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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Newbie looking for some support

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Peachycream · 27/05/2021 20:44

Hi ladies,

I’ve been lurking for a few days, just seeing what the deal is, trying to work out some of the terminology used, mostly going to post but then getting scared and carry on lurking haha.

I don’t really have anyone I can talk about the TTC journey with in my real life as we aren’t telling anyone as it stands so I’m hoping maybe I can make a few friends here that I can obsess and stress out with 🤣

I’m currently CD 7 in my first cycle so tracking with OPKs every day right now so that I can get a clearer picture of my cycle each month.

I’m 30 and this will be our 1st,

If anyone has any advice/is in a similar position to me or just wants a natter I’d love to hear from you 😊

Xx

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KayL1988 · 02/06/2021 13:18

@HRP1990 😅😅 your boyfriend wondering what the hell your watching. Whatever you do... don't want a birthing video. The science of conception is one thing.... the trauma of birth is another.

Fun story I went to visit my sister after she gave birth with her first. She grabbed my hand and looked into my eyes and said 'they lie - it hurts. It hurts and you don't forget the pain... they just want you to have a baby'

😂😅

KayL1988 · 02/06/2021 13:15

@Peachycream - put Dr Google down. I shouldn't tell you this but he's not even a real doctor 🤫

I'd say keep testing and just see what happens. If you think you've missed it then that's sad but at least you'll know - and you'll have a less stressful 2WW. If you do think you've hit it the. It'll be the normal 2WW stress.

KayL1988 · 02/06/2021 13:05

Hey @Aries491 how was your BH weekend?

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Aries491 · 02/06/2021 13:03

Thanks @Peachycream :) I would test everyday, i am using CB OPKs and testing same time every morning, mine are the static smiley or blank circle so far all blank circles but in FW according to flo now so we will see!

HRP1990 · 02/06/2021 12:19

@Peachycream I’d personally just test every day and DTD as and when you can. I’d be more stressed not testing and worrying that I’ve missed an opportunity?

My boyfriend woke me up in the middle of the night to DTD randomly.. cram it in when you can haha

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Peachycream · 02/06/2021 12:01

@Ksamson555 Awh sorry you’re still getting a negative hun, I wonder who’s gunna be our first BFP, I’m excited to find out! I think I’m more excited for you guys than I am myself 🤣

Welcome back @Aries491!

Ladies I’m driving myself insane over here about missing it, Googling like a crazy woman! Someone talk me off my ledge 🤣

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Aries491 · 02/06/2021 11:25

Hi everyone! Been absent on here the past few days and so much to catch up on i need to settle down with a brew and run through! Hope everyone is doing okay and had a nice Bank Holiday weekend?! I am currently CD11 so starting my FW, using CB OPKs but trying not to stress too much just DTD when we feel like it :)
Baby dust to all! X

Ksamson555 · 02/06/2021 10:50

@HRP1990 yeah they did but negative 😔 so I'm wondering if maybe I didn't ovulate last cycle or something 🤷🏻‍♀️ normally I get ovulating pains on my right side so I'll look out for those and EWCM... Will try and DTD as much as I can persuade my other half to 🤣 but think I might have to track from my next cycle as I've no idea where abouts I am rn!

HRP1990 · 02/06/2021 10:47

@KayL1988 my boyfriend rang me as I clicked on the video. How does he know 😂👀

@Ksamson555 thank you! Did your tests come!? I’d be dying to test again being so late! 🤞🏻

Ksamson555 · 02/06/2021 10:36

@HRP1990 good luck on this cycle 👏🏻 exciting that you're ovulating!!

@Peachycream I've used CB but just the ones that a static so you either get a smiley or you don't! I know what you mean about counting a cycle out... it's stressful knowing that you might not DTD in time if you have conflicting plans!

I've also heard that it takes sperm 12 hours or so to travel to where it needs to be 😂 so DTD before the smiley is probably a good thing!

Hahaha the sperm convo has had me giggling 😂🤣

KayL1988 · 02/06/2021 10:15

@Peachycream urgh I get that! Let us know what you decide to do!!

