Trying to conceive over 40

@Catconfusion wonderful news! Huge congrats 🥰

@Catconfusion that's great news! So pleased for you!!

I'm just 40 and we have an almost 3 year old. I'm not sure about an age for stopping, I lost two before my daughter and have had 1 miscarriage and 3 chemicals since starting to TTC again in January. We had such a traumatic birth with my daughter that we were too frightened to start TTC again until this year and now I have been diagnosed with Adenomyosis. I don't know what to think about it all tbh. I had such a horrible childhood and had it drummed into me that children were a burden and childbirth to be avoided I left it till 34 to start. I desperately wish so much was different.

Wonderful news @Catconfusion!

Welcome @babyreds1518 - due to life circumstances I have only been able to start trying to conceive since I hit 40. I got pregnant after 13 months of trying and just before that was very despondent and beginning to consider if we needed to start looking into IVF. It felt like an impossibility getting onto that first rung of parenting ladder (actually conceiving) but since getting my BFP in May my pregnancy has run smoothly and my age has been less of an issue in my head. This baby will be born 2 months before my 42nd birthday. I've always wanted 2 children so am hoping to conceive a sibling for this one, which will mean I will still be trying to conceive when I'm 43/44.

I’ve just got back from our second scan and everything is looking great. We even saw little arms and legs. I’m so relieved, hardly slept last night in anticipation. Xx

@babyreds1518 welcome to the thread. We always said we’d keep going until either a doctor told us it was unlikely or it just didn’t happen. I had the age of 45 in mind for maybe stopping. We’ve both turned 42 and have 1 ds aged 16 months so really want a sibling for him.

I’m currently 8 plus 4 weeks pregnant so fingers crossed this is it for us after three early losses. Xx

@babyreds1518 I’m ttc #1 but have 2 DSC. I turned 43 just over a week ago and we only ttc after a surprise in November 2020 (early MC at 6+4). I’ve ditched all ovulation sticks and have stopped stressing about it as I’m happy for nature to decide. But we will just “try without trying” (I’ll take prenatal vitamins but also drink wine when I want!) until my DH gets his vasectomy (estimated Nov). I’m happy either way as I really like my childfree-ish life but I want to look back knowing we gave it a shot. X

@babyreds1518 I don't have an upper age limit in mind. I have two teenage children and so does my partner but we have none together, we got pregnant and had a mc in 2017 then started trying again in 2018 so 3.5 years trying, I was worried about age earlier on but I'm not 42 still feel no different abs I'm thinking I'll carry on until I decide I don't want to any more, we want that baby together so much. Whatever you decide will be the right decision for you, everyone is different

Aw @Honey2 you've been through so much! I understand what you're saying but that longing is there, it can't be easy to just stop. I got pregnant at 29 and 33 - both times immediately. I am now 40 and 8 months and full of regret for leaving it until now. My friend is 41 and 5 months and going to keep trying I think. For me I just cannot get age out of my head.. I don't know why!

I really hope you have a successful pregnancy soon! Xxx

@babyreds1518 welcome! I gave my self 6 months, because I didnt want to be 42 when giving birth (so 6 months took me up to the month before my bday!) since then I’ve had 2 early MC and one chemical pg…. Which qualified me for an apt at the recurrent MC clinic. So the 6 months is being stretched! This is month 8 for me now. All that said we’ve decide if I get preg this month and MC again that’s us done. If I don’t get pg this month we will try once more in Sept and then draw the line. It’s such a person thing but for us, since I already have 3 beautiful children I feel if it’s not happened by then I’ve finally comes to terms with the idea of stopping….. so so hard though!

Hello all
I am new here and have loved reading your posts and thankful for your responses.

