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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Newbie looking for some support

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Peachycream · 27/05/2021 20:44

Hi ladies,

I’ve been lurking for a few days, just seeing what the deal is, trying to work out some of the terminology used, mostly going to post but then getting scared and carry on lurking haha.

I don’t really have anyone I can talk about the TTC journey with in my real life as we aren’t telling anyone as it stands so I’m hoping maybe I can make a few friends here that I can obsess and stress out with 🤣

I’m currently CD 7 in my first cycle so tracking with OPKs every day right now so that I can get a clearer picture of my cycle each month.

I’m 30 and this will be our 1st,

If anyone has any advice/is in a similar position to me or just wants a natter I’d love to hear from you 😊

Xx

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GingerTea333 · 13/06/2021 20:29

@Peachycream you never know, these could all be good signs! I always know when 🧙‍♀️ is coming because I literally cannot stop eating. Like on top of the cramps and spots and night sweats and the upset of not being pregnant, I also put back on all the weight I’ve lost the rest of the month just in a few days of carb bingeing!

I’m not freaking out too much about this month but I already know he’s going to be away at the wrong time next month which I am irrationally mad with him about and blaming him 100%.

@glasspaw excited to hear about the renovations! And now you have a nursery to plan out too!

glasspaw · 13/06/2021 20:29

Thanks @GingerTea333 😊😊

@Peachycream @KayL1988 new kitchen and some hallway decoration. It’ll be great when it’s all done but right now it’s very messy and awful!

I’m 32 and one of my first thoughts was “I have literally no idea what to do next” I know people tend to tell people at 12 weeks but the in between bit is a total mystery.

I’m going to call my GP tomorrow just to find out what the protocol is. Would be nice to get an idea of some of the things that happen in the near term.

Not sure when I’ll tell work. My job is desk based so no adjustments need to be made or anything, but I guess it depends what my symptoms are like. I think if I start needing to take time off I’ll probably let them know at that point but I don’t want to tell people too quickly in case I jinx it!

HRP1990 · 13/06/2021 20:27

Sorry girls busy day in London today!

@glasspaw were renovating at the moment too! I’ve put the heat gun on hold whilst we’re TTC, melting paint off wood isn’t the best idea at the moment 😂

@Peachycream I read the Amazon reviews too, I think lots of people were saying the tests were fakes! I bought some in Superdrug this afternoon for tomorrow if 🧙🏻‍♀️ Isn’t here.

Haha DTD with the fan on. Our fan is in the loft from last year! I may have to lay on my dogs cool matt this evening if I can’t cool down

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Peachycream · 13/06/2021 20:13

@GingerTea333 you’re in this same boat I was in this cycle 🙈 oh was away and didn’t get to DTD until what my apps say was O day! At least you don’t seem to be having a full on freak out about it like I did 😂

Build and igloo and get down and dirty! Maybe don’t sit on this blocks though 🤔 haha!

Yeah it made me laugh when I found it haha I think my 🧙 is imminent, which would be brutal as I’m only 8DPO, had all the cramps, back ache and aching hips all afternoon, but it is what it is 🤷‍♀️

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Peachycream · 13/06/2021 20:07

That’s what I always thought too @KayL1988 funny isn’t it, we’re all putting all of our energy into getting the BFP but not 100% sure what to do once it happens 🤣

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GingerTea333 · 13/06/2021 20:07

Hi ladies just catching up on all your news... @glasspaw congratulations!!! Amazing news 😍😍😍

Hope everyone else is doing well. My CB monitor says I’m now in high fertility so gearing up for O. My OH has been away for a couple of weeks, due back tomorrow so I am stealing the ice pack igloo idea and will be pouncing on him when he returns. Hopefully he’ll be too horny after 2 weeks away to not care how sweaty and gross this weather is making me!

Btw also loving the 🧙‍♀️ for AF. I will be using that in a couple of weeks!

KayL1988 · 13/06/2021 20:03

Ohhh yes tell us about the house @glasspaw!!! So glad you've had a nice day!!

I don't know @Peachycream ... I've always just assumed you make an appointment with your GP to confirm it and then you get told what to do 😅

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Peachycream · 13/06/2021 19:55

Thanks @KayL1988 I guess they’re just one of those things that more people will give a negative review for than a positive one?

@SkeletonSkins at least if it’s shorter it gets it out of the way quicker 😂 hoping it all works out for you this cycle lovely!

@glasspaw Awh that’s lovely, I’m glad you’ve had a good day. Oooooh what are you doing to the house? I love interiors! It gives me life 😂

I know it seems like miles away but from what ive heard and seen on here pregnancy flies by so enjoy it! What will you do tomorrow? Will you sort out a GP appointment?

