Trying to conceive over 40

Congratulations @Catconfusion.

I have the opposite problem. Multiple negative tests and I'm waiting for AF to show. 14 DPO. FertilityFriend thinks I was due AF yesterday.
I hate this :(

It’s so annoying but my bad tooth is really playing up so it’s likely I’ll need an extraction. There’s so many mixed opinions on whether this is ok in early pregnancy. Has anyone else had dental work done during the tww or in pregnancy? It was playing up when I was pregnant with ds but the dentist wouldn’t touch it, then Covid happened. Now it’s an infection risk so will need to be done. I guess the plus is I’ll get my treatment free. Xx

@Littlemiss41andfabulous thank you so much. This thread seems to be a lucky one. Xx

Thanks you @Geriatric1234 all stuff I needed to hear, even though I know. The losses make pregnancy feel so fragile but when they’re strong and healthy they stick. I actually do have quite a busy week so that’s good. Xx

@October1979 thank you. Maybe the progesterone and aspirin are beneficial. I did another IC this morning and it’s slightly darker so that’s good. I was reading that only 0.5% of pregnancies show up at 8dpo. I can’t think of any reason it would be a bad thing. I know late implantation can be bad news. Must have just implanted early. I really hope this is it. Not long until your scan on Friday. You’re doing so well! Xx

PS I updated my name to reflect my current age!

Oooh wonderful news @Catconfusion!! Congratulations xxx

@Catconfusion YASSSSSSS!!! Congratulations!!!!!

Right, main thing is to carry on as normal. You need work/tv to distract you for at least a few days. Have you got a busy week planned? If not - make plans and stay distracted. Remember nothing you do/don’t do (within reason…don’t take up gymnastic trampolining or try out acid) will affect the outcome. So eat well, sleep lots and focus on being busy. Xxx

I got the inclination to test today as I had horrendous cramping a few days ago and I've started to feel sick. It's only 8dpo so really early but it's a bfp. Even DH could clearly see the line. It's faint but it's there. Really not sure what to think after two early losses in the last two cycles and another earlier in the year. I verified with a FRER so I'm not going mad. Any suggestions for getting through the next week are appreciated. xx

@99pctpractice I definitely agree. It’s like researchers are trying to get evidence for shock headlines. So many younger women have miscarriages and infertility yet at our age it’s immediately assumed it’s an age related problem. Obviously in some cases it is but there’s still so much not understood about why some pregnancies don’t progress. Xx

Thanks, @Catconfusion that is an interesting article. It does feel like there are a lot of inbuilt biases to how a lot of the statistics have been recorded. Fingers crossed for that one good egg!!

@Littlemiss40andfabulous I thought so. Definitely puts some of the research into context. One lady on the same thread said her consultant didn’t think miscarriages earlier than the age of 45 were on the whole due to age. Obviously some are but most were for the same reasons anyone has a loss and are pretty unexplained Xx

Thanks @Catconfusion for the article. It was very interesting and encouraging to read x

Hey ladies, I just read this really interesting article about fertility and older women. It was recommended on another thread.

www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theatlantic.com/amp/article/309374/

Thanks @birdbybird for the list

@October1979 I definitely think it’s good to take the aspirin at night. A consultant told me it works better while asleep. It could be the progesterone you know. I definitely think it helped with ds but then I started after my bfp with him and by then I’d had an ultrasound (just chance I’d had a bfp, they were checking my ovaries as I’d had pain but then saw the sac). So it was definitely not heading toward being a chemical. Nether the less it progressed normally from there so I feel it helped.

Interesting you’ve been getting the lightening crotch. I think it’s similar to round ligament pain, where everything starts to grow and move. I’ve not ever had it as early as this before so you never know. I think you’re right, it’s definitely a waiting game. Xx

@birdbybird aw I’m so sorry you’re feeling sad. The dates are the killer. It’s hard not to take note of the due date and think how far along you’ll be at certain times. I think that’s why my birthday felt a bit odd because I’d planned it three times over in my head with me being at various stages of pregnancy relating to my three losses. Annoyingly a close friend has the same due date as my last loss. My DH thinks I’m crazy for even thinking about the dates when those pregnancies were never going to progress but it’s hard. I hope you get some good news soon. Xx

Please let me know if I've missed anyone.

birdbybird - 40, TTC#2 - Cycle #7, losses in Cycle #1 and #2
Lastyearttc - 42, TTC#2 - Cycle #13, and 3 prior losses
Geriatric - 42, TTC #1 - cycle #7, 1 loss
Honey2 - 41, TTC#4 - Cycle#5, had early MC cycle#2 and #3 and chemical #4
catconfusion - 42, TTC #2 - cycle #5, early mc on cycle #1 #3 and #4
Littlemiss40andfabulous - 40, TTC#1 - got BFP (currently 12 weeks) when TTC on cycle 12, One CP on cycle 9.
Gingerfox2021 - 41, TTC number 2. Cycle 6 when following OPKS, before couple of month without sticks.
Mattieandmummy - 40, TTC no. 2 cycle #7, 1 miscarriage, 1 chemical
October1979 - 41, TTC #1. MMC cycle 1, CP cycle 10, 13,14, BFP15
99pctpractice - 40, TTC#2, cycle #6, 1 miscarriage and 1 chemical.
sabtom: age 41 and 7 months, TTC#1 since Jan2019, MMC in May 2020. Failed IUI in Sept 2020. BFP in June 2021. Currently 8weeks.

@Catconfusion I am also a bit sad these days.
Keep thinking if I hadn’t had a miscarriage I’d be 7 months along now :(

@October1979 I’m 6dpo now and I’m at the frustrating ‘so close yet so far’ stage of waiting to test. I started aspirin the week before O and progesterone at 4dpo. I got some cramping yesterday which has eased a bit now. It’s so hard not to read into symptoms.

I saw so many heavily pregnant women today and women with a child a similar age to ds and a newborn. It’s difficult to just get on and not think about our situation. I need to try a bit harder tomorrow to put it out of my mind I think.

Do you think the aspirin and progesterone made a difference? Xx

I really hope all is well at your scans next week @October1979 and @sabtom It’s such a difficult time for you.

I think being sick in early pregnancy is common but it’s not uncommon to have no symptoms. I know so many people who’ve breezed through early pregnancy.

I also think sickness can give false hope. I had hyperemesis and was put on bed rest with both my mmc and my ds and was told it was a good sign in both cases. It obviously wasn’t a good sign with my first and I was vomiting right up until my d&c. With my ds I felt exactly the same and it was a healthy pregnancy 🤷🏻‍♀️. I even get nauseous with very early miscarriages. It’s just how my body reacts to pregnancy. I don’t think it’s an imbalance. It’s not a good sign or a bad sign just a reaction to the hormonal changes. We all react differently.

So my point is try not to worry if you have no symptoms. Xx