TTC after MC - new thread for newbies / lurkers on other threads!

@TBF29 oh my god I cannot believe you’ve said this… whilst we were pregnant we were always looking for 2 magpies. 2 for joy of course. We saw them ALL THE TIME and so we were convinced it was all good. We knew it was joy. Obviously we were wrong.

More recently all I’ve seen is one magpie alone, constantly. There’s been 2/3 times when one single magpie has landed on the motorway when I’m driving to work and I’ve had to slam on the brakes. At first I was panicking thinking it was ‘one for sorrow’ but someone told me it’s a loved one looking after you. My mum died when I was 9 so I started believing it was her telling me everything’s okay and now i see one magpie about 3 times a week. I went to Ireland for 5 days and I saw one magpie constantly. On my mums anniversary, I was sitting in my dads conservatory and I’ve never seen a magpie in his garden before. One single magpie landed on a branch right in my eye line out the window. My dad also said he’s never seen a magpie in his garden in 20 years of living there. It could be my mum or it could be my baby looking after me. I kept saying to myself it was stupid and coincidence but when I told my counsellor she said, why deny yourself that comfort, it’s too much of a coincidence so now I love seeing one magpie ❤️

@SparrowMaiden yes I went for the chop. The moral of the story is don't make rash decisions when you're potentially not in the right frame of mind ha! It's ok though, I'll get used to it and I think it has helped me draw a line under things in a weird way.

Having said that has anyone else become strangely superstitious/more spiritual since TTC or after miscarriage? We moved house just before my MMC and now I walk our dog in the woods twice a day. Ever since I lost the twins I keep seeing robins everywhere and I like to think it's a little sign from them and it makes me smile.

Even writing that down feels ridiculous as I never would have bought into anything like that before but it's funny what this whole journey can do to you!!

@TBF29 did you go for it with the hair? How did it feel?!

@Flopsy88 & @ItsMeantToBe thank you and I did enjoy my fizz - although I swear my dd has an alcohol sensor - she is usually a good sleeper these days and she woke up at 4.30am this morning, full of beans! Just what I needed!

Re early scan at 6+3 - It's a tough one - if it was me I know I would be worrying about it all week when I was away so I would probably go for the earliest possible, but I suppose that could also lead to more worrying!! Maybe 9 weeks is safer if you can hold out that long!

@SparrowMaiden Happy birthday! Hope you're enjoying your day. I agree that a few drinks will be absolutely fine.

@Flopsy88 I'm feeling fine thanks. Struggling with the tiredness and have shooting pains at times! Definitely go for 9 week scan, I was slightly disappointed when I sent for mine thinking I was 6 weeks but measured 5 weeks and it was too early to hear the heartbeat. Hope you enjoy your holiday!

@TBF29 If you're sure about getting the chop then go for it! Good luck.

How's everyone else doing?

@Flopsy88 I think I started testing at 6dpo in the desperation of seeing a line appear but unfortunately nothing did and AF arrived early!

I went for my first session of acupuncture last week and I'm not sure what I thought of it to be honest. I expected to end up like a pin cushion but she only put about 8 needles in and then left me for 25 minutes! I'm going to carry on with it for now and see what happens as it's nice to have some time to myself and it's almost a bit like a counselling session too when you have a consultation beforehand.

I'm going to the hairdressers this afternoon and asked her to cut my hair short. I'm hoping I don't regret it but I feel like I need a change to help me draw a line under what's happened this year and re-set my mind. Does that sound mental?!

I'm glad to hear you are feeling positive. I agree going for the later scan is probably going to be better although I bet you're desperate to see something now!

Hello everyone! How are you all doing?

@SparrowMaiden I think it's absolutely fine. I had a few drinks in the tww, just didn't go mad. You're right, implantation definitely won't have happened that early! Enjoy your fizz 🥂

@CMcA21 I hope you had a lovely time with your friend! It's so exciting seeing people again after so long isn't it? Glad your feeling more chilled and enjoying your wedding planning

@CocoLady Sorry to hear about your loss. It must have been awful to have it going on for so long. I used the one step OPKs from amazon cos they were really cheap and found them really helpful so never felt the need to splash out on the clearblue. I tested twice a day around ovulation and usually got a surge on day 14. They went from no line at all to positive within 24hrs. Wishing you lots of luck for this cycle!

@TBF29 Completely understand the urge to test daily. I always started at 7dpo 🙈 How are you getting on? Did you start acupuncture?

@Lowkeyloopy @ItsMeantToBe How are you both getting on? I'm 5+2 today and feeling quite positive so I've booked in with the midwife. I was planning to have a scan around 7 weeks but we're really busy around then and then going on holiday for a week so I can't find an appointment that works for us. I can either go at 6+3 (which feels a bit early) or 9 weeks, so I think I'm going to hold out til then. I might not get the reassurance I want at 6+3 and then I'll be anxious whilst I'm away. It's not going to change anything anyway!

Hi all, how are we doing? I'm on CD14, 3dpo according to my app, temp finally went up properly today. Birthday tomorrow. Planning to have some bubbles, even though that's naughty. I figure implantation wouldn't have happened yet anyway so probably not too bad?!

@CMcA21 Sounds like you've got a lot to look forward to! Hope you enjoyed drinks with your friend. I'm feeling good thanks. I feel like my pregnancy is moving at a snails pace, but that's the first trimester for you!

@TBF29 you never know, don't loose hope.

@CocoLady welcome and sorry for your loss. I used the CB digital OPK my first month of trying. I got a static smiley face but didn't get pregnant that month. The following month I used cheap OPK's from Amazon as well as checking my BBT and found that I ovulated really late. I got pregnant that month :). Fingers crossed for you.

