Month 12, 6 DPO, fed up and loosing hope

Morning everyone, hope everyone’s doing ok ❤️

Is today the day your telling DH@Amy259, how you feeling? , hope your DH interview goes well too!

@HopefulGlow decided to just have a really chilled weekend - didn’t get much of one last weekend as was working overtime so I just plan on sitting on the sofa watching films and online shopping/more Christmas planning. Do you have any plans?

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Also….Here are some cheesey positive quotes I found today 💕

@Amy259 don’t justify your feelings, we completely understand! I’m sure it sounds/feels to good to be true right now because of everything you’ve been through. So don’t worry, we know you’re grateful and will make the most of every moment once the stresses and worries are gone. 💕 I’m excited for you to tell you OH 💕 I’m sure it’s going to be an amazing moment.

Yes, great idea, I love the idea of backups! Apparently you can get biodegradable ones now too 😁

yes this is my first one! I’m a little nervous 😬 my OH will have his SA after I’ve had my scan, as his doctors wanted me to get checked first 🙄

@LA9610 I’m glad there’s nothing too worry about. We were saying apparently 98% get pregnant with in 2 years, crazy how this isn’t taught more.

oh really? Did your sister find it okay? Not too much faff?

Ooo yes! We will all have brown paper this year 🤎 I love it.

Good idea with not researching it too much. I find I feel better(ish) if I’m prepared. But it also makes me long for it too 😩

@AZ1992X CD8 means a nice chilled week. Any plans this weekend?

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@HopefulGlow I’ve done that a few times with the brown paper but try and find really nice ribbon/tags. I’ll have a browse see what I can find.

All fine here only CD8 so still have a while till ovulation. Don’t mind this part as there’s nothing I can do at this point and just getting ready for next week.

@Amy259 Its good works been a welcome distraction for you and kept you busy, I bet you cannot wait to tell DH.

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@Amy259 No we didn't manage as he has been away for over 2 weeks already so completely missed it :(
I think that was probably why I was particularly down last week as I knew we were completely out. But November is a new month and as he will be home from CD2-CD22 we have a really good shot!

@HopefulGlow Fingers crossed, I am sure they will come back fine to be honest, don't really have any reason to think otherwise!

Ahh you are so much like my sister, she did all of the things you have mentioned (aside from the at-home hypno birth as she had to have an emergency c-section first time).

I am going to adopt the brown paper this year too as trying to be a bit less wasteful! Haven't really thought too much about what i'd do with a baby though, I try not to really think about it as I have an obsessive personality and get fixated on things... so it's easier for me just to decide i'll start researching and thinking about it when it actually happens!

@HopefulGlow I really like the brown paper! I think I’ll do some brown, some white this year. With gold and red ribbon I think, maybe some tartan 😂

I like the idea of cloth nappies too, my friend uses them and just keeps disposables in the car as a back up, and when they go on holiday etc. And homemade food would be great too, again with maybe pouches for out and about etc.

Work has been busier today thankfully, yesterday was a really tough day for overthinking. I ended up just going to bed early to try and switch off, needed the dark test this morning tbh. I’m so not complaining because I know I’m lucky to even have these worries, it’s just hard so I’m glad I’ve had a busy day today and tomorrow is busy too. Then DH will know by tomorrow night so I’ll have someone to talk me off my crazy ledge haha.

Your scan has come around so quickly! Is this your first internal one? And remind me, has OH had his SA already? Xx

@LA9610 I’m the same! I keep tabs of things I find that I might need in the future, then forget about them and have thousands open haha

Sorry to hear about your OH going away, that must be so difficult. But glad you’re feeling better. Hopefully this can help you relax this cycle, knowing it’s a bit of time off from TTC.

Ooo fingers crossed for your bloods. I had mine back recently, just waiting for my scan now on Wednesday. Fingers crossed you get your results soon too and it’s all okay.

@Amy259 me too! I couldn’t believe the plastic that was in normal wrapping so happily swapped to brown. AND they look cute! Now my family wrap mine in eco paper too, which I do appreciate.

My OH frequently tells me I’m a hippy and laughs at some of the things I want to do when we have our little bundle.

• I want a hypno home birth too 😂
• Washable baby wipes
• I would love cloth nappies but I don’t know how much work that would be haha (I remember my mum having them for my LB)
• some handmade clothes and toys
• homemade baby food for weaning

I’m not sure about machines haha but we do give it a good shot haha which is even more frustrating come AF. But it’s all fun to practice haha they do say, it only takes one!! 🤞🏼

How are you feeling? I hope you are keeping busy!

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@AZ1992X I do the exact same I’m afraid, brown paper with ribbon - the hippy in me uses it because it’s recyclable whereas wrapping paper usually isn’t 😂 I also love the look of it, might do some in white paper this year too… and I write wee notes on it too.

@HopefulGlow yeah I mean lord knows we’ve all tried a million different methods, and every day is still way more than we ever manage 😂 multiple times a day!! You’re a machine, you and your OH haha.

