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Talk sense into me...seriously losing the plot!Help!

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Anonapapple · 01/05/2021 05:51

We were supposed to wait a few months to ttc. I decided to track my cycles, as I havent tried to conceive for a few years and wanted to get to know my fertile days.

I had a positive opk on the 27th and it must have gone to my head, because we had sex that night and definitely didn't prevent. A few hours before, I felt something go 'pop pop pop' in my left ovary area (I always feel ovulation). I was out for a walk as I felt it, and the evening sky was so beautiful and I felt all misty eyed about creation. Everything inside me was telling me to go for it, so we did 🙈

The next day I had that feeling of panic, like 'what have I done!' 😄. Then that was replaced by an unbelievable sense of giddiness and excitement to the point I started wondering if I was going to have some kind of reverse panic attack! Honestly, I was so excited that I was nearly sick! I am a 38 year old grown up!

You see, I had thought that ttc was off the cards as my husband didnt want any more kids, but he recently changed his mind out of the blue, to my complete delight, so it's like a dream that I am able to consider another.

The problem: I am absolutely convinced that I am pregnant, or that I will be in a few days when the egg implants. The thought that I am not pregnant seems impossible. The day that I conceived I wrote in my ovulation app 'diary' that I knew it would happen that night. (I just read this back to myself and noticed how I said 'conceived', not 'had sex').

I keep wanting to tell people I'm pregnant, including my boss (to help make decisions about staffing allocations). I just had sex a few days ago! Oh, and it's a boy, as if I'm not being ridiculous enough! I have even named him!

This is totally ridiculous! There is only a 20% chance of conception each month I think, and I am sure that decreases with age. This is our first month trying! There is every reason that I will not be pregnant!

I am constantly going around with a horrible sense of giddiness and excitement that is not congruent with reality and is actually physically uncomfortable. I feel like jumping up and down and squealing with joy at many points throughout the day.

Does anyone else feel like this? I am normally a very stable, pragmatic and generally realistic (possibly overly hopeful at times) person and this is totally bonkers to me! Please, can anyone relate? Or can a very sensible mumsnetter come along and give me a stern deflation?

I actually feel like I can't do another week of this. I have felt excited to the point that I wonder will I actually faint! Smelling salts anyone????

Help!

(If, by the reasonably high chance that I am NOT pregnant, I will update this thread for any other ladies going totally bonkers to help them get a grip of themselves too! Even when I was typing that, I was saying to myself 'yeah right, as if I'm not pregnant!'.

Help!

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Mumbot345635 · 06/05/2021 06:59

Thank you herewego. Fingers crossed for you too.

hewegoagain · 06/05/2021 06:57

@Mumbot345635 Don't give up hope hun. After DS was born (horrifying birth) DH said never again. 9 years later and here we are, he finally agreed to give it another a go.

I'm 35 and my BMI is 29 (same as it was when I conceived at 26). My GP recently told me that she was older than I am when she conceived. There are so many factors to consider. I'm sure it'll happen for you x

hewegoagain · 06/05/2021 06:53

@Anonapapple i'm going to buy a test today to take tomorrow morning, assuming AF doesn't arrive. Temp still a little high, bit has dropped 0.1°c from yesterday 😐

I already downloaded the pregnancy+ app 😅 and my due date would be 16th January.

We're all bonkers 😂

Mumbot345635 · 06/05/2021 06:03

Op I’m in a similar space to you. Desperate for another child but my OH has said no. He now reluctantly half heartedly tries each month but I am too old and fat now to get pregnant I think as it’s not happening.

But in my head I’ve been pregnant for most of the past two years. Desire is an amazingly strong emotion and can convince us of all sorts of things. I’ve really scared myself sometimes but how a sane, rational person like myself can have truly believed I was pregnant at times when I clearly wasn’t!!

I hope your dreams are more reality than mine! But the brain is a powerful thing and desire can lead it down all sorts of rabbit holes!!!

