Trying to conceive over 40

@October1979 amazing news! That looks like a strong line so all fingers crossed for you.

Thanks for sharing your Ava data as well - i have only just started using Ava and am finding it quite confusing because Ava hasn’t confirmed that I have ovulated this month (it hasn’t “ticked” ovulation)….maybe it’s just because it’s my second month using it….or maybe I haven’t ovulated? Does your temp go up even if you don’t ovulate? It might just be that my sleeping has been quite haphazard this month (I keep waking up anxious at 3/4am and struggling to get back to sleep, which might interfere with the Ava measurement - I suspect that’s why it hasn’t recorded some nights even if I have worn it every night) and maybe I need to wear it for a few more cycles to improve the predictions? Or maybe OPKs would give a better sense of when I’m ovulating (or if I’m ovulating)?

Following this thread has made me so much more positive - lots of positive test results, woo!

@Catconfusion I can imagine it must be very frustrating! I get a random long one every 6-12 months and that drives me crazy not knowing what's going on! Clomid could definitely help bringing it forward though, fingers crossed they give it to you

@Marvellouslymadmum I had lots of investigations when I was younger. It’s not pcos but along those lines. They found cysts on my ovaries but they’ve cleared up in recent years. All hormone tests are normal so it’s not a detectable imbalance but there probably is a slight imbalance if that makes sense. It’s a miracle I conceived my ds on day 33 of my cycle and have got pregnant easily with the 5 losses. It’s just very frustrating when ttc as I can ovulate anytime within a four week period. I get one normal cycle and I hope the problem is sorted now but the reality is it’s a lifelong issue for me. I’m hoping seeing the consultant and getting Clomid will help us. Xx

@Catconfusion that's really frustrating! Have the docs given you any explanation for the constant long cycles all the time?

@Marvellouslymadmum it usually is for me as rare to get less than 50 days, however last cycle was 35 so I was hopeful for this time. Still no peak for me on cd 19. I’d ovulated by now last cycle. I haven’t been eating as well due to holiday and allowed myself a couple of glasses of wine during the week as it was my birthday. Sadly I do wonder if these things affect o in my case. I know what you mean about wishing I knew when. It means your life is a bit on hold with the waiting. Xx

@Catconfusion if we could know at the beginning of the month it was going to be a long cycle it wouldn't so bad!

@Lastyearttc I agree with @Catconfusion it's likely today, without temping though there's no way to confirm it but if you just dtd today and tomorrow that should make sure you're covered

@Lastyearttc I’d say probably today. It’s usually within 24/36 hours after the peak. If you’re temping too it’ll usually be the day your temperature goes up. So if tomorrow you get a rise it’s today.

Hi girls... so on the new femometer opks which I'm loving with the app btw thanks for the rec!
When do you think I have/will ovulate!?

@Mum2baby07 no problem. Once you figure out how your peak plays out, it’ll make knowing when to dtd so much easier. Just see how you get on. It does have the potential to raise stress levels with the monitoring and in some cases it’s better to just have regular sex. If we didn’t have a toddler, I probably would leave it but finding time to dtd is really tough so knowing when really helps. Plus my cycles are crazy irregular. Xx

@sabtom I will feel the same way too. My mmc before ds was all the more painful because we didn’t know we’d lost the baby 4 weeks before. I was still vomiting every day, thinking it was a good sign and would be worth it for a baby we’d already lost. I think you can have the nipt at 10 weeks. So good you’ll have the scans as reassurance in the meantime. I just don’t think there’s any way of knowing all is ok without them.

It’s all looking positive for you so your chances are good. Today you are pregnant and all is well. Xx

@Catconfusion thanks for sharing about opks and your cycle - really helpful. I have some new opks coming on Sunday after you all told me how awful one step are so will see how I get on. Although can’t help thinking OH just needs to get going TTC ever other day to be sure lol
@sabtom this is marvellous news! I’m so happy for you!! Praying we all get our own little miracle soon! X

@Catconfusion we both want to get every test and screening available, we'd rather know sooner if possible so we can prepare. We probably won't be telling people too till after all tests are done and all come back healthy.

