Post Pill Party – The Garden Soiree

I think it’s safe to say I have ovulated. One more day of high temps and it will be confirmed :)

@Juno231 if I ovulated yesterday does that mean that the chance of catching the egg was already gone for DTD last night well just after midnight so this morning?

Spoke to my endocrinologist yesterday who said I have hashimotos which they could tell from my ultrasound and and also because my antibodies are high, I already knew this as I had a private blood test. Also thyroid is still subclinical hypothyroid but I’ve had 3 elevated blood tests so that’s why I’m on tablets and she confirmed tsh should be nearer to 2. I’m on the lowest dose of levothyroxine but it will get upped again after my next review if it’s still not coming down. I’m booked in for bloods on 2nd June fingers crossed the meds I started 2 weeks ago has worked.

@Juno231 she thinks she's being helpful 🤣 she even said to SIL 'love bug should just think it's not going to happen now until something is done don't you agree?', SIL is relatively new to the family actually so slightly embarrassing but she actually just went 'no I dont'
@Kay00 yes she is. About all things. Hard to explain but it's not meant horribly, she just doesn't think at all. Sometimes I can take it, such as a few days ago. If it was said to me in a couple of days when AF comes I would flip 😂 some things have very much upset me, I've tried explaining and ignoring but she just doesn't get it so I try to just let it go over my head if I can. It depends how bad I am feeling about it all at the time.
@cams50 thanks! I hope yours comes back quickly too, I don't know how long it takes?
My DH kept taking ages to book his, i got really annoyed, I'm sure it was the embarrassment. He now reckons he's not bothered at all and had even 'forgotten until you mentioned it' definately think he is just saying that! 😂, Not that it matters I'm so glad it'll be done tommrow.

@CaptainGT both my apps were almost a week out in terms of ovulating, ovulated on day 18 of my last cycle but my app says it was on day 23 or something like that, today is supposed to be ovulation day but I've not had any pains, had some yesterday but my OPKs weren't blaring positives it was just a little line! But I'm currently day 13 so would be earlier than last months.. let's see what happens in the next few days!

I'm so frustrated with my stupid body. I mean, what the fuck is the deal here.

@Springflower3 Haha, we should take a leaf out of their book! My partner is very chilled about the whole process. We aren’t worrying atm as we are so new to all this, I know my body is going to be all unpredictable as I’m so new to coming off contraception. So that helps. 🙂 Honestly once your first bleed comes you’ll calm down a lot, or at least I did as I knew she was working behind the scenes which was confirmed by a positive OPK. Your body is doing stuff without you realising so as difficult as it sounds, just chill and let it reset.

@CaptainGT I use Premom and Fertility Friend. However as we speak I’m just crossing all the data over to my iPhone cycle tracker. Has anyone used this?

@captainGT honestly all the apps just guess based on your previous data. So especially just off the pill they're going to be wildly off. As a rule they're not reliable and should only be used if you BD every other day pretty much all cycle!

Aww @ChillysT I really hope so 🙈🙈 my DP is so relaxed about it all I’m jealous! I was trying to be serious about it and explain that my AF was here and what this means and he was just like ‘ok’ 🙄🙄 here me trying to be all serious! When I get disappointed etc he is just like it is gonna happen so why stress!!! How do they have so much confidence???

@CaptainGT I’m usually a 33 day cycle so I’d be happy for it to that again!! Do you think you ovulated between coming off the pill and your AF?

@abi555 huge congratulations!! Lovely news and thanks for the recap.

@Juno231 good luck with the surgery! Hope it gives you some answers or helps.

@CaptainGT I don’t think Flo is very accurate either. It’s only works if you’re perfectly regular I think whereas premom or fertility friend are much better as you input the data (OPKs or BBT)

@Lovebug06 a very insensitive MIL indeed! Hope DHs SA goes well and you get referred quickly. I’m at the same stage. My DH has his repeat SA next week and then we’ll get a referral after that hopefully.

First period from coming off started just as I got home today. so that's 33 days cycle. My app has updated and we completely missed ovulation if the app is ANYTHING close to correct.

I'm using Clue. I've seen a few of you use Flo, is that better?

I had the same, but my first bleed started on the Monday. And by Wednesday morning it was all over and done with! Was a very light couple days, but tbf I was only ever on Monday to Friday morning whilst on the patch so it was halved! I’m wondering if my next one will be a little longer!

I know what you mean though, mine was a 6 week wait and it was hard to not think the worst or Google everything! Then when she arrived I wondered why I even bothered acting like a paranoid maniac. Our minds and bodies like to play stupid tricks on us!! 🙈 Once you’ve had the first AF it’s much easier to start looking into your cycle as that’s what my plan was and once I had that first bleed, I counted over the first 10 days and then knew when to start using OPK’s to find my peak. It was a success doing it that way so hopefully it’s the same for you! Fingers crossed!