Mishmased · 06/05/2021 05:57

@Anonapapple who knows it could still be a bit too early. It is a lovely thread and I'm rooting for you even if it doesn't happen this month.x

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Anonapapple · 06/05/2021 04:30

Aw thank you everybody. It's so nice to know you are all rooting for me! Please don't be disappointed for me if it doesn't turn out to be true. Even if it had all been in my head, it's still been a fun and at times even quite magical😁 and I already have 2 beautiful, sweet children that I am so grateful for.

I dunked Mr Frer into my fmu. I woke at 5.10 for a wee and had to use that, but it seemed quite diluted. Anyway, its negative but
A) it's still early and ig I implanted, I suspect it was only yesterday
B) it's a sobering reminder to take each day as it comes and don't put too much emphasis on the hypothetical future!

Looking at my bfn and am feeling at peace that maybe it was in my head, maybe it's not my month, maybe it won't happen at all. I've enjoyed updating you all and hearing your stories, including a BFP! Thanks for all the support. So glad I didnt tell my boss that I'm pregnant! Imagine! 😄😄😄

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24GinDrinkingOnceTheKidsInBed · 06/05/2021 00:44

Well, I’m wide awake now thinking about peeing on the frer already.

Must.. hold out.. until morning Sad

Mishmased · 05/05/2021 22:45

@Anonapapple this is a great thread and it made me laugh. Hope you get your BFP soon. I'm at the other end and due my third in a few weeks.

tierneytarny · 05/05/2021 22:38

Oh and all this has started to pop in to my head over the last day or so as I don’t even know if I ovulated this month (whole other worry!) or whether I am ovulating whilst breastfeeding (periods returned but lack of CM).

tierneytarny · 05/05/2021 22:36

Ahhh I’ve convinced myself I have caught this month....we didn’t even try near when I was ovulating (work was busy, life got in the way). But obviously, I must be pregnant now...

I’ve even started thinking about when to tell work, what to do about nursery for DC1, how I want my labour to go.

I have officially lost it!

Quinn26 · 05/05/2021 21:42

This thread has cheered me up tonight. Good luck tomorrow hoping you get your BFP.
Xx

OutComeTheWolves · 05/05/2021 21:28

Totally over invested in this now! For each of my pregnancies before getting a bfp I've had a totally overwhelming feeling of 'I must be pregnant'. With my daughter I was out walking the dog and started feeling queasy and I remember thinking really clearly, ah that's my daughter.

Disclaimer - I also spent every other month of ttc 'knowing' I was pregnant too but just the occasions when I was actually correct have stuck in my mind!

indecisivewoman81 · 05/05/2021 21:15

Good luck for tomorrow I've just read the whole thread and am really invested in this for you!

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Anonapapple · 05/05/2021 21:04

Oh I have also been thinking of gender reveal parties, but that started last month when thought we had had a contraception fail (we hadnt, boo!)

Just for clarification: the thought of a gender reveal normally doesnt appeal, but hormones. Before my daughter was born, I remember ranting how I didnt want any pink or any of that princess crap moulding her into a narrow, limiting stereotype. Then she was born and I was squeezing a bow hairband on her head as soon as I could, and even wondered how soon was too soon to piece her ears (I didn't do it, obviously 😬).

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Anonapapple · 05/05/2021 20:58

@PoopMaster I empathise so much! Your kids will be so excited as they are old enough to understand and help out!! Mine are 3 and 6, so still a handful but I always wanted loads of kids. I was pretty deflated when my husband said he didnt want anymore and that was that. I feel like I have been given an amazing second chance.

I'm so excited to see how your tests progress. Have you calculated your due date?? I did, before I had even ovulated! 22nd January haha!!!

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PoopMaster · 05/05/2021 20:50

@Anonapapple thank you Smile I definitely need another test to believe it, hope leaving 48 hours will make it a more conclusive "yes!" I just don't trust myself after being so convinced and yet wrong last time.

My two are turning 10 and 8 in the summer, didn't think we'd get here at all as I'd been almost waiting for permission to get broody all this time, so when DH asked this year I was quick to get on board with the idea. I'm glad we waited in a way - the last two pregnancies there were two of use getting excited which was nice, but this time it will be four! How old are your DC?

I've not quite got to picking names but today I was wondering on my way home how many KIT days to use at work (I really like my job this time round) and when to plan them in for, how the baby logistics would work...remembering baby logistics around feeding being a thing, feels like riding a bike for the first time in ages!

