TTC after MC - new thread for newbies / lurkers on other threads!

I've just caught up on all the messages. Massive congratulations to everyone with a positive test - I'm keeping everything crossed for you all!

@ItsMeantToBe good luck for your scan today. I hope you get some good news.

@Flopsy88 I'm really sorry to hear about your brother, that's terrible news. I hope they have caught it early and that he will be ok.

@Lowkeyloopy I think I am too anxious of a person to wait until 12 weeks for a scan. Having said that I got lulled into a false sense of security with the twins when I saw 2 heartbeats at 7 weeks only for them to stop growing at 8 weeks 4 days. I still don't regret going though as it's the only picture I have of them when they were 'alive'. If I'm lucky enough to get pregnant again I'll go for early scans but take it as a snapshot of that moment in time.

@Gemandi2 me and my husband tried again straight away after my early miscarriage and I got pregnant again before I even had a period. Unfortunately that pregnancy ended with a MMC so this time round I have waited to have a period in between, more to give myself a break mentally than anything! I think it just comes down to personal choice and when you feel ready.

@bea29 I have signed the petition so hopefully Tommy's will be able to push for change. After my early miscarriage I did request progesterone from my GP when I got pregnant again but it got turned down. I did keep the name of a private clinic that someone posted about on this forum once - apparently they do phone consultations and are more willing to give you a prescription on the basis it won't harm but could help. I can find it for you if you like? Have you done any research into baby aspirin?

EPU have just callled. HCG is 227, they said it's too early to see anything on a scan but because I've had some cramps they want to scan me today at 11:30. They'll repeat bloods tomorrow to see if the number has doubled. So scared. Thankfully DH can come with me!

@ItsMeantToBe fingers crossed for you x

Thanks @ItsMeantToBe @CMcA21 - keeping everything crossed for you @ItsMeantToBe

@Flopsy88 so so sorry to hear about your brother ❤️ Line looking amazing though 🥰

@SparrowMaiden I’m so sorry your AF showed up too 😭 hope your holiday is relaxing!!

@Gemandi2 welcome and sorry for your loss. Xx

How is everyone else doing?

Thanks everyone. I should have read these messages this morning but only just read them! I done the digital this morning and for 2-3. I done another FRER and got a stronger line than yesterday. I got a call back from the Obstetrician's secretaries today who said to call EPU to get a early scan. When I called they said they'll do bloods first to see what my HCG level is to know when's best to do the scan. I've been for if late this afternoon so I've got to wait until the morning for the results. I'm paranoid that they're going to say my numbers are negligible and it's another chemical. I know I'm being ridiculous, sorry!

@Lowkeyloopy I would definitely pay for a early scan if I didn't get offered one. It's worth it for the (short lived) piece of mind in my eyes :).

@Gemandi2 welcome! Sorry to hear of your loss. Wishing you lots of luck for this month!

@Flopsy88 so sorry to hear about your brother, how awful. Good line at 10DPO, as you say it's nice that you've got that ray of sunshine.

@Flopsy88 so sorry to hear about your brother, that must be very scary for you and your family. Lots of love xx

I'm happy with this for a 10dpo line! 🥳 It's darker than my 12dpo test from last time so I'm hoping that's a good sign. I haven't told my DP yet cos we had the worst day yesterday. My little bro was diagnosed with cancer which just feels like a horrible nightmare. It's nice that we've got this little bit of good news to cling on to when everything feels so dark

@ItsMeantToBe It's completely understandable that you're feeling so anxious. Remember that cramping is totally normal and it's a good sign that your uterus is growing and stretching. I agree with @Lowkeyloopy about holding off for a few days with the digital. They're not very accurate and it will only stress you out if it isn't at 3+ yet. Sending positive vibes ❤

@Lowkeyloopy I will definitely be getting a reassurance scan around 8 weeks if I get that far. If something is wrong I'd much rather know about it. The EPU nurse told me they used to do early scans for anyone who'd had a previous miscarriage but they're not allowed to since covid. She advised that I lie to the GP and say I've had bleeding so get a referral but I don't think I'd feel good about that. £70 for a private scan isn't that bad

@SparrowMaiden I hope you're enjoying your holiday and had a lovely beer in the sunshine last night. I definitely won't be leaving this group, it's been so supportive ❤

Would love to join the group and massive congrats to those of you who have a positive test over the past few weeks. We are ttc for baby number 3 altho very fortunate we already have 2. I've just had my 2nd miscarriage and at 41 and beginning to think my age may be working against me. Just wondered how long after MC bleeding you all started ttc again - did you wait for first period?

