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Can’t stop thinking about MMC

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MJ2901 · 12/04/2021 11:22

I’m not even sure why I’m posting I guess it’s just to offload a bit and see if anyone else has ever felt the same. I had a MMC back in December/January and I felt as though I had dealt with it but recently I can’t stop thinking about how far along I should have been and that I’d be more than half way through a pregnancy. My period didn’t come back until 6 weeks after the D&C in January and then my next period was 5 weeks later so my cycle is still a bit all over the place so I reckon we’ve be dtd at the wrong times the past 2 cycles. Started to use Clearblue digital ovulation kit this month and I’ve ovulated at some point this weekend so we dtd accordingly; days leading up to the weekend and on static days, but I don’t even have a good feeling about that for some resson! I had a natural miscarriage before DD and got pregnant with her straight away so I think I’m taking bad that this time around it hasn’t been the same. As I said I don’t even know why I’m posting so thank you for reading xx

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nizo1245 · 13/04/2021 15:25

So sorry to hear your story. I totally get it and although I don't have much to offer in terms of helpful advice, I've been there and am mostly still sane.
I had a MC in April last year, not quite a MMC, I started bleeding right before my 12 week scan.
Everything passed naturally and my period came back after 5 weeks.
We've been trying ever since, and I think my on-and-off obsession is one of the things stopping us.
I go through phases of thinking 'it'll happen when it happens', and then 'I need to do everything I can to make this happen', and it drives me mad.
It was surprisingly a weight off when we passed the original due date as I was so determined to be pregnant again by then.
I hope I'll get my rainbow baby soon, but for now I'm trying to focus on getting as fit and healthy as I can, and trying to not obsess, as much as is possible anyway.
I hope you find a way to move past it and focus on the positives.

pickle2020 · 13/04/2021 11:39

Hi @MJ2901 .. I completely understand where you are coming from, i am too going through the same motions. I had a mmc last month, tried medical management which didn't work and had a d&c last Friday. Have a faint positive still this morning so waiting for my body to get back to normal, we are so eager to try again, the wait is mentally draining. Also it feels like everyone else around me is announcing their pregnant. I just keep thinking why is it not me anymore
I know it's hard but i just keep thinking there is light at the end of the tunnel, things will get better and it will happen for you. I wish you all the best of luck, hopefully you will get your bfp very soon

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