Newbie looking for some support

Hi girls, I really hope you don’t mind me joining. I’m 29 and ttc my first with my fiancé. I’m constantly lurking on this site and I’m still getting use to all the short names for things. Thank god for google!!!
We’ve been trying for 6 months now and every single month we think it’s the month. I know it’s not that long but I feel so paranoid.
About 3 years ago I got pregnant and it ended up being an ectopic pregnancy and I lost my left tube and it was so traumatic.
Now we are actively trying and nothing? I don’t understand how it just happened before.
My best friend announced last week she is pregnant by accident and it floored me. I’m delighted for her but I was stunned.
Sorry for all the info just had to get it off my chest

@KayL1988 @HRP1990 I love crime documentaries too, my OH doesn't get it and thinks I'm weird but they're my fave things to binge. Let's hope AF steers clear!

Ohhh you'll have to send Bbq progress updates @SareBear87 - we've definitely not been that ambitious with the garden this year!

@Aries491 @HRP1990 BBQ sounds delightful but yes relaxing with the TV is also nice (especially if AF shows her ugly face). I also love a crime documentary - I think I've binged all the ones possible!!!!

I plan on being horizontal all weekend. Whether that’s outside in the sun or in bed binging something on Netflix 😂 anything crime related has my name all over it!

@SareBear87 I had proper period cramps the day before I had the positive pregnancy test that became my little boy. Being pregnant felt EXACTLY like waiting for AF at the beginning so I had no clue. I just tested because it was weird to have cramps then no blood the next day.

That I’m TTC number 2 it’s hard not to interpret every period symptom as a lurking baby 🙄

But anyway... you’re not out til you see AF

That sounds nice @KayL1988 such a relaxing Saturday:-) i love having the telly to watch crap for hours lol! looking at the weather might have a bbq either Sunday or Monday :-)

I am so glad it's the weekend! I seem to chill out more. I think it's because I have things planned so I've got a welcome distraction!

Anyone got any plans?

We started the ambitious plan of building a brick BBQ in the garden at the start of the month but with all the awful weather means we haven't finished it. This weekend we have to get moving on it as we have F&F coming over in June for actual BBQs 😅

Seemed like a great idea at the time!

Hey @Aries491 - I am so glad it's the bank holiday weekend!! The husbands golfing tomorrow morning so I plan on lying in bed with the dog watching bad tv for a few hours - bliss!! Have you got any plans??

Hi @HRP1990 so glad so many of us are similar ages :) I haven't told anyone we are ttc, don't fancy unnecessary pressure but need to chat/offload/read stuff somewhere so been lurking for a while on MN :)

Anyone else so glad it's a bank holiday?! :)

@KayL1988 that’s very true! Everytime I go on Facebook there’s anyways another pregnancy announcement from girls I went to school with. Seems like there’s less and less of us.

Hey @Aries491 👋🏻 So many of us in our early 30s here though, I’m so glad! As soon as my period is finished I’m on the OPK’s patiently (or not so) waiting haha

Hi ladies mind if I join? I am 30, ttc first baby and 2nd cycle, just finished AF yesterday so eager to get started again haha! First time testing with opks this time as well as came off the pill last August and use apps to track but would like a "confirmation" that I am ovulating when it says :) best of luck for everyone in their ttc journey!!

Yeah it's just perception isn't it! I feel like shows like friends and sex and the city the main characters are all mid to later thirties by the time they have babies.

I just look around me now and don't seem many people my age without kids or pregnant.

Yeah business idea... I'm not sure my 25 year old self would have invested in this 😂😂 I'd be like 'errr or a holiday?'

We've got this ladies!!! 🥰🥰

IUI - Think turkey baster and you got it . They paid for private treatment without trying because of age (and the assumption it would take forever). First basting session and boom - she caught!

I have cramps today so I think I'm out, AF is due Sunday/Monday and its about the right time for my uterus to start being aggy. On the plus side I can have a glass or two of something over the bank holiday!

@Peachycream hope work is going well! Excited to have a little group too!

@HRP1990 yeah I've definitely not told people either. It's such unnecessary pressure and you never know which of your friends you can ask - like I've no idea if they struggled. I know some of them haven't and got pregnant first time - so just don't want to have that convo!

@SareBear87 I know what you mean - I had no idea a full year was completely normal! Fingers crossed it happens for you soon.🥰

@SareBear87 god me too. If I knew how long it could potentially take I would have started years ago! My boyfriend is the same, so chilled. If only they knew what we were like behind the scenes haha. I think he’d freak at my google search history 😂 (what is IUI!?)

@KayL1988 its been OK, I've learnt a HUGE amount in that time. Some months I have been totally chilled and other months (like this one) I am symptom watching every little hiccup and twinge!

@HRP1990 Yeah all my friends have children, even my best friend who is 37 is pregnant (although this is a IUI baby - but still it was the first attempt!)

My partner is older and way more chilled out than me. I just feel like something should have happened by now surely? But I keep being told it is totally normal for it to take a year... I wish I'd known that sooner!

I agree with both of you @SareBear87 @ @KayL1988 all my friends had kids early 20’s and I’m the only one out my group that doesn’t have kids yet. It’s only recently we’ve started talking about trying and I didn’t realise how much of a mind field is it!

I’m not wanting to tell anyone we’re TTC either as I don’t want any pressure. I’d totally read that book haha

IMO The more the merrier - quite nice to have a little group of early 30s trying for #1! I also feel a bit out of place as it doesn't feel like a lot of people are just trying for their first in their early 30's! Feels like a lot of people have gone through it once and are onto their second. Makes me feel completely out of my depth!

How has your journey gone so far @SareBear87 ??

Hi Ladies, do you mind if I join too?

My situation is kinda the same although we've been trying for 6 months for No. 1. I'm 33 and like most people we haven't told a soul we are TTC and I've found it can get a bit lonely with a the 20-somethings. I'm sitting like Grandma in the corner!

I totally get what you mean about the lack of education. I tend to write things down when I get upset or frustrated and I'm so tempted to write a short book for 20+year olds calling it something like 'The REAL sex ed'

@HRP1990 CD26 today - my usual cycle length ranges from 27-29 so waiting for AF over the next few days! I started testing around CD15 but there wasn't a clear peak so not sure if I missed it or if it just wasn't super high - will know more next cycle!!!

Where are you in your cycle @KayL1988? I think the earlier you use them the better so you can gradually watch the test line darken? Fingers crossed for us all this month! @Peachycream @CTMcG