TTC after MC - new thread for newbies / lurkers on other threads!

@justwant2beamum totally get where you are coming from but if I was you I wouldn't worry too much. Sounds like you done lots of BDing and so should be okay anyway. Last month I only really managed to DTD twice directly before ovulation. (So day of first static smile and day after - as well as couple of times in lead up). I got bfp that month, only takes one sperm so there should be some waiting already. Try not to be too hard on your DH, maybe he's feeling a bit dubious/scared with it all after your MC and it's playing on his mind.

Can anyone give me some advice? So my cycles range anywhere between 30-36 days normally. I think my body is back to normal but I have no idea when to start with opk? I only have 8 sticks left for my CV digital and so don't want to waste them too soon? Last time I think my cycle was 36 days (although got bfp) and I got my peak on cd21. I'm now on cd11, when should I start using CB? I have cheapies too...

Hope you are all doing ok today X

@ItsMeantToBe sorry to hear about your mc. I dunno, he's never had an issue with pressure or dtd on demand or anything like that, he usually likes it 😂

@Aila1994 I've not had my static smiley but ?6 days of flashing smileys in a row, so hoping I'll get my static today. Sounds like you might have caught yours! Fingers crossed!

@justwant2beamum I completely get where your coming from. I'm in my first cycle following my MC too and also feel really desperate and impatient. It feels so unfair. I get you feeling angry at DH. Do you think he might feel the pressure? I wanted to DTD last night as I think I'll be ovulating today but he come to bed too late and I was fat too tired

Good luck @Msd2416 and @Flopsy88 🤞🏻🤞🏻 1dpo here (also feels like 105dpo!!) ugh. Having a total melt down tonight. The first like 2 weeks after mc were the worst then I had started to feel kinda normal like sad but not debilitatingly so and crying etc but just now I just feel so hopeless. I know it's silly it's only the first cycle trying again post mc but it just feels so unfair I can't help thinking I should be this, I should be doing that. I don't want to be starting all over. Sorry I know I sound really bratty and whiney and I'm sure other people have been trying a lot longer, just don't feel very positive tonight. To make it worse I wanted to dtd tonight as smep is 3 days in a row from positive opk which was Sunday to DTD Sunday AM, Monday AM and PM and I wanted to do tonight again. Now usually dp can't get enough sex would have it constantly if he could, never been an issue with performing or "on demand" dtd and tonight he couldn't finish and I feel bad but I feel so angry at him like this is the last important day the rest of the month and you're fucking it up. So in the spare room crying my eyes out as shock horror he's asleep and snoring in 2 mins. I'm so angry I don't even want to look at him, feel ready to give up ttc and bin all my sticks and tests.

@Flopsy88 one app says today is day 1 and another says tomorrow is but both say the most fertile day the same. Not sure it will make that much difference I can just try and DTD as much as poss those few days. Good luck to you and @Msd2416 testing this week/weekend, keep up posted 💛

@Flopsy88 I’m a day ahead of you! Also going to save my FRER for the weekend! Fingers crossed! Xxx

Ah good that you know for sure now @CMcA21 I'm not sure what you would count as CD1. What does your app say if you put in the light spotting for yesterday and heavier flow today?

@Aila1994 I think dtd on the days before ovulation are more important that doing it on ovulation day so you should be covered! 🤞🏻

Sorry you find yourselves here @Msd2416 and @Marshmellowdreaming I really hope this your month for a sticky BFP. I'm 5dpo (but feels like 105dpo) and had a lot of cramping this evening which I'm hoping means implantation but it more likely to be gas! I'll probably start testing with Internet cheapies on Thursday. I've done so many of them recently to make sure my HCG had gone down after the miscarriage that seeing a negative test doesn't make me feel sad anymore. It's just part of my morning routine to pee in a pot and dip paper sticks in it! I won't waste a frer before the weekend though

Hi everyone, just checking back in.
Does anyone else get like 3 days of static smileys/3 days of positive IC ovulation tests? Pretty sure my darkest test was from Sunday, meaning I’d have ovulated yesterday and today is 1DPO.
Annoyingly enough we couldn’t DTD yesterday, but did manage to do it the 3 days prior, so fingers crossed that was enough this month 🤞!
At this stage I feel like this whole TTC thing is starting to have a negative impact on our sex life, it all feels a bit forced and repetitive. If we don’t catch this month, I think I might do a cycle of not tracking with OPK’s and just DTD when we feel like it for a couple months!

@Msd2416 @Marshmellowdreaming welcome and sorry for what you’ve been through!

Stress over - it’s a full blown period now 😂 as soon as I posted that before it kicked off properly! If I was just spotting yesterday should I still count it as CD1 or CD1 today do you think?

