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Talk sense into me...seriously losing the plot!Help!

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Anonapapple · 01/05/2021 05:51

We were supposed to wait a few months to ttc. I decided to track my cycles, as I havent tried to conceive for a few years and wanted to get to know my fertile days.

I had a positive opk on the 27th and it must have gone to my head, because we had sex that night and definitely didn't prevent. A few hours before, I felt something go 'pop pop pop' in my left ovary area (I always feel ovulation). I was out for a walk as I felt it, and the evening sky was so beautiful and I felt all misty eyed about creation. Everything inside me was telling me to go for it, so we did 🙈

The next day I had that feeling of panic, like 'what have I done!' 😄. Then that was replaced by an unbelievable sense of giddiness and excitement to the point I started wondering if I was going to have some kind of reverse panic attack! Honestly, I was so excited that I was nearly sick! I am a 38 year old grown up!

You see, I had thought that ttc was off the cards as my husband didnt want any more kids, but he recently changed his mind out of the blue, to my complete delight, so it's like a dream that I am able to consider another.

The problem: I am absolutely convinced that I am pregnant, or that I will be in a few days when the egg implants. The thought that I am not pregnant seems impossible. The day that I conceived I wrote in my ovulation app 'diary' that I knew it would happen that night. (I just read this back to myself and noticed how I said 'conceived', not 'had sex').

I keep wanting to tell people I'm pregnant, including my boss (to help make decisions about staffing allocations). I just had sex a few days ago! Oh, and it's a boy, as if I'm not being ridiculous enough! I have even named him!

This is totally ridiculous! There is only a 20% chance of conception each month I think, and I am sure that decreases with age. This is our first month trying! There is every reason that I will not be pregnant!

I am constantly going around with a horrible sense of giddiness and excitement that is not congruent with reality and is actually physically uncomfortable. I feel like jumping up and down and squealing with joy at many points throughout the day.

Does anyone else feel like this? I am normally a very stable, pragmatic and generally realistic (possibly overly hopeful at times) person and this is totally bonkers to me! Please, can anyone relate? Or can a very sensible mumsnetter come along and give me a stern deflation?

I actually feel like I can't do another week of this. I have felt excited to the point that I wonder will I actually faint! Smelling salts anyone????

Help!

(If, by the reasonably high chance that I am NOT pregnant, I will update this thread for any other ladies going totally bonkers to help them get a grip of themselves too! Even when I was typing that, I was saying to myself 'yeah right, as if I'm not pregnant!'.

Help!

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Anonapapple · 05/07/2021 06:44

@Mishmased congrats! Hope you are enjoying your new baby!

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Mishmased · 04/07/2021 23:36

@Anonapapple congrats! That's fab news! I've been following your post since the first day but was off the past few weeks with a new baby. Congrats to all with BFP.
@PoopMaster so sorry for your loss. I hope it all goes well and you have the time to grieve in your own way. Look after yourself.x

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Anonapapple · 04/07/2021 21:00

@PoopMaster thank you for sharing that. I cannot begin to imagine the pain and shock that you must have felt when you got this awful news. Please take some time to be kind to yourself. I love the idea of keeping the picture and showing it to your older children at some point . Every time we embark on this parenting journey, we really do leave our hearts wide open. So much love, but so much potential for pain.

Look after yourself and let us know how you are doing.

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Rach247 · 03/07/2021 21:54

Oh @PoopMaster, I am so very sorry to hear that. You sound like you’re being very brave but I hope you have space and time to grieve. I’m very sorry for your loss.

PoopMaster · 03/07/2021 21:39

Hi @Rach247 and thank you for asking. It's not been a happy ending here, the technician started scanning and taking measurements but didn't say anything, we could clearly see a baby but she asked us to wait a minute while she fetched a colleague, they were very discreet (just a nod between them) but we knew it wasn't good news. The baby measures 9 weeks and looks perfectly normal, but there was no heartbeat. She showed me where my pulse was jumping alongside and the baby was just very still, no mistaking it really.

