Trying to conceive over 40

Oh no @Honey2 I’m so sorry to hear that. Sending love and healing to you! As far as I’m aware low progesterone is quite hard to diagnose. The GP I had before ds didn’t think twice about prescribing me the pessaries because she said it’s harmless to use. At that point I’d had a mmc and a chemical. The month I used it I went on to have ds. This might be a coincidence but I feel like it did something. Progesterone can be inconsistent as we age and lead to problems in early pregnancy. I can’t see that the natural cream will do any harm but then I’m not a doctor. There’s lots of foods that help with producing progesterone so you could go the dietary route.

I’ve had three losses in a row too. My doctor explained it in a good way. He said when you’re younger you have four numbers on the dice and one is miscarriage, the other three are viable pregnancies. Over 40 there are only two numbers on the dice so you’ll get either a viable pregnancy or a miscarriage. It’s totally feasible that three could happen in a row but also the same chance as a viable pregnancy so it’s worth it to keep going. If you think about it, if you rolled three 2s in a row and there were only two numbers, it wouldn’t seem odd at all. I hope you can get some rest tonight. Xx

@October1979 thanks. I just a bit nervous ‘self prescribing’ things when I know I’ve got a gynae apt coming up. I’m not sure I’d be brave enough to admit to using it 😂

@Lastyearttc I know! What a dirty trick by Mother Nature!!!

Unfortunately I started spotting today and test is lighter. I’m kind of pleased in a weird way as I didn’t think this one would stick and I was really depressed at the thought I would ‘waste’ another 2weeks waiting for a MC. I am wondering if I should get the progesterone cream. Can it really be bad eggs 3 times in a row or is something else going on? I know that’s what they will investigate at my apt at the recurrent MC clinic in Aug, however I’m likely to ovulate and have another go at TTC before I get to that appointment so not sure what to do??

@Catconfusion I haven't tried progesterone but am definitely going to ask the consultant on Friday about it. I know @October1979 is using the cream too.
If I do get a Bfp I will start taking baby aspirin straight away as got it ready just in case.

@Honey2 I did think that too... but now getting the heaviness feeling down there that you get before your period so thinking she's coming.

Pregnancy and af symptoms are exactly the bloody same so it's so hard to predict!

@Lastyearttc the temp dip could have been an implantation dip?

@Mum2baby07 oh no I’m sorry to hear about the thrush. Well you never know. I absolutely wasn’t expecting it when I found out I was expecting ds. I really hope it’s your month! Xx

Aww @Lastyearttc I can completely understand. Have you ever used progesterone? My GP gave me it after I had two mcs and then I had ds. I’ve been using it as soon as I get a bfp but decided this cycle to start on 4 dpo as all three bfps since Christmas didn’t stick. I’ve also been taking baby aspirin throughout my cycle. I’m just trying not to give too much thought to it.

I really hope you get a nice surprise this cycle! Xx

@birdbybird and @Catconfusion I’m 4 days dpo but not holding out much hope as just not feeling it. I have thrush AGAIN too which isn’t helping. Wishing you both much better luck!!

@Catconfusion it's damage limitation... cycle 12 since last mmc, 43 next month, not getting my hopes up!

Aw good luck to you @Lastyearttc I hope Friday brings good news. I think I’d go stir crazy to test so late but I think it’s wise. My problem is I get pregnancy symptoms so early that I have a good idea so I tend to test early to confirm. Then get even more disappointed if it doesn’t work out because I’ve known for a few days. Xx

@birdbybird I'm 11dpo... trying to the test until Friday if I can hold out! Had a temp dip yesterday to the cover line so thought I was out, but it's recovered this morning so we'll see what the morning brings!

@birdbybird I’m 2 dpo at the moment so just trying to keep busy and try not to worry. I normally find the first week easy but those last few days before testing just drag. Not long now for you. Xx

@Lastyearttc I’ve had a positive on those tests once at 9dpo but usually 10 dpo. I think they are quite sensitive just not great for seeing line progression over time. Xx

Aww thanks @Honey2 I was a primary school teacher and then a professional writer. Now I’m a sahm. I just know how hard it is but having gone through a pregnancy after two losses and having ds I know happy endings are totally possible. Xx

Is anyone else in the 2 week wait? I’m 7 or 8 dpo.

@October1979 I didn’t get proper symptoms until 6 weeks and threw up for the first time at 7 weeks. I wish I’d enjoyed my symptom free period more :)

I will be fretting when I do get a BFP. Probably a scan every week!

@Marvellouslymadmum thanks for looking at them. I have my consultation call on Friday now all my results are done... let's see what she says!

Also, when is the earliest anyone has had a positive on a fermometer preg test...? Not used them before

@Lastyearttc I believe that's a good report my oh's as results weren't as good and he was told they're absolutely normal
I'm 42 never felt old until all this ttc lark - makes you feel ancient!
@Honey2 I really hope this is your sticky bean, have you spoken to the go about why they're not sticking?
@October1979 try not to worry pregnancy symptoms definitely come and go and there's a point where you get used to the hormones so you don't feel the same, I. On a thread with three other ladies that are pg and their symptoms all come and go all the time!

@Catconfusion you have such wise words! Remind me what you do as a job again as you should totally be in some kind of counselling profession if you are not! 😊

@October1979 you are so close to being able to have a scan. Keep as busy as you can and try not to let the worry get the better of you. I know it’s easier said than done. So much is riding on this but there is nothing more you can do now but rest, look after yourself and hope for the best. I used to meditate and try and visualise a healthy baby with a heartbeat. It might sound a bit woo but it helped me to relax a bit. Symptoms don’t really tell you much. With my mmc I was full on vomiting for four weeks after we’d lost the baby. Strong symptoms can be bad news and no symptoms can be good news 🤷🏻‍♀️. I’ve got a really good feeling about this pregnancy. Xx

@October1979 it’s really horrid these first weeks. I agree with @Catconfusion just need to hang on in there and the 3+ Test at 5weeks +2 is a good sign. Thinking about it it may be too late for beta bloods any way as I think the doubling slows as you get closer to 6 weeks. Keep everything crossed and double crossed for you. It’s about time you had a sticky one.