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TTC after MC - new thread for newbies / lurkers on other threads!

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Lowkeyloopy · 06/04/2021 12:49

Hi all!

I know there are several threads dedicated to this topic, which I've lurked on for several weeks without saying anything, but some threads (sadly) have so many people on them that it can be a bit hard to follow, or it feels awkward to jump into the middle of a conversation between people who have been chatting for a while. Does anyone fancy joining me on a new thread?

My story: 33, TTC baby #1, conceived first cycle in Feb, but had a MC at 6 weeks in early March. Absolutely awful, as everyone knows, and I was in a rubbish place mentally for a few weeks, but I've also counted my blessings - it was early, I needed no medical intervention and at least I know I can conceive. Also AF has returned today - 29 days after first day of my MC. I usually have a 28-29 day cycle so am so grateful that my body seems to be getting with the programme again.

So CD1 for me, and I'll be TTC this month and back to tracking - BBT from tomorrow, OPKs from CD 11, still taking my Pregnacare and trying to keep exercising and eating healthily!

Would anyone like to join me if they're going through something similar? How have you been coping since your MC? What's on your TTC to-do list?! (Other than the obvious..!)

Baby dust to all xx

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Flopsy88 · 03/05/2021 19:26

Hi everyone! Hope you've all had a lovely bank holiday. It's so wet and horrible today we've just lazed around in our PJs all day. It worked out well though cos I finally got a positive OPK so lots of time to DTD. I'm on CD17 and ovulation has never been this late before. I'd just about given up hope and assumed I wouldn't ovulate this month.

@ItsMeantToBe I'm so sorry you're feeling down. It must be so annoying getting BFNs and not knowing what's going on. Very unhelpful of your DH to say that. A month feels like a lifetime when you're TTC!

@Lowkeyloopy You have so much willpower!! I don't know how you've managed not to test yet. It's sounding promising though! The month I got pg I had no symptoms at all until after af was due. Is your temperature still high?

@CMcA21 Fingers cross that was an implantation bleed!! It certainly sounds like it 🤞🏻

ItsMeantToBe · 03/05/2021 10:33

@Lowkeyloopy definitely don't loose hope (although I know how hard that is). I definitely get more symptoms of AF than I do when first pregnant 🤞x

I'm feeling so down today. Done a CB first thing and it was of course a BFN. I've told my DH and his answer was "it's only a month, it takes some people years to get pregnant". He's wondering why I'm so down "when it's only been a month" 🙄. I know what he's saying is true, but it really doesn't help. He just doesn't understand. I've always got pregnant straight away. I don't really understand about luteal and follicular phases- definitely something I need to read up on for next month. My app says luteal is 13-15, but I don't know if that's accurate. I've stopped taking Seven Seas, in case it's that.

Hope everyone else is having a better day than me!

Aila1994 · 03/05/2021 09:51

@Lowkeyloopy I’m not sure where I am in my cycle honestly, we’ve decided against any tracking this month to give us a break. (Still not preventing, just taking away the added pressure of timing). If I had to guess I’d say around CD10.

Fingers crossed AF doesn’t show for you and this is your month 🤞

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Lowkeyloopy · 03/05/2021 09:36

Made the mistake of checking my notes for 14 DPO for when I was PG last - at this point I had had three days of positive HPTs (and my MC didn’t start for another 2 weeks):

“Feeling no symptoms! Not lightheaded or foggy anymore. Nausea / hunger seems to have faded. Breasts don’t feel tender.”

So maybe the jury is still out. Definitely need to distract myself today!

Don’t worry, I’m not actually going loopy with this 😂

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Lowkeyloopy · 03/05/2021 09:05

Morning ladies - happy bank holiday! (To those in the UK at least - sorry if you’re elsewhere!)

14 DPO for me today, AF due tomorrow or Wed and I’m pretty sure I’m out. I just don’t feel.. anything! My body feels silent! I feel pretty sure based on last time that if I were PG I would have something else going on - blue veins on bbs, sore breasts, increased sense of smell etc.. But nowt!

Felt a little teary about it last night (comforted by my lovely but bewildered DP who can’t understand how I’ve made up my mind without taking a test!) but I’ve made a nice list of the things I’ll do if I get AF soon - glass of lovely cold white wine, book a deep tissue massage, do a really intense workout and sweat out the frustration without fear of disrupting implantation etc. Any other ideas of what I can add to my list?!!

