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Post Pill Party – The Garden Soiree

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TheHotelCalifornia · 07/04/2021 09:17

Tables laden with high-end afternoon tea, beautiful bouquets of fresh flowers, and a string quartet playing softly in the background…it’s the Post Pill Party Garden Soiree! The girls have swapped their checked shirts for pastel dresses and it’s time to sit back and relax after a stressful few weeks (months…years!!)

Welcome to the 10th (!) post pill party thread for women who have recently come off the pill. Whether you’re struggling with an insanely long cycle or an insanely short cycle, your luteal phase is crazy short, your temps are all over the place, or you’re just feeling like if you see one more day of a damn flashing smiley you’re going to throw it out the window…we’re here for you. Perch yourself daintily in a chair and join us!

Ladies already at the soiree:

@juno231
@Kay00
@Moocher90
@Emmgrem
@Nellieee
@TheHotelCalifornia
@ams19
@chinchilly
@sperr
@crabette
@LauraT94
@TheDaydreamBelivers
@cams50
@robyn101
@abi555
@tillybabs
@MissC07
@minipilling
@glow92
@FlyingGiraffe
@Elsie2021
@Gracie2021
@Flowers222
@MancMama39
@firsttimemumm321
@mrsmacmc
@MintGreenLife
@Ttcin2021
@Melissaq94
@AllyCat31

Please tag anyone I’ve missed!

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Kat668 · 10/04/2021 12:33

@feliznavidad2 yes I'm in the same boat! Came of 15th March and haven't had any bleeding. Not doing any tracking yet do don't know for sure, but I believe I ovulated on the 30th. That would supposedly mean my period is due this week?

Cams50 · 10/04/2021 11:59

@ChinChilly and @Kay00 thanks but I just had some spotting which means AF is on her way. It’s not only so disappointing to not be pregnant yet again but an 8 day lp is not what I wanted either 😔 I had a couple of cycles making it to 11/12 dpo so feels like I’m going backwards. I now feel like we have a confirmed difficulty with DH’s semen but I still don’t feel like everything is fine with me either- I guess hormonally. I feel like this is going to be an impossible journey. I find my AF is longer when I start spotting this early too. Ok I’ll snap out of my pity party now 😂 but this ttc can just be so shit sometimes. Sorry AF is being a bitch @ChinChilly hope you have a super chilled day! And sorry you didn’t feel great after the cheese twist @Kay00 I guess that’s proof the fodmap diet was helping. Your chart looks fab!

@Lovebug06 good news about your DH’s semen analysis! Mine has his retest booked in for the end of the month too.

@feliznavidad2 are you tracking with ovulation tests or temperature or anything?

feliznavidad2 · 10/04/2021 11:12

@MissM94 As a health care professional, I'm probably a bit over invested in this but would love to know the evidence that after 12 weeks, it's 'safe' to TTC again?

I had my second jab this week and wasn't advised to delay TTC at all - and don't have any intention to.

Good luck with making whatever decision you feel comfortable with, I personally feel it's up to individuals to make decisions that they feel comfortable and confident with (even if that is delaying TTC until a certain date post jab) but really struggle with rumour sharing, or guidance being given that has no clear evidence base.

(/Rant over).

It's now been nearly a month since stopping taking the pill. No idea if I'm ovulating or anything so we're just DTD when fancy (which seems to be lots since stopping the pill) 🤔 Anyone else in a similar no period boat?

feliznavidad2 · 10/04/2021 11:07

www.britishfertilitysociety.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Covid19-Vaccines-FAQ-1_3.pdf

www.tommys.org/pregnancyhub/blogs-stories/covid-19-vaccine-pregnancy-and-breastfeeding

Both of these organisations are quite clear on their stance that you don't need to delay getting pregnant following Covid vaccination although you may choose to delay second vaccination if you get pregnant in the meantime... It's so frustrating that women are getting such mixed messages.

MissM94 · 10/04/2021 11:04

@Lovebug06 realised my message is it a bit messy 😂😂

~ Was supposed to start TTC in May
~ Had first dose in Feb - was told to wait 12 weeks after to start trying
~ Second dose is due in May
~ Double checked with another nurse, she said start trying 12 weeks after second dose which now takes my new start date for trying to August, if it's all true!

