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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Trying to conceive over 40

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October1979 · 30/05/2021 09:48

Here is a new thread for us girls

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Mattieandmummy · 10/07/2021 06:05

Congratulations @Honey2! Hope this one works out for you xxx

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October1979 · 09/07/2021 22:39

@Honey2 I think I will try wait till 7weeks. You are right. It would be awful being in limbo xx

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Honey2 · 09/07/2021 22:31

Sorry that should say and there is no fetus/hb

Honey2 · 09/07/2021 22:30

@October1979 @Littlemiss40andfabulous @Catconfusion @Lastyearttc @Mickymackyboobaaboo thanks all. Will keep everything cross and test again on Sunday.

@octoctor1979 that does look like good progression. If I were you I’d hold off and get a scan towards the end of 6 weeks. By there should be a fetus and heartbeat. If you go too early AMA there is no fetus/HB they cannot confirm if the pregnancy is just ok early or if it’s not viable. Then you end up in a horrible limbo. Wishing you all the luck in the world that this is your good egg!

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October1979 · 09/07/2021 22:17

@Catconfusion thanks let's hope the drs were wrong. It has been a long journey. Just hoping it works out this time. I'm glad it gives you hope. You have conceived like me. I would say its all about the right egg, total luck. The only difference this month for me is taking aspirin every night throughout my cycle, also the progesterone cream. Stay hopeful @Catconfusion I know it's hard and I'm not out of the woods yet. I am suspicious that fertility doctors assume that if it was going to happen it would have happened before you come to them. Therefore they say it's unlikely based on their experience of their patients and common sense that it's tougher over 40. They also want the business. Trust your body.
@Lastyearttc I am 41. I will be 42 in October xx

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Lastyearttc · 09/07/2021 21:53

@Honey2 Oooo congratulations! It's so hard not to allow yourself to be absolutely over the moon isn't it! Praying this one will stick for you Mrs x

Just wondering to those pregnant girls amongst us... how old you are!? I know it not all down to age but just curious!

Catconfusion · 09/07/2021 21:05

@October1979 wow, your line progression is amazing. You must be 5 weeks if 21 dpo. You start from two weeks before O. You could get a scan from about 6 weeks onwards so not too long to go. I just think it’s amazing and it’s looking like the doctors were wrong about your odds. It gives me hope! Xx

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October1979 · 09/07/2021 20:54

@Honey2 I'm 21dpo today. Not sure how many weeks that makes me? I ovulated cd 20. So had a long cycle this month. How do you work it out? Lines seem to be progressing. I did a Clearblue digital weeks test today and it says 2-3 weeks. Think I will do an early scan as don't want to get to excited and would rather know bad news sooner rather than later.

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Littlemiss40andfabulous · 09/07/2021 19:28

@Honey2 congratulations! Hoping this one sticks for you, but understand you not getting too excited just yet. It's such a rollercoaster journey xxx

Catconfusion · 09/07/2021 17:54

Yay @Honey2 looks like a good line to me considering how early it is. I’ve got everything crossed for you! Xx

Mickymackyboobaaboo · 09/07/2021 17:30

Congratulations @Honey2 My line was fainter than that at 14dpo and I went on to have a successful pregnancy. Will be keeping everything crossed for you.

Honey2 · 09/07/2021 16:14

@October1979 thanks. How are you getting on? How many weeks/ days now? Will you book an early scan?

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October1979 · 09/07/2021 15:58

Congratulations @Honey2 I think that's quite dark for 10dpo. Mine was a squinter. Fingers crossed for you xx

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Honey2 · 09/07/2021 15:45

We’ll hear we go again…. Positive on a FRER this morning at 10dpo. But the line looks very faint to me so I don’t hold out much hope. I just really hope if it’s a bad egg again I have a very early MC not another 7/8 weeker. I know I seem to be wishing it away before it’s even begun but I just cannot feel any joy in a positive test anymore. I guess at least it seems I don’t have a problem getting pregnant which I am very grateful for.

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Honey2 · 09/07/2021 15:41

@Mum2baby07 do you have the Femometer app? It can intelligently recognise your peak from a photo… although I don’t think there is any mistaking that as a peak

Geriatric1234 · 08/07/2021 11:36

@Mattieandmummy I totally believe in that decisiveness! ;-D

Lastyearttc · 08/07/2021 10:53

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Lastyearttc · 08/07/2021 10:51

@Mum2baby07 got for it, that's a strong line and maybe test again later.

So I've had OH SA results back... what am I supposed to be looking at/for!?

Marvellouslymadmum · 08/07/2021 10:05

@Mum2baby07 that definitely looks like a positive opk get dtd!

Mum2baby07 · 08/07/2021 09:31

I need help ladies! My first month using opk (well proper ones after my one step disaster!) and it shows this. Is this my peak and if so do I need to DTD today and tomorrow (we did last night btw) …. such a novice to TTC lol

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Mattieandmummy · 07/07/2021 23:13

If this month doesn't work, am going to graduate to epo (on a more reasonable dose) and preseed. Decision made - there it's totally going to work now 😂

Mattieandmummy · 07/07/2021 23:11

Thanks everyone for replying about ewcm, am wondering if I should be using preseed or not.... Never have a problem with lubrication during even if I'm not really that fussed but know that arousal fluid is different to fertile mucus. Think I seem to have very watery but not stretchy stuff and then only one day of Ewcm but is this a problem? Certainly loads of Mumsnet reports of people conceiving having never seen any ewcm at all ever and have a million children. Ok maybe not a million.

Oh for when I was young and naive about all this and hadn't spent five years trying to get pregnant 🙄

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October1979 · 07/07/2021 15:43

@Littlemiss40andfabulous can't believe that's 10 weeks already how exciting. How are you feeling?

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October1979 · 07/07/2021 15:41

@Mattieandmummy I only seem to get 1 day of heavy ewcm. That's usually my signal to dtd pronto that day and the following. It usually happens the day of my first peak. I've been using pre seed lubricant for he last 3 cycles and conceived each month (although 2 chemicals and currently still waiting to see if this one sticks).

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Lastyearttc · 07/07/2021 15:00

@99pctpractice first response tests are the best for early testing