@Marvellouslymadmum it’s been the bane of my life. I just did a opk and it looks a bit darker so I’m hoping it’ll be in the next few days. I now have ewcm. Realistically though it could be a couple of weeks away 🤦🏻‍♀️. Xx

@sabtom I just remember seeing a rainbow on the way to my 8 plus 5 scan and hoping it was a good sign. I felt so much more nervous but didn’t realise until we saw the heartbeat and I burst into tears. We had a really nice sonographer who walked up a bit herself when she saw how relieved we were. You’re definitely over the biggest hurdle now. The next one will confirm it. Will you have the blood test to screen the chromosomes or wait for the nhs tests? Xx

@Catconfusion glad you're having a good day, late ovulation is a nightmare though 😑

@October1979 that's amazing! So pleased for you, I'm so hopeful for you this time, also feel like I might need an Ava lol

@sabtom that's brilliant news! So pleased everything's ok for you

@Catconfusion yeah I'm gunna be climbing the walls till then lol
I had my first scan at 8 weeks in my last pregnancy and that's when I was told there was no heartbeat and stopped growing at 6w, so I don't know if that little bean had heartbeat or not. So yeah, I'm relieved to see a heartbeat with this little bean but I'll relax even more if that heartbeat is still flickering at 8w

Yay @sabtom that’s fantastic news. Congratulations. Hopefully time will go quickly until the next scan. I found the 8 week one the most nerve wracking. I was told if all looks well at the 8/9 weeks mark, your chances are excellent. You’re already over the most dangerous period for mc now there’s a HB so it won’t be long until you can relax even more. Xx

@sabtom that’s such fantastic news!!! Really pleased for you xx

Hi everyone! Just an update: all went well at the scan, baby's in the right place and measuring 5.5mm. Even saw the flutter of the heartbeat 🥰 Going back in a couple of weeks for another scan, I'll be 8 weeks by then and they'll be able to date it more accurately too. Wishing you well and lots of baby dust

@Honey2 I don’t think the strength of the surge matters if your temp stays up after. It might be you’re not catching the peak if it happens quickly. I once had a cycle where I had a weaker surge. I had a few days of high temperatures but then I started spotting and AF came. I spoke to a fertility nurse and she said the surge probably wasn’t quite strong enough and the egg didn’t fully pop through. As long as you have a prolonged temperature rise, it’s happened Xx

@Lastyearttc I would test again later on today. If you are someone who peaks quickly, you might miss it. Good luck. Xx

Very interesting on LH surges and ovulation I agree!
Just got my first high this morning using fermometer for the first time. It's 77%, so nearly a peak which is 80%+
Do you think I should test again this afternoon then? What time is best? Or just wait for 10am in the morning?
Next challenge is to get the OH over as we don't live together 😬

@Catconfusion thanks for the insights into your opks and LH surges… it’s soo interesting as it can clearly be totally different for each person. For example (as you suggest) I have a very quick surge - and when I do I have never had a reading on Femometer higher than about 90% - but clearly I am ovulating as I have had 2 pregnancies in the last 5 months. Also this month I didn’t even catch my LH peak on the remoter strips - I normally test twice a day once it starts to get higher but this month I must have missed it because I never got a peak yet I know I have ovulated as I have had a clear temp shift! Just goes to show the importance of temping ( and also checking CM)

Just a thought - low LH surges, this shouldn’t have any effect on preg viability right?? As long as the surge triggers the egg release that’s all good no??

FF has confirmed I ovulated on Monday this week so 4dpo today… the wait begins again!

@October1979 I find your surge at night comment interesting. We dtd this month on CD 9/10/11/13 with positive opk (cb static smiley) on CD11. Tried to get CS 12 too but DH was too knackered 🤣 Do you think with that much “coverage” (🤣) I got two peak days? I’m still kinda unsure of what routine we should be in 🤦🏻‍♀️

Lovely dark lines !!! Xxx