I hope this is not an insensitive question but I wonder if any of you have given yourself a timeframe (age) for getting pregnant and if it doesn't happen you will stop trying? I'm only 4 months in to trying x

@Mattieandmummy thank you so much for your reply! I have just read up on low progesterone and I tick every box 🤯
I have a little fresh blood stained almost discharge like stuff today 🧐
This is all so new to me, I just really hope I get pregnant!xx

Hi everyone,

Just catching up on messages after 2 weeks away on holiday where I've stocked up on maternity jeans as normal ones now too uncomfortable with my bump that's getting more pronounced. 17 weeks and 5 days now and have 2nd midwifery appointment tomorrow.

Congratulations to those who got BFPs recently.

Sorry to those who haven't/who have had disappointing news recently.

Welcome to the new members who have joined us.

XxX

Or I was told that spotting pre-period can mean low progesterone but you'd only know the answer to that one if you did a 21 day test.

@babyreds1518

If you were me I would say implantation bleeding as I've had that several times, is it too early for a test?

Weird period?
On Thursday (day 25) I had brown spotting, Friday a bit of fresh blood (not much), sat & sun a bit of brown spotting & tiny bit fresh blood and today the tiniest bit of brown spotting. I thought it was my period but it seems erratic & weird.
Anyone else experience it like this?
Thank you

Thanks again everyone, I might not say much but I do appreciate it. Have tied myself in knots over the last week in fear at being pregnant again. I'm sad that after all the therapy and hypnotherapy I've had, I am still frightened of being pregnant again. Huge sighs over here, wondering again whether adoption might be a better path for us.

I was cooking chicken today when the smell absolutely made me gag for some reason. Took myself off to the toilet for an afternoon 6 DPO wee on a FRER stick which was unsurprisingly completely negative

So I binned the chicken just to be safe in case it really did smell funny

Told myself I wouldn't go mental this time round but it's hard. I let myself take a test whenever the urge strikes, I just tell myself it's not going to be a +ve and that's ok.

I'm taking the advice from this thread that I may only have one good egg a year and that nothing is guaranteed

@Babyghirl @babyreds1518 welcome!
@ponymum1980 congratulations!!
@Mattieandmummy really sorry to hear your news. It’s so rough when that happens. Why can’t a positive be a positive!!

I’m all confused today - got my peak opk on Saturday at 9dpo (which is v early - normal 13dpo) along with some fertile cm - but not a lot 🙁. My temp this morning has really confused me! Took it as normal time 6.45am and was 36.41 - which is a small rise from my average over last 3 days of 36.26. But then I took again at 7am before getting up and it had gone DOWN to 36.35?! I thought it was supposed to increase once you are awake - tried again after a shower and 36.31! So I’ve no idea now if I ovulated. Guess will have to see what tomorrow brings but we are off on holiday in the morning so I know it will be chaos!!

@Marvellouslymadmum
My period showed up this morning last 3 Septembers I have falling pregnant maybe September is my month I'm hoping anyway lol.

@Babyghirl does sound like that's the case for you, I've certainly learned that nothings definite with this though! I used to think the same, that I knew what my body was doing - turns out I didn't have a clue! I get some months like that, some months where I get failed ovulation so all the signs, pains positive opk etc but that happens 3-4 times before ovulation happens. I also have a changing Lp so all over the place but hopefully yours od more consistent!

@Marvellouslymadmum
I norm ovulate cd11 get the pain and that to go with it then nxt day my cm goes thick like school clue lol, I done my temp for a good while always temp dip on cd11 and rise nxt day and a 16dlp.

@Mattieandmummy so sorry to hear you've got a negative now, life is just so cruel sometimes. I hope you can move on quickly and try again real soon xxx

@Babyghirl you'd have to track a little if you were planning aspirin after ovulation though

@geriatric1234
Thank you for the welcome
@Marvellouslymadmum
Thank you I don't track stopped that after my October loss and fell again in Jan got my follow up appointment for gyno on the 15th of September also on the list for ivf said I would get an app in abot 3 4 months time hoping it happens and sticks before then thou.