The more I think about it, how weird that she told me to wait 12 weeks after my jab to start trying, knowing that my second jab will be happening 12 weeks after? So I wonder if she meant wait 12 weeks after the whole thing? God knows 😂 she wasn't very clear hahaha

MissM94 · 10/04/2021 10:59

@Lovebug06 I've had my first dose, not been invited for my second one just yet.. it's a weird one isn't it, if you tell them you're currently ttc I don't know if they would not give the jab, but then you don't get the jab - or you lie and say you're not currently ttc and you get the jab but don't know what it would do to your body, tough one!
I'm not currently TTC we're not on anything, we're currently pulling out so we might aswell be trying 😂 but they asked if I was planning to start trying so I said yeah we are in may, so that's when she said she would recommend waiting 12 weeks which would take me to middle May so then when I asked my friend to double check with her nurse, she said 12 weeks after my second jab. So my second dose would be May time as I had my first dose in feb which now takes me to August which is the 12 weeks after the second dose if it's true that you can't ttc whilst in limbo with the doses.. so I'm quite stuck like you except I've had the bloody thing 😂😂

Lovebug06 · 10/04/2021 10:48

@MissM94 so did you get it in the end? I want to get it now but I'm thinking will they say not to when I actually get there, seeing as it's them who have told me no Confused

Thanks for all your thoughts and advice girls.

I've just read and caught up. We need some BFPs.

I have started my opks again. I got a high reading last night at cd10 and just before I went to bed had a lot of Ewcm. Sorry tmi. But more than I've ever had so I'm hoping that's a good thing perhaps. None this morning. Feel weirdly okay with the opks but I think dh finding them stressful last time may have been a big factor in making me stressed enough to stop doing them!
Feeling fine and positive as I do all month until the days before AF is due so I'm enjoying that for now🤣
How long do you guys get high readings for before your peak? When I used to do them I seemed to just get a high, peak then back down again so I'm wondering if today is the day! I have ovulated early a few times.

Oh and my DH is booked in (finally) for his sperm analysis but it's not until the end of the month. I'll be in cycle 17 by then most likely but I guess it's progress!

Glad to be back with you all x

ChinChilly · 10/04/2021 10:17

@Emmgrem your chart looks great

@Cams50 hope AF stay away for a few more days!

@Kay00 your chart also looks great, can’t believe the cheese twist made you so ill! I LOVE a cheese twist.

I’m currently lying in bed waiting for my pain killers to kick in...AF is being a bitch 😭

Kay00 · 10/04/2021 09:56

Chart

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Kay00 · 10/04/2021 09:56

Exciting @emmgrem !! 🤞😁🤞

@cams50 I really hope your temp picks up, temp drops at 9dpo can be a good sign!

I'm 7dpo (possibly 8dpo) and my temp has really jumped... but I was pretty ill last night (post cheese twist 😅) so it's probably just an anomaly

Cams50 · 10/04/2021 09:12

@Emmgrem so exciting! I’ve never been given that in FF. Eek 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

9dpo here but my temps have been dropping slightly the past few days. Just hoping AF stays away for a couple more days so I don’t have a super short lp again. Sigh.

MissC07 · 10/04/2021 08:34

@Emmgrem Ooooh good looking chart!! Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞

Emmgrem · 10/04/2021 08:32

FF has detected my chart is triphasic beginning on day 25 and I just needed to celebrate with someone 🥳😅

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Willo95 · 09/04/2021 23:56

@MrsHInch

Hey, can I join??

Came off the pill 10 days ago.
Still no sign of AF, was taking desogestrol roughly for 6 months.

I was diagnosed with PCOS about 5 years ago. Had all my quota of clomid around the same time without any luck with my ExH (truly gutted about this now).

We split 18 months ago and been divorced for 6.

I'm 35 and my body clock is screaming loudly.

New partner wants children and why wait!

Any advice would be greatly welcome and appreciated xx any ideas on how to bring AF on also would be great!!!

I didn't get a withdrawal bleed until week 8 and I didnt ovulate until 2 months later. Ive had one period and im now 5 and a half weeks since my last period but ive not ovulated and no period. I had 12 days of high/positive ovulation tests but no peak. Although I just took a pregnancy test and swear I could see a very very very faint line but it could just be my eyes playing tricks on me because it would be very very unlikely seems as ive not ovulated😂
Willo95 · 09/04/2021 23:46

@Gracie2021

Love hearing all the vaccine opinions out there. It's so personal isn't it. I'll be getting mine I think no matter what. Just terrified of the C word 😁😁 I'll take fear of the slight unknown over the known risks from that. Tbh at the rate I'm going any risk of an overlap will be a non issue anyway 😂🙈

@ChinChilly @Flowers222 I'm so sorry this cycle hasn't worked out for ye. Hope you have the baths and choccies and wine and whatever treats of the moments to hand.

@Kay00 so thrilled you got your referral. Does it feel good to be seeing some progress and having the forms to fill in etc? This TTC thing is so uncontrollable that I find sometimes even having something as concrete as making an appointment feels satisfying.