@ItsMeantToBe cramping is definitely normal, it's the only symptom I definitely remember having before my bfp with my dd. Fingers crossed a digital test will reassure you.

@Lowkeyloopy I'm type 1 diabetic so I get an early scan anyway, but when I was pregnant with my dd I had a VERY early scan (around 5.5 weeks) as I had had some bleeding and the epu where I used to live (Manchester) was really good and allowed that. They did a hcg test first and then because the numbers were high enough I got a scan and there she was, a "3mm fetal pole". She was so small I couldn't get a print out but I got a letter with those words on and I showed my dh and he cried!! (Doesn't happen often) I had another at 8 weeks when I could actually see a bit more and I still have the print out from that one

@Flopsy88 I see it! Congratulations!! How are you feeling?

@SparrowMaiden sorry AF showed up! I hope you're enjoying a few beers. Fingers crossed for next month.

I'm feeling really anxious today. I'm 5 weeks 2 weeks and that's when I had my last MC. I've been scared to go to the toilet all day and overthinking every cramp. Ive been sat studying my FRER's to see if there is good progression! I've ordered some digital tests to see how far along it says I am so I'm going to use one of those in the morning. I'm really hoping for a 3+ then I can relax a bit!

Thanks @bea19.

It would be lovely if some of you ladies who have had your bfps this month stick around! Really lovely to hear the success stories, gives us all a bit of hope!! Xx

@Flopsy88 looks like a line to me too - how exciting! I find that if it’s a squinter on a FRER and I break it open (which I do now anyway so I can recycle the plastic bits, just watch out for the desiccant inside) it’s easier to see. Fingers crossed for your FMU test!

@SparrowMaiden so sorry to hear AF is here. I hope you can treat yourself this week and that the next cycle is your cycle.

@Flopsy88 I see it too!

The wait is over for me, temp dropped to cover line this morning and I've just had blood on wiping (tmi) which is how AF always starts for me. So she is bang on time/slightly early as she always seems to be!!! Garrrrrgh. At least I can have a beer tonight. Just SO P*SSED OFF to be back at the beginning again!!

*ruining your holiday, I hope it's not running your holiday!

@SparrowMaiden Oh love, I'm sorry this is running your holiday. It's hard to think about anything else isn't it It? Do you usually have a long luteal phase? Thursday is only the day after tomorrow now! I hope it goes quickly for you.
You are right, it was definitely far too early for me to test but boots has the twin packs of frers on buy one get one half price, so I've got 4 to play with and no will power! I think I've got my squinter though!!! You can hardly see it in the picture but it's definitely pink in real life and came up straight away. I've stared at enough BFNs for long enough to be sure I'm not imagining this one. It wasn't FMU though and was quite diluted so i'll try again tomorrow. Obviously it's crazy early so I'm trying not to get my hopes up yet 🤞🏻

@SparrowMaiden only 2ish more days to wait now. Stay strong!

@Flopsy88 hi! I was so confused when you said CD8 I was like surely not... I’m 7DPO apparently seeing as Flo has changed my O date according to my data. When would be the earliest it would show on a pregnancy test do you think?

Got an interview on Friday for a promotion in my work so I am just crossing my fingers for it 🤞🏻

@flowermil I don’t think it develops over time but it often takes a long time to get a diagnosis (I had symptoms from when I was a teenager but wasn’t diagnosed until I was in my thirties!) That said if you’ve had blood tests and scans and no symptoms it sounds pretty unlikely to be PCOS so maybe a bad batch of OPKs as @Flopsy88 said…

@Flopsy88 ooh, interesting about your temp spike. Fingers crossed!

@Flopsy88 8dpo is super super early to be testing, do you reckon you could hold out a few days longer? Might save yourself unnecessary disappointment? The tww is absolutely the worst. It's such a dilemma between testing early and maybe not getting an accurate result, or just waiting and stressing yourself out thinking about it. I'll be 14dpo tomorrow but because I'm not due on until Thursday I'm still waiting... but also it is kind of ruining my holiday as I can't stop thinking about it and i can't relax at all 😔

I meant 8dpo obvs. I would be testing on CD8!!