Hi everyone can I join please ? I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks pregnant in jan this year! I had trouble after and bled for 3 months!
Was a surprise pregnancy to us so we were devastated. We are TTC again, I've had 2 cycles but only now Cb OKP and having never used them before all new to me ! Sending all best of luck to everyone! Has anyone had any ever successes of OKP? Xx

Thanks @bea19, good luck to you too!

@TBF29 sorry to hear that you think you are out. I think the average for implantation is 8-9dpo though, so 10dpo could be too early to see on a test, even a FRER. Fingers crossed for you in the rest of the TWW.

I think I'm out this month as I haven't been able to stop myself testing every day but there's not even a hint of a line at 10 dpo! This is my first cycle trying since my MMC but I'm going to try calm down next month as I can feel myself getting a bit obsessed!!

@SparrowMaiden it’s a promotion at my current job so I will still be able to TTC but it’s only a year in the first instance and we’re booking our wedding so I feel like it’s gonna take my mind off things and hopefully it just happens naturally like last time? I think I’ve been putting so much pressure on both of us and I don’t think it’s helped.

@Flopsy88 @ItsMeantToBe how are you both feeling?

@bea19 keep us updated!!!

I have my friend home from London so seeing him tonight and having drinks so I’m pleased about that!!!

How is everyone else??

@ItsMeantToBe well I definitely would have cracked and tested this morning but my toddler lost it at the thought of me going to the bathroom without her so I’ll make it to 10dpo at least 😂.

@Laurenxx94 hope your OH made it back from the football in a reasonable state 😂. Who knew we’d have the Euros to contend with as well when ttc!

@SparrowMaiden

@ItsMeantToBe

Thanks for your response I'm probably just tempting fate and know I'm
Going to ovulate! It usually happens CD 15 and usually get a positive opk on cd 13 ! I'm currently Cd 12 and usually have a flashing smiley by now! I'm still holding some hope as I'm starting to get EWCM BUT OH is out for scotland and England game I told him we need to DTD tonight so hoping he comes home reasonable 😂😂 xx

@SparrowMaiden My sons great now, thanks. He took a long time to catch up but you wouldn't know he was a preemie now ☺️.

@LSW82 sorry to hear AF arrived. Hope you have a nice few weeks off before trying again!

@Laurenxx94 what CD are you on? Are you texting twice daily? I don't think I ovulate on the same day every month so as @SparrowMaiden definitely keep testing.

@bea19 I'm feeling good thanks, although really tired! Counting down to my next scan. The TWW is a killer isn't it. Have you got something else to distract yourself for a few days? I found reading helped, getting lost in someone else's story!

@CMcA21 really sorry AF arrived. Hope you’ve got some fun weekend plans to treat yourself with?

@ItsMeantToBe great news about your scan. How are you feeling?

@Mrsmujic congratulations, that’s great news.

I’m 8dpo today based on CB digital and I’ve had a few cramps on my right hand side since 6dpo. I’ve also completely gone of chocolate, which has literally only ever happened to me once before, the last time I was pregnant, normally I’m a chocoholic! The urge to POAS is getting strong now but I’m really conscious my mind could be playing tricks on me as I felt sick for ages last month and wasn’t pregnant! And it would also be really early to test tomorrow…especially as I had EWCM two days after my first peak smiley on CB so who knows - maybe I’m only 6dpo?!

@Laurenxx94 I wasn't using opks after my cp but if I did ovulate, it was a good 2-3 days later than usual if I go by cm. I'd say just keep going with the testing. Also if it turns put you don't ovulate this month don't worry too much about it. It might just be your body sorting it's out again, and maybe once you've had a period you'll be back to normal.

Hey ladies how are we ?
No sign of ovulation for me. Usually have a flashing smiley round about now and peak by tomorrow or next day latest I don't even have a hint of a line on cheap opks and blank circle on clearblue ! I'm now worrying I'm not going to ovulate after my chemical has this happened to anybody? X

Hope everyone is well. 1st AF after most recent mc arrived last night, wasn't overly surprised as weren't really trying this month. We have friends coming to stay next weekend so looking forward to seeing them after such a long time & enjoy some drinks, hopefully get back to trying 'properly' again after. It's 4 weeks today since my mc started, glad my body seems to be getting back in sync x

@CMcA21 sorry AF appeared, but lovely to have your new job to focus on. What is your start date, and do you know what the maternity policy is? Both times I have been ttc it has been after just starting a new job (or in this case after having had my contract made permanent so essentially the same) We were really careful about not "trying" in the first month so I would still be entitled to maternity pay, but turns out we needn't have worried because it took ages anyway!!!

@ItsMeantToBe great news about your scan, horrible to have to go through a preemie birth and cps but it's good they are taking it seriously and supporting you at this early stage. My dd was prem too but only 35 weeks, that was scary enough! How is your son now?

I think we are definitely going to miss ovulation with Saturday's birthday sex fest. Pretty sure I'm going to ovulate today (CD10, again!!) Not that that will stop us trying!!

@Flopsy88 my next scan is on 30/6. I'm feeling relieved and it feels more real now. I'm moody tonight for some reason though, hormones! I only called the midwifes yesterday, I kept putting it off. It's normal for you to feel anxious. As the weeks go on it'll get easier. If it helps my HCG 16DPO was 227, then 504 on 18DPO.

@Mrsmujic I'm 17dpo but I got a BFP at 9dpo so the HCG has had a good while to increase. I really don't think you need to worry! If you're planning to do another one then hang on a few days and I'm sure you'll get 2-3 xx

@Flopsy88 what dpo are you? I got 1-2 weeks on my CB and wondering if it should be 2-3 already? I'm not that worried though as other tests are all so strong. Interesting to compare though X