Welcome @MrsHInch and @Willo95

Happy weekend all. Just finished work late and sat down with a big mug of tea. 9DPO and all the PMS mood swings going on as normal so not too hopeful.

The only thing that might spark a shred of hope (that I'm trying to quash) is I just had spotting for the first time in my life.... bright and intense and then gone just like that.... weird I know but aside from AF which just arrives with an entrance ive never had spotting any other time of the month at all. And I'd be shocked if she was coming early cause my body is a bit OCD like myself. So time will tell but I seem to be accumulating new PmS symptoms each month so taking this with a huge pinch of salt. She's due Tuesday so we'll see. Anyone else just starting the really annoying part of the TWW going into the weekend?

I had my first vaccine in feb and have my second one next week but I got the astrozenica and with the latest news on it, im concerned as they are advising under 30s to not get it due to possible blood clots. Although so far the blood clots are 1 in 230,000 so im not sure whether to change and go for fizar or just take the risk with the astrozenica 😖
Kay00 · 09/04/2021 23:42

😅😅😅 a whole block?! I hope you bloody enjoyed it... I have food envy right now 😋😆

@chinchilly haha so true 🤪

ChinChilly · 09/04/2021 23:22

The internet is full of good ones today 😂

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Gracie2021 · 09/04/2021 23:21

@Kay00 I also ate an entire block of Parmesan during the week in one sitting. Grated it and ate with a fork.... no judgement here......

Gracie2021 · 09/04/2021 23:20

@Kay00 oh no. It's so hard to stay to a diet like that and you would y even think of the timing til you feel awful. I've been managing GF 90% of the time but wow do you pay when you got off it. The timing sucks too doesn't it. Work has been so stressful today and yesterday and I just kept thinking no way is anything going to stick when I'm this wound up! Then I remind myself babies are born in the middle of wars and all kinds of upheaval....

Kay00 · 09/04/2021 23:18

Dammit... I love cheese twists 😆😆😆

Kay00 · 09/04/2021 23:15

@gracie2021 9dpo is bang on time for implantation 🤞🤞🤞

Yeah, I feel good that progress has been made, but I made a mistake today...

My gastroenterologist said I no longer need to do the FODMAP diet (until they know exactly what's causing my symptoms) so I qwmt straight to a bakery and ate a full gluten cheese twist for lunch. It was amazing 😆. But now I'm really paying the price... fatigue, brain fog, shooting pains in my stomach. How annoying 😩. I'm worried I have messed up any chances I might have for implantation. Needless to say I'll be back on the FODMAP diet until AF turns up!

Gracie2021 · 09/04/2021 22:59

Love hearing all the vaccine opinions out there. It's so personal isn't it. I'll be getting mine I think no matter what. Just terrified of the C word 😁😁 I'll take fear of the slight unknown over the known risks from that. Tbh at the rate I'm going any risk of an overlap will be a non issue anyway 😂🙈

@ChinChilly @Flowers222 I'm so sorry this cycle hasn't worked out for ye. Hope you have the baths and choccies and wine and whatever treats of the moments to hand.

@Kay00 so thrilled you got your referral. Does it feel good to be seeing some progress and having the forms to fill in etc? This TTC thing is so uncontrollable that I find sometimes even having something as concrete as making an appointment feels satisfying.

Welcome @MrsHInch and @Willo95

Happy weekend all. Just finished work late and sat down with a big mug of tea. 9DPO and all the PMS mood swings going on as normal so not too hopeful.

The only thing that might spark a shred of hope (that I'm trying to quash) is I just had spotting for the first time in my life.... bright and intense and then gone just like that.... weird I know but aside from AF which just arrives with an entrance ive never had spotting any other time of the month at all. And I'd be shocked if she was coming early cause my body is a bit OCD like myself. So time will tell but I seem to be accumulating new PmS symptoms each month so taking this with a huge pinch of salt. She's due Tuesday so we'll see. Anyone else just starting the really annoying part of the TWW going into the weekend?

ChinChilly · 09/04/2021 22:58

@feliznavidad2 absolutely I shall be using ‘I’m on my period’ as an excuse for everything this weekend 😂

feliznavidad2 · 09/04/2021 22:47

Fanks @ChinChilly - hope you manage to have a nice weekend anyway, lots of wine and chocolate?!

ChinChilly · 09/04/2021 22:32

@feliznavidad2 don’t be silly, I’ve just been sulking because AF arrived this afternoon just in time for the weekend 😂😂 you’re right though the whole vaccine thing is such a personal decision

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