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1DPO - Anyone want to join for the 2WW?

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IzzT · 20/04/2021 20:20

Hello! First month TTC. Currently 1DPO, no symptoms as of yet, but already feeling stressed at the thought of not knowing if we were successful for two more weeks! Worried we didn't BD enough, we did every other day during the fertile window including day before O. Anyone got any advice or just want to join in the conversation to get us through the wait?

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Daisyrobin123 · 20/04/2021 22:38

Hi @Bee44! 🖐 so nice to have someone else similar join! What do you teach? I teach primary (year 1).

Completely empathise with the symptom spotting! My first cycle was the same - new symptoms that I dont usually get with PMS so really got my hopes up. Then last month AF was 4 days late and I had a mean evap line too! So I'm being stubborn and not symptom spotting this month 🙈
We were similar with our fertile window being extended too!

Sounds really positive, fingers crossed for a lucky egg and sending you lots of good vibes! 🙏🥰

Daisyrobin123 · 20/04/2021 22:32

Yes it does, you're right. A facebook friend announced her pregnancy at the weekend and I automatically thought 'bet it happened first time'. But I have absolutely no idea how long it took - they could have had multiple miscarriages and been trying for a year for all I know. It's just easy to assume it happens first time for everyone. I think when it does happen for me, whether it's this month or in 6 months time, I'd like to be quite open with those around me about how long it took. Most of my friends don't have children yet and I think they would appreciate the honesty and it would help build realistic expectations.

Ha ha I'm glad it's not just me then! Have you had your dog from a pup? Don't get me wrong, I know having a baby won't be easy but at least it won't chew my floorboards 🙈

My partner sounds similar to yours. Hes super supportive and is so ready to be a dad. But he's also soooo chilled about it all and is relaxed like he knows it's going to happen soon and so therefore doesn't need to worry. He doesn't overthink like I do! I'm glad yours is supportive too! 🥰

Bee44 · 20/04/2021 22:23

Hi 👋 I'm also 28, TTC #1 and a teacher so I thought I'd join in this conversation! This is my 4th cycle and I'm currently 3DPO. This month ovulation happened a few days later than expected (CD17 not 14) so our DTD window ended up being extended! I had really high OPK readings just before ovulation, the highest I've ever had, so hoping that means it was a lucky egg. I've had random symptoms these last 3 cycles so I sort of convinced myself I was pregnant each time, it's so disheartening when AF arrives - I'm trying not to symptom spot this time though or early test but we'll see!

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IzzT · 20/04/2021 22:05

Definitely - you read a lot of negative things on here (and I really feel for those struggling) but I think realistically it does paint a picture of everyone struggling for a long time and that just can’t be true!

Haha I feel exactly the same - married, work as a doctor, have a dog but still don’t feel “old enough” to have a baby! I don’t think you’ll ever feel ready though - it’s such a life altering thing so it’s always going to be crazy when it actually happens!

How has your partner been with it all? I’m not sure my hubby really understands much of it or how difficult it can be TTC Confused he’s super supportive though and so far has been great at putting up with my craziness with OPK testing etc. Grin

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Daisyrobin123 · 20/04/2021 21:56

@IzzT Totally understand, feel like I could have written your post! It's nice to have someone the same age in the same situation 🥰 Yes, you're completely right. I think it's easy to get consumed on here too and lots of the posts automatically make you think you're going to struggle/its never going to happen/if you do fall then you'll miscarry. It's hard knowing that even if you've done everything you can and timed it perfectly, it still might not happen that month! But hopefully we can share some good news with each other soon 🥰🌷
You're right, I think part of me really thought it might happen the first time, now it's my third cycle but realistically that's only what - 10 weeks of trying?! So nothing in the grand scheme of things.

I told myself that I'm not allowed to even think about worrying until it's been a year. Hard when like you, I'm impatient and would rather it happen right now!

Yes this would be baby #1! I still can't believe I'm at that age where people are having babies on purpose now! I'm a teacher, own a house and 2 dogs and still dont feel old enough to have a baby on purpose 😂🙈

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IzzT · 20/04/2021 21:36

@Daisyrobin123 I'm also 28 and had no idea what TTC really involved until we decided to start trying! I keep telling myself that I'm still young in the grand scheme of things and statistically it's likely to happen for us pretty quickly - it's so hard knowing it could be months and months though!

Honestly I'm super impatient! 😂I'll probably end up testing early, especially as it's our first month trying. I think it'll be harder to wait if I do get any "symptoms" though. I always thought I had pretty easy cycles, minimal symptoms etc, but this month I feel like I'm noticing every tiny thing so I'll probably find something that feels different, but maybe it's just that I haven't noticed it before 🙈

Is this baby #1 for you too?

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Daisyrobin123 · 20/04/2021 21:05

@IzzT I know exactly what you mean. I'm sure until recently I was so naive to the fact you had to actually wait 2 weeks ish to find out 🙈 (I'm 28 😂).
I've found I'm ok the first week but the second week not knowing is agonising! In my first month I got really painful boobs and nausea for days - neither of which are normal PMS symptoms for me. Then in the second month AF was 4 days late which was cruel! In the end I didn't care if AF showed I just needed to know either way - hate the being in limbo.

Regarding testing I think it depends! I would say wait until at least 10 DPO, though even a negative then doesn't mean your not pregnant. The last 2 cycles I tested the day before I was due, this time I'm going to try and wait until the day after AF is due (if it doesnt show) - although ask me in a few days and I'll probably have changed my mind 🙈 do you think you're going to test early or wait?!

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IzzT · 20/04/2021 20:53

@Daisyrobin123 thanks for saying hi! Yes - I used the Premom app and OPKs. Had my peak on CD14 so O'd on CD15 I think. Still trying to work out what all the numbers/charts etc mean! I think the thing I'm finding the hardest is just not knowing - wouldn't it be great if you could O and then just find out the next day if it worked! I imagine every tiny symptom/feeling I have over the next 2 weeks I'm just going to jump to assuming it's happening! When would you suggest starting testing?

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Daisyrobin123 · 20/04/2021 20:46

Hi @IzzT, I'm 5 DPO so a little ahead but thought I'd say hello 🖐. I was exactly the same in my first month and the 2 week wait went so slowly! I'm on my third cycle now. It sounds like you covered yourselves with every other day. Did you track your ovulation?