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Month 12, 6 DPO, fed up and loosing hope

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fingerscrossed91 · 10/06/2021 12:41

Hi all,

I apologise in advance if this post is negative but I'm so so fed up with TTC. We have been trying for 12 months and haven't even had a hint of a line. My three best girlfriends (and soon to be bridesmaids) have all announced they are preggers this past month. Whilst I'm genuinely ecstatic for them I'm hurting so much as I don't believe it will ever happen for me.

I had to take a few days off work at the start of the week when the third told me they were preggers as I was just so overwhelmed and upset. A few days eating rubbish and watching Netflix made me feel a bit better but I have just lost hope that I will ever see a second pink line let alone have a baby.

I'm currently 6DPO and even though I know I won't be pregnant I'm still working myself up about it. I (stupidly) did a test today which was obv a BFN but it's like I can't help myself. It like a weird form of self torture!

I'd be so keen to talk to any hopeful mummas in a similar boat - let's keep everyone sain!

xxx

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Amy259 · 10/08/2021 22:14

@xoJellyBean enjoy your month of early ovulation!! 😂

I’m doing okay thank you, think I’m around 4dpo and not going too loopy just yet.. but give it time haha. I’d happily never temp again, mine never know what they’re doing either!

xoJellyBean · 10/08/2021 20:13

Evening ladies 🥰🥰

@HJen22 thank you. Hope your upcoming appointment goes ok! Please keep us posted❤️

@Amy259 doing ok thanks!! How are you? I think I'm 1dpo today! My chart is looking a bit crazy though🙈😂

Month 12, 6 DPO, fed up and loosing hope
Amy259 · 10/08/2021 19:43

Hi ladies!

@Loops01 I’ll leave checking in with you to just one thread 😂♥️

@suzy124 it’s like you’re in my head with that last comment - I’m way more chilled this month with no OPKs but still struggling/fed up at the same time. Where are you in your cycle now?

@HJen22 sorry to hear af came for you, hope you’re taking care of yourself and spoiling yourself a bit. Fingers crossed for your appointment next week, hope you’re not feeling too anxious about it?

@xoJellyBean how are you doing??

HJen22 · 10/08/2021 11:12

Hi ladies ❤️ how is everyone?

@xoJellyBean I'm so sorry for what you just went through, that must have been incredibly hard 😔 it sounds like you have the best attitude and yes, you'll get there ✨

My holiday was lovely thank you @suzy124 exactly what I needed, some time away with my family! Took my mind off things. So pretty sad that AF appeared yesterday 😢 even after no stressing or symptom spotting. No DTD now for us until after my appointment next week; I'm dreading the outcome more than the procedures. And the way it's landed my predicted ovulation is the day of the appointment so likely we'll miss this month all together. How are you doing? That's great the SA came back all good! And glad to hear you've for your telephone appointment through!

How is everyone else? Sending lots of luck and positive thoughts this month for you all 🥰🤞🏻 xxx

Loops01 · 10/08/2021 10:20

@suzy124 I'm with you. Nah given up after last month. Just using stuff up to finish things off then won't buy more. Don't see the point. Dh was away from 3 days before ov and ov so pretty sure I'm out. Due on Thurs. Don't think it'll ever happen naturally at this rate

suzy124 · 10/08/2021 09:56

@Loops01 feeling chilled this month, not been tracking anything and kind of accepted there's nothing I can do. But also struggling. Just sick to death of all the emotions around ttc, the heartbreak, the anger. Not to mention the dreams.

How are you doing? Still throwing everything at it this month?

Loops01 · 09/08/2021 20:28

@suzy124 I think the same thing about shorter cycles. How are you doing?

suzy124 · 07/08/2021 19:00

@xoJellyBean glad to hear you're doing well. I love early ovulation- shorter cycles! Yeah neither did I, I'm not sure every man has them but has me a bit worried. Got to stop googling x

xoJellyBean · 07/08/2021 18:55

@suzy124 thanks, I'm fine 🥰 although soooo weird but I got a peak opk yesterday and today, I'm CD12! This I has never happened me lol i usually have to wait until CD20ish! I'm glad your OH results were fine, I didn't even know there were anti-sperm antibodies 🤣🙈 x

suzy124 · 07/08/2021 18:30

Hi, hope you're ok after last month @xoJellyBean how are you doing? @HJen22 hope you had a lovely holiday. Your Hycosy must be coming up soon?