@SareBear87 I watched this video

about fertilisation and was amazed at how my body kills off sperm. Then I thought about all the sperm that die or get trapped along the way - and my body has to clean them up too. Honestly I get why AF is so angry now... she spends so long decorating my uterus... then I don't get pregnant AND my body has to clean up the dead sperm!
HRP1990 · 02/06/2021 10:11

@SareBear87 floating off into the void haha.

@peachycream I feel exactly the same. Stressed if I do, and stressed if I don’t. I like to know because the stress of not knowing is stressful.

Anyway I’m going to go and stress some more 😂

SareBear87 · 02/06/2021 10:08

Sometime I feel too much info is stressful!

I've always wondered what happens to the sperm that make it to end of the Fallopian tube? I mean... is it like a space film where they just float off into the void?

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Peachycream · 02/06/2021 10:07

Thing is my heart says leave it and just live in the moment like you say, but my head is like, no bitch ya gotta know!!! I’ll have to see which one takes over tomorrow.

Trouble is, what if I leave it tomorrow and I should have gotta a static, then test Friday and get a static that I think is gunna last 48 hours but I missed the 1st 24 because I didn’t test!

You see how this is gunna spiral pretty quickly for me? 🤣

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1stimer16 · 02/06/2021 09:56

@HRP1990 ha that’s the same as me....just ignore the actual biology and see what happens.

KayL1988 · 02/06/2021 09:55

Yeah it varies like HRP said. If it's stressing you out @Peachycream then I'd say stop testing - stress is not necessary. If I felt like it was stress I'd just DTD at much as I can for the next week but live in absolute bliss of not knowing when I actually ovulated this month.

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Peachycream · 02/06/2021 09:54

@HRP1990 it was one of those things that I just came across and I couldn’t not look at it it was that odd! I ended up going through all of the pictures watching it happen step by step and at each one gradually getting more like.......oh my god! Wtf!!! 😂

That does help thank you! Providing I don’t get a static tomorrow I should JUST make it in time

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HRP1990 · 02/06/2021 09:45

@Peachycream as I’ve got older I get more freaked out, the thought of this happening sends me over the edge 😂 I couldn’t watch it!

I’m not sure if this helps but I got a static smiley yesterday and says it stays for 48 hours. (It was the first day I used it so I didn’t see any flashing smileys ) but I’d DTD as much as possible in the run up as the sperm can last for 5 days 🤞🏻

I read on the box some people see it flash for days and days! Others like 1/2?

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Peachycream · 02/06/2021 09:38

Has anyone seen what it looks like by the way? They captured the moment of ovulation on camera and you can see the pictures on google. It’s the weirdest thing, it looks like an alien spitting out a cod liver oil capsule

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Peachycream · 02/06/2021 09:35

Like a day out at the lido @HRP1990

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HRP1990 · 02/06/2021 09:34

@KayL1988

Also the static smiley doesn't mean the eggs there does it - just that it's on its way down in the next 24-48hrs plus sperm can live for up to 5 days so there's still a fair chance.

The thought of sperm just chilling inside me for 5 days when I'm dtd lots around ovulation still weirds me out. All having a party in there waiting for my egg to hopefully show up!

This freaks me out too! The thought of sperm just pitching up for 5 days and having a swim about 😂
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Peachycream · 02/06/2021 09:30

Mate not Kate

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Peachycream · 02/06/2021 09:30

🤣🤣 can you imagine? All sitting on bar stools with a pint like “.....nah Kate you’ve got no chance with her! She’s looking at me!”
“No way! I’ll arm wrestle you for her!!!!”

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Peachycream · 02/06/2021 09:28

I don’t know if just to stop testing just to save myself disappointment? What would you do? Xxx

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KayL1988 · 02/06/2021 09:27

Hahaha @Peachycream that made me laugh 😂😂

I like to imagine them all chilling like in a pub giving it some bravado about whose going to get to the egg first. 'Nooo mate honestly .... I'm speedy as anything'