@LA9610 glad you’re feeling better this week, it’s full of peaks and troughs isn’t it? Brilliant news that you got your progesterone bloods booked in - did your DH leave before your fw last week, or did you manage to dtd before he left?

@HopefulGlow - yeah the app is a bit useless isn't it, seems strange that you can't tag users. Using Browser on my Samsung phone stresses me out though, never figured out how to work it properly and always end up with a million tabs open!

Yeah I am good thanks, feeling a lot calmer and less emotional about all of this than I was last week thankfully. DH is offshore at the moment so literally nothing happening for me this cycle but he will be home for my next fertile window at the start of November so got my fingers-crossed for that. Also had a progesterone blood test today to see if I ovulated last week so shall hear the results of that by the end of the week I think! What about you?

@Amy259 that sounds lovely! A nice relaxed Christmas will do you some good.

Ooo yes! Definitely book a hotel and make a little Christmas trip of it 😍 that sounds perfect!!

I will send you photos once they’re finished. I wish I could be painting today instead of working haha 😂

I hit peak today, so thinking today or tomorrow I will O. We have done it once every day for the last few days. Last week was a little quiet for us and we barely did it 😂 let’s just say this month won’t be as crazy as last month. Even doing it multiple times a day over our FW didn’t make a difference. Who knows?!

@AZ1992X I’m really boring with wrapping paper! I use brown paper tied with red and white striped string 😂 I might throw in some foliage this year too, maybe some Holly? 🤔

How’s your cycle going AZ?

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@Amy259 haha, I know it really isn’t that far away is it, I’m defo doing some more this weekend. Hoping to find some really nice wrapping paper etc - anyone know any nice places?

Glad you’re feeling a little better today and the lines are getting darker, completely understand that and I’m sure you’ll start to feel much better as time goes on ❤️

That sounds great and that would be lovely to stay over and do all the Christmas markets!

@HopefulGlow that’s a good idea, I don’t want to watch my favourites as I’ll save them for nearer Christmas. They sound great - looking forward to seeing how they turn out.

Glad ovulation is here! Keeping my fingers crossed for you 🤞 xx.

@HopefulGlow yeah you’re so right! We are lucky in that I’m an only child so we got to spend it with my parents last year, and visited DH’s parents first thing in the morning, but I can’t wait for it to be more relaxed this year.

We’re going to see the Chris & Rosie Ramsay show on the 10th Dec so I’m thinking I might book a wee hotel for the night and spend the next day wandering the Christmas market before we head home 🥰

Snowflake glasses sound lovely! You’ll need to show us them when they’re done. And woohoo for ovulation! Right on schedule? Have you managed to fit some DTD in this week? Xx

@AZ1992X I like watching Rise of the guardians early, because it’s the only one that I think you can watch all year round as it has all the holidays in 😂 it’s technically for kids but it’s a great animation haha I always save home alone and Christmas carol for closer though 🙊 I’m excited to see which one you will watch!!

@Amy259 yaaaay!! I’m so glad we are spreading Christmas cheer haha I think we all deserve it this year. Last year was a nightmare, my family were still isolating so I spent most of Christmas Day alone as my OH was with his kids, then grandparents. (Looong story!) so I’m really looking forward to us all being together this year. Hopefully with a little announcement too 🥺🥰

Last night you guys inspired me to start some snowflake glasses for my Etsy 😍❄️

Apparently I’m ovulating today! Got a high yesterday on my LH but tbh I kept forgetting to do it 🤦🏼‍♀️ ✨💕✨

@HopefulGlow @AZ1992X I started my Christmas shopping list on my phone yesterday for husband, our parents etc. You pair got me right in the mood! Along with realising there are only two pay days left 😂

AZ I feel better thank you, got my darkest line yet this morning (obviously take a progression photo every day to compare 🙈) so I’m hoping all the cramping was just it burrowing in. Lines are much darker than the chemical now, so much so, but still so scared. Have in my head that I need to get to 8 weeks then I’m hoping I’ll calm down…

@HopefulGlow I think I will watch one this weekend whilst doing some online Christmas shopping 🎄⛄️ Just need to decide which one 🤷‍♀️

@Amy259 how are you feeling today? Xx.

@Amy259 a cosy weekend sounds perfect! In your favourite pj’s and a big tub of icecream 😍

Awwww Christmas cards seems like a lovely way to announce ✨💕✨

Thanks @AZ1992X I’m just a ball of anxiety 😂

@HopefulGlow thank you! I’m not 100% sure we will announce like online etc, but if all goes to plan I’ll definitely be telling our immediate family via Christmas cards.

Maybe I’ll watch one this weekend too… a cosy day on the sofa with some cheesy movies would be a dream! Xx

@AZ1992X I’m glad you appreciate my list 😂 I would like to say we can start watching them now?! Haha I’m going to start mid November I think. I will just have to do it in secret haha I think we deserve a nice long festive feeling 🎄🎅🏼

I love those festive films too! When will you start watching them? 😁

@LA9610 hi!! I found the app useless! I couldn’t tag or see what I was replying to once I started! So frustrating. How are you doing?

