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TTC, Help! Feel like I’m trying everything!

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Mynameisunavailable · 03/06/2021 08:47

Hello everyone,

I’m a newbie! Mid-30s and TTC as got married later than intended. So AF came yesterday and I feel so deflated! It’s our third cycle (I know it can take longer) but I’m just really frustrated as it feels like we are trying everything:

  • DTD on the day of ovulation and two days following that and trying to every other day leading up to ovulation (pink ovulation tests)
  • DTD sorry TMI Blush orgasm before he comes
  • Basal temperature
  • Superseed lube
  • Multi - vitamins
  • Legs in the air after DTD. I know it’s only a myth but anything is worth a try!

Is there anything I’m missing? Or should be doing differently? Just feeling really low and hormonal with AF Hmm. Any tips would be much appreciated. Thank you in advance Smile

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Bundaberg84 · 03/06/2021 09:20

@Mynameisunavailable @EnjoyingTheSunshine don't stress too much about your age. Almost all my friends conceived with 36 or older and have perfectly happy, healthy kids. The whole journey is stressful enough, don't let the age factor stress you more. Yes, according to statistics it will get harder to get pregnant the older you are, but that doesn't mean your chances are getting low. Just lower. And many will get pregnant with 40 or older.

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Mynameisunavailable · 03/06/2021 09:15

@Bundaberg84 Thank you Smile. I think I’m being too hard on myself. Need me some baby dust magic Smile!

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EnjoyingTheSunshine · 03/06/2021 09:14

I'm in the same/similar boat. I'm 34 years old and we have a 10 month old, conceived in our first cycle.

We started ttc again at the beginning of this year due to my age and fell pregnant in February, which unfortunately ended in early miscarriage.

Since then nothing, we're just about to go into our sixth cycle ttc.

I'm also taking every vitamin under the sun (very expensive!) , put my legs up in the air, follow the SMEP. We will use preseed this cycle to see if it makes a difference and I'm contemplating using a mooncup to push the sperm up further.

It's so disheartening, especially when time isn't on our sides xx

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Mynameisunavailable · 03/06/2021 09:13

@PinkPlantCase I’ve been using the Clear Blue ovulation pink tests which only give the smiley faces. I’ve just ordered the digital advanced one as thought I’d give that a go too Wink! I’m trying anything and everything lol!

Do you suggest getting the kits that test LH levels too?

Would you suggest DTD every other day after I’ve finished my period? Until I’ve ovulated?

We both don’t smoke and hardly drink although tempted after AF came yesterday Grin!

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Bundaberg84 · 03/06/2021 09:11

@Mynameisunavailable it's hard not to overthink it. And you did everything right. Just keep in mind that there is only a 20% chance of getting pregnant each month, even though you did everything "right". And it's considered normal for a healthy couple to TTC for up to 12 months until there's a BFP. That doesn't mean you won't get pregnant in cycle three or so. But it's not science, we're not machines, and every body is different.

PinkPlantCase · 03/06/2021 09:06

Are you using OPKs that give you your LH levels? Or just the smiley face ones?

I found the LH level ones that are plotted on a graph really useful for fully understanding my cycle. I guess you might be getting that detail from temping though anyway.

If you’ve only just started DTD before ovulation that will make a difference aswell. Ideally you want the sperm waiting for the egg when it’s released. 2 days after could be too late.

Does your DH smoke or drink much? That could be worth considering as well.

Best of luck OP Cake

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Mynameisunavailable · 03/06/2021 09:06

Thanks @Bundaberg84 Smile. I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it all.

I’m taking the Boots branded trying to conceive vitamin tablets, the Pregnacare ones made me feel not so great and made my boobs hurt!

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Bundaberg84 · 03/06/2021 09:02

Hi @Mynameisunavailable! It seems like you're covering all your bases :) how is your vitamin intake?