙈 literally only when I go hoking for it 🤣 it hasn't reached my undies yet!

I've been in your position!
DH and I were trying for over a year (from our engagement) with no luck! We stopped trying and went back on birth control as I didn't want to be pregnant or having just given birth at our wedding. Wishing a month of us stopping trying, 4 couples announced their happy (but accidental) pregnancies. We were crushed.
We then fell pregnant on our wedding night and now have 2 beautiful babies (twins) and eagerly expecting our 3rd!

1st pregnancy was in the first month we started trying again, 2nd was the second month. We have absolutely no idea or reason why it hadn't happened in the year we were trying.

I know it's tough, but don't lose hope! 💕

@suzy124 my two closest friends don’t have babies, they’re like my sisters and are great with support but can’t really understand. One of them is going through a divorce (a year into marriage) and the other’s partner had cancer last year, so they’ve got a lot on too.

I’m 31 soon and DH is 32 and we’re the only ones of our married friends not pregnant or parents. It’s a lot! Yeah he takes wellman, when he remembers anyway 😂 he doesn’t mind taking them but does need prompting - it blows my mind because I’m so consumed by ttc I would never forget mine!

@Amy259 have you got your OH taking wellman too? How did he feel about it? Aw I'm sorry to hear so many of your friends have little ones, it makes seeing them so tough doesn't it but helps loads when they're understanding. Most of my friends popped out babies years ago but I didn't meet my partner till around that time, just feel so far behind 😕 x

@xoJellyBean wow! I can’t believe you haven’t tested yet - please get round here and give me some of your willpower/patience! By 8dpo I’m itching to test, even after all the months of bfns. Exciting that a new car is distracting you though, what have you got your eye on?
4 of my friends now have 1 year olds, plus one just had a newborn (along with her 16 month old). We were away last week with one set and their 13 month old and they know we’re trying and struggling, and were wonderful about it all - they obviously fell the first month they tried, but really acknowledge how lucky they are. A girl we know who got married two weeks after us has also now announced, which wasn’t the easiest. DH’s brother and his wife will be trying soon (if not already) and I’m dreading that one the most. What about you?

@suzy124 aww that must be so hard having to see/hear babies every day, that’s really tough. I’m sick of reminding DH about his vitamins too, but he’s getting better.. I think haha.

Happy weekend all! Just a note on the grapefruit juice, it has to say not from concentrate on it. I get mine from sainsbury's in a carton if that helps anyone, started drinking it last month but tbh didn't notice any difference in the amount of cm. But as some comfort I've seen loads of ladies on here worrying about not having ewcm and got pregnant anyway!

@HJen22 yep fingers well and truly crossed for us all! 🤞 Ah, thanks for checking about the coQ10. Tbh I've no idea what I'm doing but that was my thinking too - make them last longer before burning another hole in my pocket!

Sorry to hear you've been a bit worried about FSH, just try not to do any googling before your appointment in August when you can speak to them about it and know for sure. I am sure everything will be ok hun 💙x

@Amy259 It's truly unfair and I know how you feel. I've got neighbours either side of me with newborns (albeit not drug addicts) but just seeing them or hearing their baby cry is like torture. Easier said than done but just focus on yourself, my OH is always telling me to stop worrying about other people lol. Our time will come and this will all be behind us someday 💙

Well done for not buying more vitamins! Deep down I truly don't think that's what's got anyone pregnant. I'm also veggie so take omega 3 and snack on walnuts etc. Didn't notice any change with the raspberry leaf tea, it's supposed to help with period pain as well but for me it made no difference. Just drinking it to use up the bag really as I hate wasting things x

@xoJellyBean is your OH taking the vits? For my own sanity I think I'm gonna have to give up reminding mine to take his! Also things sound really promising for you! 🤞 When do you think you might test? x

@HJen22 I've heard so much about the follicle scans, would love to get one done to really know what's going on in there. Just got back from car shopping and I've defo my heart set on it so will see next week how it goes! I'm such a petrol head, had this car for 10 months lol I wish I could have mine for 10 years, that's really good going! 🤩 I'm 3 days late according to Femometer. Still nothing 🤞🏻 how you're enjoying the good weather today!!