Pretty sure I'm past ovulation but we're still going... if anything it makes the 2ww shorter and more bearable. Got my partner's SA back, all normal though I was a bit disappointed with the morphology result. Have nothing to compare it to so could be fine. They mentioned his anti-sperm antibodies were raised but still within the limit, I was like great so you're trying to kill your own sperm then 🤦‍♀️ x

iwantadogdhdoesnt · 07/08/2021 15:22

Oh blimey I've just RTFT and can't delete my comment. I'm very happy for you 🙂

iwantadogdhdoesnt · 07/08/2021 15:18

It's so hard but please keep the faith. It took us 14m to conceive our first. You may want to get the ball rolling re testing (I conceived the month after a HSG) but otherwise it can just happen after that length of time

xoJellyBean · 07/08/2021 15:16

Hey ladies... how we all doing?! Thanks

Loops01 · 31/07/2021 14:15

It's a zoom call or something! Not pinning too many hopes on it because like above I don't think they will really do anything for a while.

suzy124 · 31/07/2021 13:59

@Loops01 weird they wanted that and not SA/bloods. My GP didn't mention rubella at all. Why can't everywhere be consistent. Is your first appointment a telephone call too?

Loops01 · 31/07/2021 11:28

Yeah I had to have it before they would refer me but then they didn't check levels. Honestly I think they make this stuff up lol. Everywhere seems to be different! We got SA and bloods done before referral too but I had to push for that

suzy124 · 31/07/2021 11:05

@Loops01 so you were told you had to get booster before appt? Guess I'll ring my GP Monday to clarify what I need to do

Loops01 · 31/07/2021 09:53

@suzy124 I have my appt end of August but I had to get my mmr booster. They didn't check levels but I remember a lot of folk my age didn't get the booster and I got mumps about 10 yrs ago. That month of booster you weren't meant to try due to it being a live vaccine. It was my covid vac month so it was delayed so we tried anyway. Not like anything works 😂

suzy124 · 31/07/2021 09:31

@Loops01 ugh that's gotta hurt not being able to get together at the right time. Glad to hear your cycles are getting back to normal tho. Yeah I thought I was gonna freak out not testing this month but genuinely now feel like it won't work anyway. Feeling chilled but depressed

Had a letter yesterday confirming my first fertility appointment in Sept, just a telephone call. It lists all the things we need to have had done before like bloods and SA but one of them is a rubella blood test?? Surely if you've had the MMR as a kid that's a bit pointless?

Loops01 · 30/07/2021 20:02

@suzy124 I get ya! I'm young to stop testing etc in cycles to come. This is my 2nd regular cycle since the covid vac so I'm going to test for another cycle or 2 then stop! Peak today so it'll be a 29 day cycle. Dh is away yesterday, today and tomo so it'll be another pointless cycle other than it becoming back to normal! Just become too much of a disappointment every month doesn't it!

suzy124 · 30/07/2021 19:31

@Lynne425 thank you, feel like I've given up somewhat as pinpointing Ov hasn't worked up to now

Oh those are really encouraging signs, 🤞 for tomorrow x

Loops01 · 30/07/2021 18:26

@xoJellyBean so sorry to hear of your loss! It appears that you're trying to focus on continuing which is good. You're doing well. So surprised to hear because your tests were looking great. Fingers crossed for you as you continue 😘

Lynne425 · 30/07/2021 18:06

Soo update from me - what I thought was AF this morning has been only spotting! Literally nothing in the pad I put in since 6am

However I have been soo bloated and very rumbling tummy and very gassy all day (sorry tmi) so don't know what to think!!

I didn't test this morning as well I thought I was out.... if I've had no more bleeding I'll test again tomorrow morning but it's all very strange today!xx

Lynne425 · 30/07/2021 09:57

@suzy124 good luck!!

Last December that's what I done and it worked for me (obv the pregnancy didn't but still got a BFP) just tried to relax and DTD ever other day xx

Lynne425 · 30/07/2021 09:56

@suzy124 yeah it's annoying but I think I knew it wasn't happening so kind of prepared myself for it!!

I've a wedding reception next weekend (first wedding since like Nov 2019) so be nice to go and have a drink with friends at least

I've called my gp this morning and first appointment I can get is 10th Aug but at least it's in the diary to see what options we have going forward!!xx