This is going to sound really naive for a 30 year old woman, but do any of us actually know what to do after we get our BFP? 😂

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glasspaw · 13/06/2021 19:45

@Peachycream haha. It’s been a great day thanks 😊

Honestly, we are in the middle of a huge home renovation at the moment so I've been balancing the tidal wave of shock with the need to get a tonne of DIY done 😂😂 I think I’m glad for the distraction though tbh, it feels like there’s a long way to go before the 12 week semi-safety net! We did get out for our walk in the sunshine though which was lovely.

KayL1988 · 13/06/2021 19:37

I've ordered a FRER from Amazon and it was fine... but bought a pack from boots when I was nearby because I'd Also seen some bad reviews!

I know @SkeletonSkins ... not so bad on holiday because you have nothing else to do and usually there is aircon!

Short AF is good... start of a new cycle too!

SkeletonSkins · 13/06/2021 18:55

DTD with a fan on while it’s melting hot reminds me of being on holiday 😂😂 sadly not quite.

Shorter AF for me than normal and no pain, whereas last month I got really bad cramps. I do feel like the conceive ovulation support might be doing something as it does say it will reduce period pain, plus I came on literally two days after I started taking it, giving me a more normal cycle length than normal (although anovulatory 🙄). Fingers crossed it was the reset my body needs and I get a nice earlier ovulation this month. Having PCOS means I can get a few false starts where my body tries to ovulate but fails.

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Peachycream · 13/06/2021 18:53

Ladies were do you buy your FRERs? I was going to get some on Amazon but a lot of the reviews are bad :/ do you get them on there and have no issues? Or am I better off popping to the pharmacy?

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KayL1988 · 13/06/2021 17:33

@SareBear87 I got peak yesterday!! DTD in the morning with the fan on is the way forward.. 😂😅

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Peachycream · 13/06/2021 17:22

😂😂😂 @SareBear87 if you have any spare once you’ve finished building your igloo can you send some my way? 🤣

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SareBear87 · 13/06/2021 17:17

@Peachycream I wish!! May have to get the picnic ice blocks out the freezer and use them as a bed 🤣🤣

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Peachycream · 13/06/2021 17:03

Do you have a chest freezer @SareBear87 😂😂

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SareBear87 · 13/06/2021 17:01

Nowt to report here. Today is O day (CD14) and me and DP are looking at each other like "I'm too hot to want to DTD right now let alone do it!" 😅

I think the fan may left on tonight 😂

How is everyone else getting on?

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Peachycream · 13/06/2021 16:59

How has your day been @glasspaw? How are you feeling? Tell us everything about your big day 😂

Welcome back @ConfusedNewbie21

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glasspaw · 13/06/2021 16:49

Thanks @ConfusedNewbie21😊 a fabulous surprise this morning. I don’t even know what made me test as I was so convinced it wasn’t this month! Intuition I guess haha!

ConfusedNewbie21 · 13/06/2021 13:01

Hi ladies! I just wanted to check in on how you're all doing??  I see that congratulations is in order for @glasspaw Thanks!!

Still no AF for me but I'm banned from testing for a few weeks.

KayL1988 · 13/06/2021 09:21

Lucky woman .. so cute!!! Stick with my explanation and enjoy the sunshine 🥰

I know @HRP1990.. woman's body is super speedy when you think about everything our body does!! I find it fascinating think I'm our resident researcher 😂

glasspaw · 13/06/2021 09:15

@Peachycream he is incredible. I’m a lucky woman.

No more google spiralling for me today. We’ve decided to go for a walk in a bit with no phones to try and process the news (and enjoy the sunshine!)

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Peachycream · 13/06/2021 09:12

@glasspaw I was supposed to tag you in that but forgot in all the excitement 😂

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Peachycream · 13/06/2021 09:11

Ah you’ve filled my heart 💜 this is all just too cute for a Sunday morning 🥰

Your OH sounds like a good man, it’s easy to say but the more you look, the more negativity you will find and neither your nor your little human need that in your lives.

Try to keep calm and positive and we’re all here to keep you out of your google spiral too!

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glasspaw · 13/06/2021 09:05

@KayL1988 ah I guess that makes sense. I’ve been frantically googling and got stuck in an ectopic pregnancy rabbit hole, I prefer your explanation haha!

I’m a bit of a worrier. OH has already confiscated my phone once this morning to prevent my googling stuff that is going to stress me out haha.

@HRP1990 I guess everyone is different, but I’ve been quite nauseous for the last two weeks with dull cramping (like ovulation pains that never stopped). My nipples have also been horribly sore, to the point where I had to abandon wearing a bra. I had assumed that was to do with the heat though. Maybe not?

Thanks for all your kind words. I hope you all get your BFPs so soon!!!