@Amy259 it was due on Wednesday! I'm too scared to test. I got a tarot reading last year and she said my significant months was July so I am just so anxious 🤯 lol. Oh my, that's just so typical. I always wonder how drug addicts etc. get pregnant so easily... always the way😓 are there many pregnant ladies close to you?

Ohhh @xoJellyBean hopefully that’s a good sign! 🤞🏻 when is af due?

There’s a woman who lives a few streets away from us and is a well known trouble maker, wears an ankle tag and is always getting in bother with the police, she’s a drug user (and is on methadone) and alcoholic. I’m far from judgy, but the background is relevant for the next part… I’m out with the dogs and just walked by her and her newly protruding bump. She’s pregnant!

I’m honestly in a state of disbelief. I know it happens, but seeing it with my own eyes is brutal. Here we all are a year in, talking about whether or not we have enough vitamins 💔

@xoJellyBean I don't ever really notice much either! Maybe only a few times but def not every month!

I don't think it can be brought down, I think different pleases measure different but she did say it's a little high. I think that's what the internal scan will show, number of follicles!

Ooh car shopping that's exciting! We had thought about a new car to share and keep one of our other ones but going to hold off a bit, can't wait though, I've had the same car for over 10 years haha!

I really hope that is a good sign! How many days late are you now? Xxx

@Amy259 lol sorry posted that too early. That's helpful to know about the EPO, will defo give it a go. I don't always notice ewcm so assume I don't have much!

@HJen22 oh really?? Will they put you on anything to bring it down? I'm going car shopping today so that's a nice distraction 🤣

It weird though - had some brown spotting and then before bed I had some pink when I wiped! Nothing has reached the pad so I'm hoping this is a good sign 🤞🏻😓

@Amy259 it says 100% pure pressed juice? Hopefully it's right. I wasn't so keen on the taste at first but got used to it!

@xoJellyBean my cycles are quite short, normally around 26 days but can be anything from 24 to 28! I got a letter through today just with an overview of the call with the fertility Dr and it has my FSH on it. I knew she'd said it was a bit high but I didn't know the figure, but it says on the letter 10.6. Freaked myself out as it should be under 10 I think! I also feel like AF has gotten lighter the last few months. I hope I'm over thinking but I can't help but worry!

I'm sorry to hear that AF looks like it's on its way 😞 not out yet though! I hope you have some nice things planned over the weekend as a distraction Xxx

@HJen22 I’m not sure about the Tropicana one, sorry - I buy the Tesco one in a plastic bottle. It should tell you on it “not from concentrate” and make sure it’s pink grapefruit x

@xoJellyBean it’s to help increase ewcm, I normally get hardly any! Sorry to hear it looks like af is on the way 😔

@Amy259 I actually got some EPO recently but hadn't committed to it yet - what's it meant to be good for again??

@HJen22 seems to be moving quickly enough for you!! 🤞🏻 how long are your cycles? Apols if you've already said, this heat makes my brain useless 🙈

I've got some cramps and brown spotting, af will be here soon 🙄

@xoJellyBean my appointment is 19th August and I have a telephone call the day before I guess just to go over it! No DTD unprotected beforehand! I am hoping I ovulate after the appointment but will have to wait and see. Might just not be able to try that month! I was referred back in March, had the first initial call in June and then appointment August, so been about 6 months, could have been worse but also probably would have been quicker if not for covid!

@Amy259 oh that's good to know, i just started this cycle with EPO so will stick with it and hopefully notice a difference! Oh I'm not sure, I just got the Tropicana one, is that from concentrate? Which one do you have? xxx

@HJen22 so easy! Desperation will make me try anything 😂

I read EPO can cause uterine contractions so you should stop after ov? So I just do that.. I figure I don’t need cm after that anyway haha, then start again on CD1. I do the same, EPO and in fw add in pink grapefruit juice, and have done it for the last two cycles and noticed a big difference. I assume it has to be because of them! Are you drinking the fresh stuff rather than from concentrate? Xx