Welcome @Msd2416 @Marshmellowdreaming
1dpo for me I think. Had a peak OPK on Sunday afternoon so apps put ov to yesterday. Feels like it's been 2 weeks already... how am I meant to last another 13 days 😂😩 not feeling very hopeful already though 😩

@Marshmellowdreaming same ive not heard of that either. Smiley face is good news though! Everything crossed for you lovely xxx

Sounds about the right time within the next few days. Fingers crossed for you! ☺️

I’m only 7 dpo and I’ve already tested twice. Who knew this is what trying to conceive would be. Nice to talk to people who understand. On nights for the next three so that will be some distraction! Not really heard of anyone starting period 2 weeks after miscarriage so hoping that as clear blue had a smiley it was an ovulation and not just delayed bleeding from miscarriage. Fingers crossed!

@Marshmellowdreaming So sorry to hear that lovely its so difficult no matter how many weeks/early it happens. Awh i totally get that not wanting to discuss with people who havent experience MC is really difficult i find and they dont know what to say etc so given up even trying with friends tbh!
Im also in the middle of my TWW currently 8DPO - really going to try and not test early this month! xx

Welcome to @Msd2416 @Marshmellowdreaming. Sorry for your losses, sounds like you've had a horrible Experian s. Hopefully you'll find this group as helpful as I have.

How strange @CMcA21. I bet it's driving you crazy not knowing!

Hopefully it's start of your ovulation @Lowkeyloopy!! Hope your feeling more yourself today.

I'm CD11 today. I haven't done a OPK today but I've had a flashing face for 5 days in a row. I'm hoping that I'm on my peak today.

I swear this is the longest month EVER!

Hello! Thank you for creating this thread. Another lurker. Seems a lot on this thread might be at the same point of TTC so would be helpful for us to support each other. Thought I’d share my story as it sounds a little different. I’m almost 29.
TTC since February, first month pregnant . Found out 4d before period. So 22/2, unfortunately bleeding (brown discharge) started on 5/3. Scan on the Tuesday showed sac but no yolk. Fridays bloods showed HCG has dropped. The Saturday miscarried completely including Sac
10 days later began ?period. Was a bit sceptical but appeared a normal period for 4 days. Began testing with ovulation testing. I got a clear blue smiley face 14 days later 6/4.
Now at the awful ‘2 week wait’.
It would be lovely to keep updated how everyone gets on. I’ve got 6 friends all with under 2s and I am so happy that none of them have had to go through a miscarriage but also makes me reluctant to discuss TTC.
Fingers crossed for us all!

Hi Ladies, can i join this thread. We've tried again this month after 2 chemical pregnancies and 1 MC so praying and crossing everything for this month! xx

@Flopsy88 well we DTD over Easter weekend twice I’d just stopped bleeding from the MVA... I don’t usually spot at all, I just start heavyish on the first day. I’m gonna keep an eye on it this week. We were waiting for new cycle to track everything but we have DTD a few times since unprotected so I suppose it could be that... but I don’t know because I don’t really have any other symptoms! So annoying because it was a surprise last time I can’t remember how I felt early on until I did the pregnancy test

@CMcA21 Is it possible you could be pregnant?? It could be an implantation bleed. Sorry, I can't remember if you said you were trying straight away or waiting for new cycle. Does your period always start in full force or do you sometimes have spotting first?

Right girls, I need some advice. I thought I’d got my period as there was some brownish blood when I wiped. I’ve worn pads since last night and there’s the tiniest bit of blood (brown) on there when I’ve looked. There’s hardly anything when I wipe. Do you think it’s just leftover stuff from the MC or is it just a weird period? I’m stressing again now 😫

@Lowkeyloopy Awwww you have a regular grumpy day! ❤ Maybe you should start planning nice things to do on those CDs, or at least stock up on wine and tell everyone to leave you alone! Hopefully you'll be pregnant and won't need to next month though. A hint of a line surely means it's fertile week! Are you going to start DTD every other day? The only things I did differently before ovulation were to take Evening Primrose Oil and eat a grapefruit every day, apparently they're both help to produce EWCM. I used preseed this month too. I have not heard about Brazil nuts?! I'll try anything though! I've started reading It Starts with the Egg and there's so many lifestyle changes that are proven to improve egg quality, although some of them are not that achievable for me (zero alcohol and caffeine!!).

Excellent news!!! @CMcA21 🥳 Glad to hear you're feeling positive and refreshed ready for a new month. Let us know how you get on with the temping!

I'm on CD5 now and not bothering to symptoms spot cos I had no symptoms the month I got pregnant. The boob tenderness was exactly the same as before AF! I'm obsessing over my temp chart and cervical position though (which apparently doesn't mean much)

@Lowkeyloopy thanks! So relieved. I’ll start temping tomorrow and putting it in my app. Can finally over some of the strips and things now, didn’t want to tempt fate.

I totally understand that though, this whole experience has shown me a side to myself I never even though about and now I’m obsessed with knowing what every little pain and change means! How are you feeling?

Hope everyone’s doing ok 💛

Thanks girls! I said I wouldn’t buy anything til I got my period but... it just arrived 🎉 I’m so happy and relieved because I was panicking it wouldn’t happen! Never thought I’d say this but thank god it’s arrived