@ItsMeantToBe I read that Pregnacare can extend your cycle (think it says it on the box too!) so maybe the same is true with Seven Seas. Your luteal phase stays pretty fixed though doesn’t it? I don’t know whether the tablets could mess with that half of the cycle. So hope you get some answers soon and can start with a fresh slate and new cycle! Or maybe you may have O’d later than you think and have been feeling implantation pains?

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ItsMeantToBe · 02/05/2021 20:54

@CMcA21 Sounds like implantation bleeding! I've never had it myself.

@Lowkeyloopy thanks. My cycles have always been 28 days. I was reading last night that some women had found that taking Seven Seas has messed their cycles up, so I'm wondering if it's that? I've only tried First Response tests so far, some FRER and some rapid response ones (as I ordered them by mistake), all negative, first thing in the morning. I'm wondering if my HCG is just too low for them to have picked it up but also conscious of how much I'm spending on tests. I might test again in the morning if still no signs of AF. I've been super tired this week and still getting contraction type pains a few times a day, so will go the doctors if no BFP this month.

I bet you're so glad your nearly the end of your TWW!

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Lowkeyloopy · 02/05/2021 12:52

Morning all!

checks watch Woops - afternoon all! Smile I've had a very slow start to the day - am SO tired! Saw parents and went for a walk yesterday so maybe the exercise and post-lockdown socialising is getting to me. But hoping it's a symptom anyway of course!

@ItsMeantToBe I'm so sorry to hear about your pains and that all must be quite confusing. How long are your cycles normally? Did you use a FRER or a normal one? Maybe a normal HPT wouldn't detect it. When I had my MC the first doctor said my test was negative (when I hadn't started bleeding) then the following day (mid heavy bleeding) another doctor said it was a faint positive! So maybe depending on dilution of urine you got a negative when it might actually have been a faint positive? I hope you get some answers asap - is it worth talking a doc about the pains either way?

@CMcA21 Fingers crossed that's IB for you! I agree with @Mrsmujic about just applying for the job and seeing what happens and how you feel down the line!

How are you doing @Aila1994 ? What stage are you at now?

13 DPO for me today. Had a sore throat and headache last night, replaced today by tiredness and feeling a little foggy headed. No real cramping or twinging today really, but yesterday I felt so much like AF was about to arrive I put on my period pants! Haha.

If I am PG, my bbs have not worked it out yet... zero tenderness or sensitivity at all, which is the main thing making me think I'm unlikely PG. Though I would usually have some tenderness pre AF. overthinking massively...

I so don't want to test and see that bright white empty space and have to wait for AF.. definitely going to hold out and see if AF doesn't show on Tues/Wed.

Anyone else nearing the end of the TWW?

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CMcA21 · 01/05/2021 22:07

@Aila1994 about 5DPO today I think, I never had any implantation bleeding with my first pregnancy so I have no idea of what to compare it to.. it was like a dash of it in the discharge! So maybe it could be??? Fingers crossed 🤞🏻

Aila1994 · 01/05/2021 20:50

@CMcA21 what DPO are you today? My implantation bleed back in December was just a tiny bit of bright red blood when I wiped and that was it! So fingers crossed 🤞

CMcA21 · 01/05/2021 19:55

Thanks @Mrsmujic I think i will.

Sorry TMI and quite graphic but, just been for a wee and there was blood in my discharge. Once I’d wiped that bit the rest was just normal.. I thought implantation but this was quite red and not brown/pink? I’m worried

ItsMeantToBe · 01/05/2021 14:30

Welcome @Pennyh123 sorry to hear about your loss. Hope you find this group helpful.

Hope everyone else is ok today.

I tested again this morning and still BFN. I've just had quite intently contraction like pains. I'm CD30/17DPO today. I'm wondering whether I'm having another CP and the HCG levels aren't high enough to be picked up on a test.

Mrsmujic · 01/05/2021 12:05

@CMcA21 I would just apply for the job, even if you got offered it you don't have to take it. That way you can have longer to decide etc. It keeps all of your options open that way too. Good luck X

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Lowkeyloopy · 30/04/2021 22:40

Welcome @Pennyh123 ! So sorry for your loss but definitely take heart from the fact that you’re clearly wonderfully fertile and so fingers crossed you will catch again quickly! You and I can help each other stay strong and not test - I’m considering asking my DP to hide them!