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Anonapapple · 05/05/2021 20:49

Tucking Mr Frer into the drawer for the night, ready to stick him into an empty plastic dinosaur shell full of first-morning urine tomorrow. Dont think he realises what this means to me. He better get cracking with that miu detection!!!

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Anonapapple · 05/05/2021 20:47

@Rach247 they are 3 and 6. Youngest justbstarted sleeping through a year ago so think hubby forgets what it's like. I dont, but am still willing to go back again one last time!

@hewegoagain I am the opposite. The thought of possibly having the option to know but not knowing drives me bonkers! A bit like finding out the sex...I had to know what my second would be as soon as humanly possible! I'm not impatient in any other areas of my life, just this one!hope you get a bfp on friday!

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hewegoagain · 05/05/2021 20:22

@Anonapapple I haven't tested yet, i'm trying to be strong and resist a few more days. I think i'm so worried that it'll be negative and I don't want to burst the bubble just yet lol

Rach247 · 05/05/2021 19:56

I’m still in the midst of sleepless nights with DD2 and have sworn off having another, but this thread is making me broody! There’s something so incredible and magical about conception and pregnancy, despite them at the same time being so ordinary and commonplace.

OP, how old are the two children you have?

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Anonapapple · 05/05/2021 19:39

@Nora11 that sounds so tough. I really hope you get your BFP soon!

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Anonapapple · 05/05/2021 19:37

@hewegoagain sounds very promising! Have you tested yet?

@24GinDrinkingOnceTheKidsInBed I'm 8dpo too and it's a weird limbo land. Early enough to start feeling things but not really that early to get a bfp, at least for me anyway!

Seeing as I have been having breast twinges (some quite deep), cramps and the weird cm, I wondered would the pregnancy hormone be at a high enough level to pick something up. Cue me traipsing to the shop for a FRER that was negative.

With my first child I tested on 8dpo, bfn and then left it a few days and got a strong bfp on 10dpo. With my second I did one test for fun on 9dpo and nearly keeled over when a positive came up right away. I didnt really think I had done it either time, so this was a big shock. This cycle I have been testing since around 5dpo, burning through so many ic tests that I had to order a new pack today.

I never thought I would be in this position again. I really never thought my husband would change his mind about ttc and have spent years just hoping and praying that he would come to me and ask me to try for another. This is exactly what happened, and those few years of planning and daydreaming about this child i thought I would never have, have all come to the fore. I have been longing for this for so long, just the chance to try and now I have it, it makes sense that all of those emotions are being channelled into my situation so forcefully.

Anyway, just another little brain puke. Nobody except the thousands of people who read Mumsnet knows that I am thinking any of these things! You guys are the select few that I am confiding in 😄

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Nora11 · 05/05/2021 19:27

I love this thread! I am not in the same position at the moment as I just started my period on my 14th cycle of trying 😩 So I have been feeling down in the dumps today, but this thread has really made me smile and cheered me up 😂 @Anonapapple and everyone else in the TWW I am really rooting for you to get your positive test soon! 🤞

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Anonapapple · 05/05/2021 19:24

@PoopMaster congratulations! And that line is very clear. No squinting needed! Its definitely a positive!!
Oh my gosh, I am so happy for you!
Is this number 3????

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PoopMaster · 05/05/2021 17:48

@Anonapapple

Just saw you're testing on friday (woman of steel!). Can I see a pic of today's test??
Behold my faint line...it's actually fainter than I remembered it, haha.

I've definitely been feeling a bit queasy and that feels better when I've eaten something, I might be able to look forward to my twice-daily run to the loo in a couple of weeks time (as an aside my mum and sisters both "yeah feeling nauseous is rubbish isn't it" "no, I'm actually sick" "oh really, nobody else in our family has before, that's interesting" "thanks I feel so special". Both DCs Envy (not envy!)

Boobs are not trying to attack me this evening so I might get outside and do some gardening tonight, in an attempt to distract myself.

Fingers crossed for all you ladies 🤞

Talk sense into me...seriously losing the plot!Help!