@ChillysT I think your right tbh, it is like a proper period!!! My ovesense arrived today so once this is over I will get using it! I’m actually relieved cause that no mans land was driving me mad!! Hats off to all the ladies who waited months for theirs! I’ve only waited like 3 weeks and I was losing my mind! Xx

@Springflower3 I would say your body may have been waiting for this AF to regulate itself. I don’t think I ovulated between coming off the patch and my first period. Hopefully this is your first bleed, and then next week you can start tracking OPK’s properly and get things going knowing you’re starting at a blank page instead of less of a guessing game. 🙂

Hi @Kay00 I’m cramping really badly tbh and there was bright red blood...... I’ve felt bloated etc for days now... very typical of my period! I only stopped pill on 26th March and was doing opk for last 3 weeks!! So I’m like did I miss my ovulation or it just didn’t happen due to pill 🤷‍♀️

@Springflower3 hmmmm.... that's an interesting one. Is it a lot of blood? If its just a little bit, then it could be ovulation spotting?

Hey, it me again the total dose 🙄🙄
So still get smiley faces!! But..... my break thru bleed has just started?? Is my body fucked? 🤣

Congratulations @abi555 💗

@Moocher90 mine tend to hit 'peak' then get darker the next day and sometimes even the day after that!

@abi555 Great recap thank you! I'm def going to try acupuncture next cycle if this cycle doesn't work.

@moocher90 all looking good for Ov today or tomorrow, try squeeze in DTD tonight as well just to cover all bases. Exciting!!

@abi555 Thank you for the recap, I'm so pleased for you! Funnily enough I got a leaflet through my door for acupuncture today... maybe its a sign!

@Lovebug06 Wow... Is your MIL always that insensitive? This is why I am loathed to tell anyone. I'm starting to feel sad about not conceiving yet... I just feel like it will never happen for me but I don't want my future to be without children. Having extra pressure or more insensitive comments (on top of the random things my sister already says) would make it much harder for me.

Is it normal for OPKs to get darker my SMU today is darker then the previous..... but got peak on CB and opk yesterday

@abi555 aah thank you for the recap! I think you might be right about CD14 ovulation - FF is only saying it's 16 because of the EWCM you logged on CD15 I think. I'm also glad OH ate his words lol

@Lovebug06 ha yes and apart from anything MIL's defeatist attitude has no upside to it?? At least if you carry on trying there's the chance of getting a BFP but what's the point of not trying?! Also that's an insensitive thing to say regardless and not her business so she can shove it.

@abi555 Aww, congratulations again! 6 months is a relatively fast turnaround from coming off the pill to getting your BFP so great to see! ☺️ When you say you had a very short first cycle, can I ask how your first AF was and how they regulated after that? My first one came 6 weeks after stopping contraception so luckily wasn’t a long wait, but it lasted a very light 2 days! I’ve no doubt my second is brimming as my cramps this week have been terrible and I’m constantly hungry! Classic signs for my body pre-bleed.

@Juno231 that's exactly why I want to be referred. DH has kids already so if his SA comes back fine as expected and my bloods were good, I didn't want to be fobbed off as it could be something else! It's been a long time, I feel now there has got to be something going on with me. Or I at least want to be checked now, what if it went on and on and I found out so much later when something could be done now?!
Good to know all that though, thanks. I should know more when I've been trying this long, but good to check.
Still not keen on MIL telling me and everyone that I have something wrong with me and to forget about it now until I've had treatment though... Not been told this and its being told to other people like its definite! As if I could forget about it anyway. That is a typical response from someone who conceived easily😂 which I'm also told about often.
@abi555 thanks lovely, very happy for you. X

Thanks everyone!

So for @Juno231 @Moocher90 and @Lovebug06 who asked about my journey...
I came off the combined pill in early October and got my first AF on New Years Eve which made for a happy start to 2021 as I was getting v stressed about its absence.

After that had a very short first cycle, then a CP in Feb and now very luckily a BFP in April. I realise I am very lucky as I haven't been trying very long compared to some on this group, and sending so many good vibes and baby wishes to everyone here.

I did go a little mad on research and the google rabbit hole, and feels like I've bought every supplement under the sun! Started taking B12 complex and high dose vit C after my short first cycle as had a short luteal phase... not sure if they helped or if my cycle just naturally regulated, but I had a long luteal the next month ending in a CP.

Also bought ubiquinol and vitamin E for egg health. Had my bloods tested (not for TTC but for something else) which showed a low vit D so also started higher dose supplements for that as has been linked to poor fertility. Also taking pregnacare.... so basically started rattling!

I found TTC really stressful after only a few months, so also started acupuncture sessions. Really not sure on the science behind acupuncture helping fertility, but I can vouch for how relaxing it is... and always left my sessions feeling like I was floating on a cloud!

I've attached my chart this month as I know some ladies like to look at them. I feel FF may be wrong and I actually ovulated on day 14, which would make more sense to me in why I have a strong line. Symptoms wise, I have had absolutely none. In fact, would have put money on having a BFN this month as feel so normal!

Still getting spotting - there was quite a bit this morning which is making me very cautious about getting excited - but trying to ignore it and what will be will be. There's nothing I can do to change it if this isn't going to stick, so just going to enjoy for now.

Hope that helps!xx

p.s. yes, Juno, OH has now admitted he was being a poo! hahaaah, his words were 'Well. THAT's a strong line, isn't it! with his eyebrows practically meeting his hairline haha. But we did then celebrate and he promises to believe me in future!

Happy hump day ladies. Woke up this morning and FF gave me crosshairs so I'm officially 3 DPO. 10 days earlier ovulating than usual too. I'm hoping my LP is still the same and not shortened, will see what happens.

@Springflower3 I have been off contraception since August. Yes we will DTD tonight but it won’t be until after 11pm as hubby is working