We were taken to a quiet room where I was offered a picture (I just wanted one to take away), and then a doctor came and explained my options. My body clearly still thinks it's pregnant (zero bleeding and only the faintest of cramps tonight) so I'm booked in Monday to start medical management to give things a nudge. I want to try and be gentle with the whole thing and hopefully not have to do anything invasive but there's a chance I may still need surgery. So not the weekend I was imagining and we're in unknown territory now, but I'm determined to try again as soon as I've had a good reset. This little one's picture will stay with me and one day when they're older, I will show it to my other kids so they understand how much of our hearts go into making our children, and sometimes get a bit bruised along the way.

Rach247 · 03/07/2021 17:33

And @PoopMaster?

Rach247 · 03/07/2021 17:32

How was your scan, OP?

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Anonapapple · 26/06/2021 12:10

@PoopMaster that's fantastic! I know its nerve racking! But in sure things will be totally fine and you will get to see your little baby. Cant believe your 12 week scan has come around so soon! I also have an early scan on the same date...please update us!!

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PoopMaster · 26/06/2021 10:00

Hey @Anonapapple I have my 12 week scan on 2nd July. Feeling nervous about it, but also can't wait

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Anonapapple · 24/06/2021 04:34

@choccrumpet no way!! That is amazing! Absolutely delighted for you! Aww, I am so thrilled for you.

I'm waiting for the nausea too!

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choccrumpet · 23/06/2021 18:59

@Anonapapple I know our cycles were matching up until I ovulated later than you but I also got a positive during the same cycle so am currently 5+1 🤗 nice to hear that you're doing well! My worst symptoms are sore boobs and tiredness and a bit of breathlessness. Expecting the nausea to kick in anytime

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Anonapapple · 23/06/2021 17:41

How is everyone doing? Any news? Any updates? Anyone on their tww?

I am 6 weeks pregnant tomorrow. Still no symptoms except for slightly sore breasts. I did a pregnancy test a few days ago just to make sure this wasn't all a dream, and it was a dye stealer. Going for an early scan on the 2nd July.

Hope you are all doing well!

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Gemandi2 · 15/06/2021 11:20

Fab news @glasspaw what a lovely surprise congratulations

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Anonapapple · 13/06/2021 13:02

@glasspaw I am absolutely delighted for you! Your pregnancy senses were switched on for sure!! Congratulations!

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glasspaw · 13/06/2021 08:51

So, this morning threw a bit of a curveball my way…

Maybe I wasn’t imagining all that stuff after all!

Cautiously excited given that it’s still early days.

Talk sense into me...seriously losing the plot!Help!
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Anonapapple · 10/06/2021 05:21

@glasspaw yes it definitely takes the pressure off and I almost feel like I needed the bubble to be burst as it was too much emotionally! Second time, I had zero expectations!
4 weeks today!

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glasspaw · 10/06/2021 04:44

@Anonapapple I think you’re right. I tested and it was BFN. I already feel much more relaxed. I know it’s not over til AF arrives but having tested and seen a no I think I can chill out a bit for the rest of the week!

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Anonapapple · 09/06/2021 15:17

@glasspaw I definitely had every symptom in the book. Honestly, it wasn't just me noticing things my body did...my body was doing things it never usually did. I dry heaved every morning, had weird cramps, my breasts were so tingly (they never are) and I had weird cervical mucus which I never get. I put it down to starting folic acid. I was so sure that I was pregnant! Cycle 2, I knew what had happened last time and dismissed any twinge, but to be honest, there was nothing! I'm 4 weeks tomorrow and there still isnt anything except strange shooting sensations in my back and tops of legs. That is it.

The fact that the first month was a negative actually made the second month SO much easier and I was analysing everything. The tww flew in (well it was only 1 week, really!). Last month I couldnt believe that I wasnt pregnant, this month I cannot believe that I am!!!

