Trying to conceive over 40

@Unicorn9 I’m so sorry you’ve had such a tough journey. Hopefully you’ll get lucky naturally now. I’ve got everything crossed for you. Xx

@Littlemiss41andfabulous those are similar to the results I had with ds and he was fine. I think there’s some doubts over the accuracy of the nhs tests, however if the neck measurement was normal and the bloods show very low risk you should be fine. I’m really happy for you. Xx

@Marvellouslymadmum I don't think so as I've not come back high risk, so it doesn't need confirming either way for definate. 1/1700 chance of Downs Syndrome and 1/10000 of Edwards and Patau Syndrome. Next midwife appt at 16 weeks (14 weeks now) so think she'll go through results again there but if I needed more blood tests someone would have rung me by now I think.

@Marvellouslymadmum I’ve tried everything. I’ve been tested at st marys recurrent miscarriage clinic in london and nothing was found except a small clotting issue which can be resolved by aspirin at 8 weeks on.

I’ve had two biopsies done at Coventry who said I had high nkc one cycle but normal the next albeit i was actually pregnant that cycle but lost it due to chromosomal abnormality. I’ve had an ERA test and microbiome test. The latter picked up vaginal bacteria was out so got treated with antibiotics and probiotics.

I’ve had an aquscan/saline scan. Nothing.

I had a 10mm lining for ivf and everything was fine. Got 11 eggs retrieved with only 7 being fertilised. 3 made it to day 5/6 and all came back normal genetically.

Two miscarriages tested one was normal female and the other abnormal female.

Not sure these is anything else to test… I can’t afford Shehata or Gorgy anymore after all the ivf and the tests they want run and am reluctant when the general answer is steroids and progesterone which I have anyways…

@Littlemiss41andfabulous that's really good! So they don't do the other test now?

@Unicorn9 hi and welcome, so sorry for your losses, has anyone looked into why you manage to get pregnant but they don't stick?

Hi @Jem1979 sorry for your loss, it's hard when things don't work but there's still hope. Have you had any tests or anything done yet?

Hi @Unicorn9
And hi again @Jem1979 . I share your frustration…. Been in a pensive mood all day.

I’ve got some watery CM although not had a positive opk yet. CD11.

Also have gone and ordered the ovusense core, last night. Expecting it to arrive hopefully next week but probably too late for this cycle.

Hello everyone could I join too please? I will be 42 in a few weeks. Have a 2 year old born May 2019 and been TTC #2 since June 2020. Got a BFP in March 21 but had a natural miscarriage at 8 weeks (scan showed baby stopped growing at 6 weeks). I'm trying to stay positive that it will happen for us but feel a constant sadness that time is running out. It's helpful to hear from others in a similar position.

@Unicorn9 welcome to this lovely supportive group. Glad to have you join us. It sounds like you've already been on a rollercoaster TTC journey and I'm sorry you've had to go through this. XxX

Would you mind if I join your group? I am 42 and TTC #2 since September 2019. I have had 6 miscarriages, five in 18 months and the last in between an ivf cycle. Ive tried ivf once, with genetic testing and had 3 euploid embryos make it to day5/6 but ALL failed to even implant. I tried steroids and blood thinners to no avail and now without anymore funds we have to try naturally but after so many losses and failures, the moest recent ivf failure today, I am so disheartened and was hoping to see some hope here….

YAYYYY @Littlemiss41andfabulous!! That’s great news and so exciting! I’d be the same as @sabtom and @Catconfusion I think and probably throw money at every possible test 🤣 Nothing makes you feel old like over 40 TTC-ing!

AF due for me tomorrow/Sunday (cd 27/28) and feeling very PMT-ish so I think I’m on to cycle 8. Decided to make this Nov my last TTC cycle so my game of egg roulette has about 4 more spins or I shall be embracing the joys of childfree living! Not sure which door I’m destined to walk through, and whether it’ll be full of nappies or dogs, but very excited either way ❤️🤞🏼❤️ 🤣

Happy Friday folks! Hope you feel better for the weekend @anirek!!

Xx

@sabtom not sure what they are but my results page stated my NT result as well as hCGb result and PAPPA-A result, as well as the fact I'll be 41 and 10 months old at my expected delivery date!

@99pctpractice yes it’s definitely challenging. I feel a bit better now we’re past the point I lost the previous three. Now it’s anxiety about the first scan. I had a mmc with my first ever pregnancy and was being sick right up until the end so the nausea isn’t even reassuring. I just hope all is ok for us. I guess only time will tell! Xx

@anirek I’m so sorry to hear you’re unwell. I hope you feel better soon! Xx

Aaah that’s great news @Littlemiss41andfabulous you must have been very pleased to get that reassurance.

@anirek I think my little boy had that last Thursday. It was sooooo bad but we were lucky not to catch it. V hope you’re feeling better soon!

