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How long did it take you to conceive dc1?

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pizzaobsessed · 20/05/2021 09:19

Feeling a bit down in the dumps after AF turned up at the end of cycle 4. I know it's not a long time to try for, I know. Apparently up to a year is perfectly normal. But it's just so hard getting your hopes up to then get a big AF-shaped slap in the face.

How long did it take you to get your BFP when trying for your first baby?

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Nat4392 · 21/05/2021 13:54

Pretty much bang on a year which was 14 cycles for us. We were absolutely convinced something was wrong!

girlmama32 · 21/05/2021 11:35

[quote pizzaobsessed]@girlmama32 I totally see the logic in that, it's just hard to let go. It was easier with cycles 2 and 3 as I was almost pissed off getting AF and I found it easier to feel like that than feel sad.
But I definitely think there's a lot of benefit in just relaxing so I think I'll satisfy myself that I'm ovulating this next cycle and then stop tracking.
Thank you for sharing and congratulations! [/quote]
Thankyou, good luck to you! Hope you get your positive soon Smile

ChrisWitlessPatrickUnbalanced · 21/05/2021 09:48

@Peachypips78

Nearly a year. DS2 was first time!

Same.

Juno231 · 21/05/2021 09:44

18 months and counting!

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 21/05/2021 09:36

@Dollywilde

Cycle 9, 10 months all in. I was worried as if basically convinced myself that you either fall pregnant in the first 3 months or you wind up taking years and needing fertility treatment but there’s plenty of us in the 3 - 12 cycles window who got our BFPs. Be kind to yourself but try not to get too disheartened, my cycle 4 AF turned up the day before our wedding anniversary and I really let it spoil the day. Was in my third trimester by the time our anniversary rocked around again!
I worried about the same thing as it does seem like most people fall pregnant in the first couple of months. As it happens it took 3 years and IVF to get pregnant with DD1. DD2 was a much wanted surprise! So basically, you just never know. Get the timing right and try not to worry too much yet! It can also take a while for the body to get into a rhythm after the pill etc. Good luck!
ArtfulScreamer · 21/05/2021 09:30

DD 5 years and a round of IVF unexplained infertility, currently 35 weeks with a surprise conceived 18 months after DD birth, we didn't use birth control as didn't think we needed to and were gearing up for more treatment.

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pizzaobsessed · 21/05/2021 09:24

@girlmama32 I totally see the logic in that, it's just hard to let go. It was easier with cycles 2 and 3 as I was almost pissed off getting AF and I found it easier to feel like that than feel sad.
But I definitely think there's a lot of benefit in just relaxing so I think I'll satisfy myself that I'm ovulating this next cycle and then stop tracking.
Thank you for sharing and congratulations!

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Loops01 · 21/05/2021 06:32

Cycle 4 was the worst for me. Lost all the optimism and it no longer became fun or easy! Currently cycle 10 and never had any sign of a positive. No known issues and bloods all fine and DHs SA is above average so 🤷‍♀️

GintyMcGinty · 20/05/2021 23:58

4 years

girlmama32 · 20/05/2021 23:58

We actually only conceived when I stopped overthinking it and actually trying, I obsessed for about 9 months then I decided I'd just let it go and see what happened and the next cycle I was pregnant. I didn't realise how much stressing about it would affect being able to conceive.

PaleGreenAndBrightOrange · 20/05/2021 19:29

Dc1 was a surprise, 3 years ago.

Now TTC number 2 since September and no joy, so I guess it’s totally random.

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pizzaobsessed · 20/05/2021 19:22

Thank you all for replying, it's really helped put it in perspective for me

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DumpedByText · 20/05/2021 16:22

4 years, and 5 cycles of IVF, worth it though 😊

duvets · 20/05/2021 16:18

13 months here. Then tried unsuccessfully for 2+ yrs for a second.

Chanel05 · 20/05/2021 16:14

Started ttc in June 2018
Fell pregnant in February 2019
Had a missed miscarriage, which I had surgery for in May 2019
Fell pregnant in December 2019
Gave birth in September 2020.

From start to birth, 27 months.

CPsRus · 20/05/2021 16:12

8 months, ended in miscarriage, now at 13 months ttc #1 and counting...

Mylittlepony374 · 20/05/2021 16:11

5 years. Found out I was pregnant by the compulsory pregnancy test in the hospital before invasive fertility investigations.
Accidentally got pregnant with number 2 when number 1 was 11 months old and still breastfeeding.
I wish you luck.

choccrumpet · 20/05/2021 16:08

Our 10th month in and still trying! Lovely to read some of these responses, gives me hope

Peachypips78 · 20/05/2021 13:13

Nearly a year. DS2 was first time!

20viona · 20/05/2021 12:45

6 weeks.

I haven't started TTC a second yet but I already worry that for some reason it will take ages or not happen at all.

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pizzaobsessed · 20/05/2021 12:36

@TTCAli that's such a lovely way for things to turn out. I'd love to almost forget we're ttc so I guess once I've satisfied myself that I'm ovulating, I will try and drop everything and give up tracking. Thank you for sharing and a huge congratulations on getting your BFP Grin

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TTCAli · 20/05/2021 12:27

@pizzaobsessed at the end of cycle 4 last month I sort of accepted the fact that it's perfectly normal to take around a year or more. I bought myself a menstrual cup (I hadn't had periods for 6 years on the implant but had accepted I'm now going to have quite a few), became less obsessed with OPKs, and was looking forward to my holiday next week knowing I'd be enjoying a few drinks and that the timing fell nicely for my next fertile week.

I got my BFP on Tuesday!

It's absolutely infuriating when people say "relax and it will happen", and I don't think that's necessarily what happened to me. I think I just appreciated it's a journey and then got a lovely surprise.

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pizzaobsessed · 20/05/2021 11:41

I'm so sorry @rainbowbabybump I can't imagine how horrific it's been. Sending lots of love

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pizzaobsessed · 20/05/2021 11:40

@Frandler it's great to hear from someone in exactly the same boat! I've ordered some digital opks for next cycle to double check if I'm actually ovulating. If I am then I think I'll stop tracking all of it on the app I've got and see what happens. I thought having a busy job wfh and plenty to fill my evenings and weekends, would stop me becoming obsessed. Wrong-o! Blush

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pizzaobsessed · 20/05/2021 11:37

Thanks for your responses, I don't feel alone now. I'm so sorry to hear some of you have lost babies and you're still trying. You are warriors given I'm fed up at 4 months! I guess I was just naive to think it would happen quickly - all that sex ed when they told you it was sooooo easy to get pregnant Hmm

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