So either you are pregnant OR you are getting a very hard lesson on how tricky the female body can be, which will male you much less suspicious and more chilled out next time!

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Bundaberg84 · 09/06/2021 11:02

@glasspaw I'm exactly the same as you 😉 things that are out of my control makes me go crazy.

glasspaw · 09/06/2021 10:22

@Bundaberg84 no bubble bursting at all haha, I am fully aware that the nausea is too early to be related (and probably brought on by nerves if I’m honest, I won’t pretend that the possibility that I could be pregnant isn’t exciting and terrifying in equal measure) just find it funny how our minds can start playing such tricks with us during this time. I’m normally a very rational person so this is all totally out of character for me haha!

Bundaberg84 · 09/06/2021 08:55

@glasspaw fingers crossed for you!
But when it comes to your symptoms, I'm sorry but I might have to burst your bubble :) You said you're nauseous since 10 days, which would mean at 1dpo. That's way too early for early pregnancy symtoms, as implantation won't happen until 6dpo the earliest.
It's very unfair that during the TWW nearly all symptoms could either be related to AF symtoms or pregnancy symptoms, as the progesterone level is the same in both scenarios.
But please don't feel ridiculous, I feel the same each month TTC. And it doesn't help that my body feels like it belongs to a stranger in those two dreadful weeks.
One month I was taking a break, and I tried to actively look for any "pregnancy symptom" during that time. If I didn't know exactly I wasn't pregnant, I could have sworn I was.
And the month I got pregnant? No symptoms at all.
So, even though your symptoms most probably aren't pregnancy related, doesn't mean you aren't ;)

glasspaw · 09/06/2021 08:35

@Bundaberg84 11DPO. AF due Monday 14th :)

Bundaberg84 · 09/06/2021 08:28

@glasspaw how many dpos are you? :)

glasspaw · 09/06/2021 07:42

@Anonapapple ok here is my thought share haha!

I’m only in month 1 of TTC, and I didn’t know much about early pregnancy symptoms other than the typical morning sickness one…

I’ve been nauseous every morning for 10 days now. I accept that my brain could be tricking me into feeling this though because I know it can be a sign of pregnancy, so I wouldn’t read too much into it.

But I’ve also had dull period-like cramps every day (which isn’t normal for me), headaches, boob pain and yesterday a sudden realisation that my gums are really sore.

I didn’t know that any of these things were early pregnancy symptoms until I did some research…so my brain couldn’t have tricked me into feeling these right? Maybe the cramps and headaches could be brought on by TWW stress but gum and boob pain?

So now I’ve kind of convinced myself that I must be haha. I’ll get over it if I’m not because clearly we would need to be very lucky for this to work in month 1 of trying, but I’m finding myself planning milestones already. Due date (classic), when will I be at 12 weeks to start telling family, when should I tell work? I’m getting a lot of questions about my career ambitions over the next year at the moment and I’m finding it hard to answer them because in the back of my head I’m thinking “but I’m probably pregnant so I won’t be here for a little while.”

I feel utterly ridiculous, and I know only time and testing will tell, but it’s very reassuring to know that this wait does strange things to us all.

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Anonapapple · 08/06/2021 15:11

@PoopMaster glad to hear all is bobbling along uneventfully! Bet you can't wait to tell your kids!

@glasspaw please, please share your TTC feelings, especially all the crazy ones!

I am still in shock. It almost happened too fast. I feel like there was no 'build up' like there was last month. Last month I was despairing for that BFP and had every symptom going! This cycle I had zero symptoms and very little expectation and only did a test to rule out pregnancy! I am thrilled and very blessed but am surprisingly having a lot of 'what have I done' episodes. Is this normal, even with a much wanted baby? I just keep thinking of logistical problems and stressing over silly things! I might start a new thread as I don't think this is the right place! Trying to conceive and the conceiving is a totally confusing and strange experience.

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