@Amy259 ohhhhh I’m so glad she made it feel more real 🥰 yes I’ve read lots of people get cramps, sometimes quite often. I completely understand your worry though! OH MY GOODNESS, I’ve just realised, you will most likely be announcing around Christmas 😭 adorable!!

Drawing anything is talented and let’s just make it even better 😂

I’m glad you like the list too, but some of them are awful but so cheesy 😂 I love it.

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@LA9610 Sorrento sounds amazing, that will be lovely! I use the browser on my phone also.

@Amy259 cramping is normal so try not to worry too much, easier said than done I imagine ❤️

Haha I’ve saved the list too and was thinking I might watch one this weekend - I just want a really relaxed weekend of watching films & maybe some online shopping. If I start now maybe I’ll get through a lot by Christmas 😂😂

@HopefulGlow she made it feel so real because she was talking me through what I can and can’t eat etc - it was so weird. But I’ve got some cramps tonight which I’m told is normal but it’s worrying me, I would rather some sickness please.

I only really draw pets haha, mainly dogs, with a cat or a horse here and there. Nothing too impressive, not like being generally crafty!

I’ll be saving that Christmas movie list 😂😂 @AZ1992X I’m ready now!! It can’t be that long until Christmas.. we’re actually probably behind! 😂

@LA9610 thank you ♥️
I use it in the browser but on my phone, not laptop xx

@Amy259 I honestly couldn't believe it when I came on just now to catch up on the chat and see your BFP! Congratulations, that's what I came to this forum for, to get some hope that this will eventually happen so don't feel any guilt over your good news!

How is everyone else doing?

@AZ1992X that's exciting you are going to Italy. We have just booked Sorrento for April but would love to do Florence, Milan and some of the lakes at some point in the future!

General question for everyone - do you tend to use Mumsnet on browser or the app? I only just discovered there was an app but I can't seem to tag people when I type a message so I am just checking on my laptop which is infrequent.

@HopefulGlow I agree with you I don’t think you can call that a Christmas film at all - defo wouldn’t make me feel festive at all. Your list is amazing, I’ve never even heard of some of them!! Ones to add to the list.

Oo good films - I really struggle I love them all 😂 but some of my top picks are The holiday, Love actually, Arthur Christmas & Polar express.

How early is acceptable to start watching them? 🙈

@Mouseyel I’m so sorry you’re struggling ❤️ You’ve defo joined a supportive little group here though so if you have any questions or just want someone to listen then we’re here for you!

I had to screen shot my list haha 😂 I’m so sad!!!

Amy259 I’m hoping this little one sticks too 💕 I can’t imagine how you’re feeling, but know you’re always welcome here. Don’t ever feel like you can’t talk with us.

Hopefully we will be right behind you with our BFP’s.

Wow! So crazy they managed to flush it too, I’m sure that helped!! I bet you can’t wait to tell her.

Ohhhh really? I wish I could draw! I do love making things, I always have. I like being creative but I hate it when I don’t do it right first time 😂

@AZ1992X haha we are very obsessed but there are worse things to be obsessed about 😂

I will see if I can attach my list here. Now there has been a large debate as to whether Die Hard is a Christmas film. Personally I say no, simply because I doubt feel warm and fuzzy afterwards. 😂

Home alone or Christmas Carol is one of my favourites 💕 what about you?

@Mouseyel it’s okay we are all going through this together 🥰 so sorry you’re struggling too. It’s so frustrating symptom spotting isn’t it 😩 that’s good news about all your tests being clear though, did they say what the next steps were. I have two lots of herbal supplements from the acupuncturist. I will find out what they’re called.

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Hi @Mouseyel we’ve been trying for 15 months too, with a chemical back in sept 2020 then nothing until now.

I get acupuncture too, and no herbs here. But mine isn’t traditional Chinese, she’s a western/ivf/fertility specialist so doesn’t do herbs 🤷🏼‍♀️

I had a private hycosy in September where the dr saw my right tube was dilated and blocking the dye from over flowing, so she pushed more dye through (agony) and it eventually spilled over. She was a bit rubbish afterwards about the explanation, but since talking to other doctors it seems that it could have been a mucus blockage that she dislodged with the dye. This next cycle I’ve got my bfp, and I’m praying it sticks and isn’t ectopic (I’m very worried about everything and anything), but I can only guess the blockage was a big problem. It was on my dominant side too, so the side I likely ovulate most from, but sperm and egg couldn’t meet. Have you had your referral for a hycosy yet?

The only other things I did different were that we dtd every 36 hrs (instead of every other day) and I humoured myself by eating pineapple core every day after ovulation - I’m so sure it’s rubbish, but coincidentally another girl here conceived the month she tried it so I went for it 😂 but I’m guessing it’s the HyCoSy that made the difference.

I hope that helps a bit and fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻 Xxx