@Flopsy88 - hang in there! You totally sound like where I was a couple of weeks ago - I ordered a box of 50 more IC OPKs from Amazon when I had only one left, and wouldn’t you bloody know that turned out to be my peak! Are you going to DTD anyway just in case you’ve missed it somewhere? (And to cheer you up and connect with DP of course!) I hope you have some nice plans this weekend to take your mind off it?

I’ve had a few more light twinges this evening. I’ve also told myself that irritability is a symptom. Got so frustrated about someone USELESS at work who created another two hours work for me today. I was mid major rant to DP over dinner when it occurred to me they probably weren’t the devil incarnate and that perhaps my hormones had something to do with it - either PG or (more likely) AF!

@CMcA21 I hope the headspace over the weekend gives you some clarity!

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CMcA21 · 30/04/2021 20:24

@Flopsy88 I am still thinking about the job, have til Wednesday to apply so I’m going to have a think over the weekend! Hopefully it comes to me 😂

@Lowkeyloopy your pains sound promising? Fingers crossed for you.

Hope everyone’s week was ok! Anyone got any nice plans for the bank hol weekend?

Flopsy88 · 30/04/2021 20:07

Welcome @Pennyh123 and sorry to hear about your loss 💐 It's definitely positive that you conceived so quickly! I hope it happens like that again for you

@Lowkeyloopy My OPKs usually go dark quite suddenly too. I've done 3 today and was expecting I'd get a positive after work but still barely a second line. I feel thoroughly downhearted now. I've just had to order more tests which I didn't think I'd have to do this month. It's annoying because my cycles were sooo regular before! Ugh 😔

Pennyh123 · 30/04/2021 19:17

I don’t know what happened at the end of my previous message Confused. It was supposed to say hopefully won’t take too long to conceive again this time.

Pennyh123 · 30/04/2021 18:49

Hi, I hope you don’t mind me joining, I’ve been reading everyone’s stories for a few days and thought I’d share mine.

I had my Nexplanon implant removed on 10th February in an attempt to TTC #3 (I already have 2 boys aged 6 and 4). Found out I was pregnant on 24th March but started mc on 6th April. Decided to TTC straight away and currently 7/8 dpo. I have no idea when AF is due so I’m going to try my hardest to resist testing until 13/14 dpo.

I’m trying to take the whatever positives I can from the mc in that we managed to conceive really quickly, so hopefully won’t take too long going i

Mrsmujic · 30/04/2021 15:13

Hi girls, hope you're all doing okay.

Sounds like there's some exciting symptoms happening for a few of you. Fingers crossed we start hearing bfp stories 🤞

I'm 2dpo today, a couple of cramps but not much happening at all really, today I've been needing to pee all the time though which is a bit odd! I got my positive opk on Weds (cd24) but didn't manage to DTD much during fertile week due to alternating shift patterns which isn't helpful! We got a couple of times on and near peak so I might get really lucky, who knows! X

ItsMeantToBe · 30/04/2021 13:58

@Lowkeyloopy I originally thought she was due on Wednesday but I think I should have calculated CD2 as CD1, as it was the first full day of bleeding following my CP. So I'm that case she was due yesterday. My cycle is normally pretty predictable. I'm feeling pretty chilled though. I just want to know either way so I know whether I can have a glass of wine over the weekend or not!

I definitely need to exercise more, pregnant or not. I've been so unmotivated recently. Love your idea about sharing tips etc, we definitely need to do that.

Your pains sound similar to what I had with DS. It was the first and only symptom I had before I POAS and I had them for a few weeks following also. I'm sure you're not imagining them, just in tune with your body. Exciting!

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Lowkeyloopy · 30/04/2021 13:27

When was AF due @ItsMeantToBe ? Fingers crossed that heaviness means something. I’m also comforting myself with threads of women saying they had zero symptoms other than a positive test!

If this isn’t my month what I’ll do differently next month is DTD on all of CD 12-16! I missed CD13 which was probably the best day for me. And do more exercise - I completely slacked off after my MC. Maybe those who get BFPs can all share what they did, and all of us who don’t can swap thoughts about what to do next cycle - good to have a plan and practical things to do I think!

That said, I’ve been having sharp pulling pains today! I got a cluster of them probably around 8.30 am as I was pottering about getting ready to start work. Like every 30 seconds for a few minutes - quite low down on my abdomen but on the right hand side. Then they stopped for a few hours and about an hour ago I got one really sharp one as I was sitting at my desk - out of nowhere and made me lean forward and gasp a bit.

But then when they’re not happening and my body is totally silent and symptomless, part of me wonders whether I’ve just imagined it!