@Catconfusion yes, pregnancy after loss is so hard. Sounds like this one feels a bit different and is pretty definitive on the tests so all fingers crossed for you!!

@Littlemiss41andfabulous that’s amazing news. So glad you got a good result. I remember the relief clearly with ds when I got the combined test results. Just goes to show age doesn’t necessarily lead to high risk.

I think we might go for the nipt if we can find the money. Just keen to know all is well ASAP. Being that bit older at 42 the risks seem much higher so want as much information as we can get. I have to say I was really confident in the nhs combined test results at 40. I just feel like I need more reassurance this time around. Xx

Ah @Littlemiss40andfabulous that is the most amazing news! I’m so pleased for you!

I currently dying with the worst vomiting bug I’ve ever had. Caught it off my 2 year old! I feel so poorly 😢

That's great news @Littlemiss41andfabulous!
I'm getting the NIPT test done next week, I'm too impatient to wait another 2 weeks lol
I know the NT scan measures the back of the baby's neck, but what are they looking for in the blood tests?

I got my NHS antenatal bloods back today and am in the lower risk category for Downs, Edwards and Patau's syndrome even despite my age. That's a nice surprise as I was expecting them to come back high and need the NIPT blood test.

@Geriatric1234 exactly and it annoys me even more when I see all these unicorn pg without trying even though I'm 48 and had sex once in two months and now having twins people 🤦🏼‍♀️

@43andtrying welcome and sorry to hear if your losses. It's so hard isn't it when you know you've done it before it's like I don't feel much different to when I got of with my children so why is everything not working the same!! There's some evidence to say that with a low count every other day is the way to go and other evidence that says everyday without fail so may be worth a try at a month of each (although maybe just the fw for the every day 🥵)

@birdbybird you can if you like, I've been here so long everyone probably knows me by now lol I'm 42 ttc#3 but 1st together, cycle 40 or 3.5 years ttc with 2 mc

@Catconfusion thank you, me too or I may just break down and cry in their office or throw a tantrum 😂

@Marvellouslymadmum I hope they take you seriously and support you with these long cycles. It’s so difficult to ttc when o is unpredictable. Xx

@anirek it’s so weird. I got a clear positive on 8dpo. I did a frer today at 16dpo and the test line is taking dye from the control. I joked about it being twins and my DH nearly had a heart attack.

I’m so sorry to hear you’re spotting. I hope you get a surprise and it was implantation bleeding. Xx

Thanks @99pctpractice it’s such a rollercoaster. I wish the worry could end with a bfp. It’s just on to the next set of concerns: will the scan be ok etc. I must say I’m feeling hopeful this time. Xx

Thank you so much @birdbybird Guess mine can now read something like this.

Catconfusion - 42, TTC #2 since 01/21 - early mc on cycle #1 #3 and #4. Bfp on #5. Currently past 4 weeks.

@anirek I have an almost 20 month old and they are adorable at this age (although getting into the terrible twos).

I never considered myself a baby person and now love babies and toddlers!

Latest list is below.
I’m happy to be the data officer for the group. ;) although some of us are onto the next cycle now… I didn’t think of that one! Clearly not very good at my job! Maybe I should convert cycle # to month/year when started ttc.

@Marvellouslymadmum let me know if you’d like me to add you to the list. Completely optional ofcourse.

TTC:

birdbybird - 40, TTC#2 - Cycle #7, losses in Cycle #1 and #2
Lastyearttc - 42, TTC#2 - Cycle #13, and 3 prior losses
Geriatric - 42, TTC #1 - cycle #7, 1 loss
Honey2 - 41, TTC#4 - Cycle#5, had early MC cycle#2 and #3 and chemical #4
Gingerfox2021 - 41, TTC number 2. Cycle 6 when following OPKS, before couple of month without sticks.
Mattieandmummy - 40, TTC no. 2 cycle #7, 1 miscarriage, 1 chemical
99pctpractice - 40, TTC#2, cycle #6, 1 miscarriage and 1 chemical.
Mum2baby07 TTC #2 (first with partner) age 42 8mths cycle #1 actively TTC with all the gubbins #1 chemical April 2020 and #1 MC June 2021.
anirek - 40, TTC #2, cycle #7
43andtrying - 43, TTC #3 (first with DH), loss in 2019 and 2020

BFPs:
sabtom: age 41 and 7 months, TTC#1 since Jan2019, MMC in May 2020. Failed IUI in Sept 2020. BFP in June 2021. Currently 8weeks.
Littlemiss40andfabulous - 40, TTC#1 - got BFP (currently 12 weeks) when TTC on cycle 12, One CP on cycle 9.
catconfusion - 42, TTC #2 - cycle #5, early mc on cycle #1 #3 and #4
October1979 - 41, TTC #1. MMC cycle 1, CP cycle 10, 13,14, BFP15