If this isn’t a BFP month, I might actually be inclined to go to the docs about it, because it’s near where I felt the twingy pains before my MC. So if it’s not a new pregnancy, I’d want someone to reassure me that everything is ok in there!

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ItsMeantToBe · 30/04/2021 09:42

Morning ladies,

No sign of AF yet. I tested yesterday morning but got a BFN. Ive had a heaviness in my stomach too @Lowkeyloopy, I'm assuming it's period pains but I think it does feel slightly different. I've decided to wait to see if AF turns up and not test again for a few days...well until at least tomorrow. I'm completely expecting this to not be my month. I don't know what I would do differently next month though, apart from maybe monitoring BBT and wearing socks to bed?!

@Flopsy88 Keep doing OPK's today and tomorrow and fingers crossed you'll get your peak. I'm sure it's right around the corner.

Hope everyone is having a nice morning!

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Lowkeyloopy · 30/04/2021 08:21

Morning! Welcome to the gang @PolarBear63 ! So sorry to hear about your MC and hope you’re doing ok - it will be your time soon 🙂

No more real symptoms I don’t think @Flopsy88 , so I’m now convinced this isn’t my month and trying to get into that mindset so I’m not disappointed! I’ve got a kinda heaviness / roundness to my stomach is the only thing. Doesn’t actually feel like bloat - I’m not gassy - just feel a bit.. round! And slightly like AF could be around the corner but it would be too early. Also have been waking up warm in the middle of the night like I did last time but I think that might just be normal progesterone / temp increase.

Checked my app and last time I had some slight dizziness and cramping a bit like AF by 11DPO which I am today. Though symptoms like veiny bbs and increased sense of smell only came after missed AF. Just gotta keep myself distracted until mid next week somehow..

Either way this month will have been helpful to remind me that there really is no point symptom spotting early and if all that twinging was nothing to do with implantation, I won’t go mental analysing twinging in future months!

Hang in there with the OPKs-I was also feeling disheartened and worried because I had no hint of a positive when I expected it on CD13. But then it suddenly appeared on the evening of CD14. Do you know if you usually get a gradual increase or rapid onset? Apparently most people fall into one of those two - I’m defo the second - the peak is blink and you miss it so I have to test 3 times a day! Fortunately only with ICs. Hopefully you have a fun weekend of DTD ahead!

Thinking of you @ItsMeantToBe ! Hope you’re ok even if AF has showed her face!

Hope all you other ladies are well too and looking forward to the weekend!

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Flopsy88 · 30/04/2021 07:55

Morning ladies! How is everyone getting on? I am SO GLAD IT'S FRIDAY!! 😴

Any more symptoms @Lowkeyloopy ? Are you planning to test early or are you waiting til af is due?

@CMcA21 Have you made any decisions about the job? I hope you're feeling better after talking to your DP about it

@ItsMeantToBe Any sign of af yet? Did you test again? Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

I'm on CD14 and OPKs still not getting darker. I was feeling a bit disheartened cos I thought I always ovulated on CD14 but after looking through previous months on my app I realised I have had an LH surge on CD14/15 before so it's hopefully fine. My cervix is really high which I think is a good sign. It's hard not to worry that the mc messed up my cycle though

ItsMeantToBe · 28/04/2021 22:52

Thanks @Lowkeyloopy AF was due today but no sign of her. I took a FRER and still BFN. I'm wondering if I should have counted CD2 as CD1, as I only started bleeding in the evening, so tomorrow might actually be CD28. I've still got no signs of AF, apart from increased use of the loo! I think I'll be ok either way though. If AF does arrive I'm having the biggest blow out ever at the weekend.

Definitely sounds like implantation for you!! Not long to wait now .

@CMcA21 it's so hard to balance life, career and TTC isn't isn't it. I've kind of put my career progression on hold as I can't handle too much stress at once. You can see how the gender pay gap happens can't you! Do whatever feels right. What will be will be.

@PolarBear63 sorry to hear of your loss! Hope this is your month.

I'm currently laid in bed with freezing cold feet- jealous of all you ladies with nice cosy ones!

CMcA21 · 28/04/2021 22:26

@Lowkeyloopy sorry I missed the second bit about the job, I’ve spoken to him about it and he says he will support me in what I do... so we will see I guess. But it’s so true what you say about the timing. They just don’t care do they 😂

Also your pains sound like implantation so fingers crossed for you. 🤞🏻 Keep those feet warm missus 😂 let us know how you get on!