TTC after MC - new thread for newbies / lurkers on other threads!

Yes absolutely@Flopsy88 !! I wish I could be that naive now. When I do get pregnant I think I'll be constantly waiting for something bad to happen.

@Aila1994 sorry you're having a tough time at work. Definitely apply for other jobs. You would have a good 7/8 months there before mat leave. I'm not happy in my job either but it's not stressful and I get to WFH so I'm sticking at it for now, to keep my anxiety down. @justwant2beamum good look in your new job!

I've had another close friend announce her pregnancy this week. We would have been due within a week of each other. I could hardly bring myself to be happy for her....which has made me feel so guilty!

@Aila1994 good for you I think you have to go for it and don't put your life on hold. I also start new job this week I thought same as you I hated old job so much I didn't even care about mat pay xx

Hi everyone, I’ve taken some time away from mumsnet, have been crazy busy at work and just needed a breather.

@Flopsy88 @CMcA21 so sorry to hear about AF for you both this cycle, fingers crossed for a Feb baba 🤞!

No real updates from me, I’m pretty unhappy in my job atm, bit under appreciated and over qualified, but I have been putting off applying for new positions in the off chance I’m pregnant for the last 2 months.

I finally bit the bullet on Friday and applied for a few dream jobs! So fingers crossed that gives me something other than TTC to focus on.

I’d rather be happy going back to a job I love after maternity than be entitled to Maternity pay at this stage!!

Aw @CMcA21 I'm so sorry that's gutting for you, with your symptoms I definitely thought you were 😭 I think the same is happening to me this cycle, my rhr has shot up like it did in jan with my BFP and it's currently 75 which it's only ever been when pregnant. But I also just have a feeling I'm not and it's playing a cruel trick. I've had a super stressful week of work, was working on 16 hour days and only slept 2 hours one night to get up and work so have also eaten crap so I think the rhr is more likely stress/lack of sleep/bad eating 😭

Thanks @ItsMeantToBe You're so right! They made it sound so easy. I also used to think that getting pregnant=having a baby, but since having the mc and reading other people's stories it feels like conceiving is just the first of many hurdles

So sorry to hear that AF arrived @CMcA21 and @Flopsy88. Hope you're both spoiling yourselves.

It's crazy that as teenagers we get taught that if you have sex you WILL get pregnant- who knew it was this difficult? This thread is really helpful, but it also highlights how many of us struggle to get a BFP doesn't it 🙁. Hopefully it's our month this month!! I'm Cd14 today, so hoping I'll get my peak any time now. I've started to use OPK twice a day. I got a bit of a drop in temp this morning.

@Lowkeyloopy @Flopsy88 thanks girls for your kind words. I’m okay just gonna have a few treats today and then be super super healthy from tomorrow ❤️ And going to order some OPKs as I wasn’t checking that just checking BBT but I kind of gave up with it when it was making me stressed so I didn’t know my ovulation date. So I suppose that might mean we just had the wrong fertile window to DTD in so I’m thinking it could be better next month.

Defo gonna do that thing I’ve seen on here where you promise yourself a gift for your period.

Flopsy - glad your body is back in working order ❤️ The first period was a relief for me.

Positive thoughts girls and we will all hopefully get our BFP soon 🤞🏻

@CMcA21 Oh love, I'm so so sorry. I was certain this was your month! 😥 I'm not surprised you're so upset. Take good care of yourself today and hopefully tomorrow you'll feel more positive and ready for a new cycle and a fresh start ❤

@Lowkeyloopy Nice to hear from you again! I hope you've had a good week. It's great it's passed quickly for you, time seems to go so slowly when TTC. It sounds like you're in a good place and you're ready to go with dtd! Have you done anything differently this month? I'm going to start having a glass of grapefruit juice every day as well as my green smoothie (which I am loving btw!! 🙂)

AF showed up for me today too. Two days early which isn't so bad. It was my first full cycle since the miscarriage so it's a relief to know that I'm ovulating again and that my luteal phase is long enough, even though it's been a bit more irregular than before the mc. I was feeling a bit down because we've now been TTC for 6 months, but actually I was pregnant/miscarrying for half of that time so I've really only had 3 full cycles and conceived on one of them. So that seems fair if there's only a 1/3 chance of conceiving each month anyway, even if you dtd at exactly the right time. I'm going to cheer myself up by splashing out on a new running watch which definitely be worth it if I was pregnant.

I really hope we all have some luck soon. This WILL happen for us!!

@Flopsy88 @Lowkeyloopy I got my period girls 😢 while I was out with friends and I’d slyly ordered G&Ts without the G. Then decided to get drunk and cry 😂 hope you’re both okay. ❤️ I just feel so sorry for myself and probably gonna cry all day.

@CMcA21 I possibly did ovulate late because my temp rise doesn't match up with my OPKs but if I did then we probably didn't DTD at the right time anyway. I had really strong cramps earlier in the week so I'd convinced myself it was implantation but clearly it doesn't mean anything. I was really disappointed this morning but I'm fine with it now. How are you feeling? Are you testing tomorrow? Did you get a frer?

@Flopsy88 that’s so annoying for you, I’m so sorry. I would say it’s a really good idea to wait til missed period in future. Is there a chance it could be a late implantation and you could still miss your period? Any symptoms now?

@CMcA21 It certainly sounds like you're pregnant! If your HCG is high enough for you to have morning sickness then a cheap test will definitely be positive, no need for a frer at this stage 🤞🏻

I tested with a frer this morning at 11dpo and got bfn which I was expecting tbh. Now I have to wait 3 days for a new cycle to begin even though I know I'm not pregnant which is really frustrating. I've got 1 test left which I'm going to put in the car so I won't be tempted to use it. It's such a waste of money. Next month I'm not testing until af is due cos it's making me miserable 😔

@ItsMeantToBe I’ve woken up and been sick 😱 going to go and get a FRER today and test. I’m literally putting it off because I’m too scared... I don’t want to do it 😩

@CMcA21 you've been so strong! Only a couple of hours to go. Try and get some sleep! I'm convinced you'll get a BFP. I'm also not going to tell DH when I'm testing and going to announce it in a nice way .

@Flopsy88 yeah still sitting at 70 and took my BBT this morning it was 36.92 when it normal sits at 36.38... I’m nervous & scared 😩😩😩 I will be strong mostly because I’m already in bed and I wanna test with a FRER so will have to buy tomorrow! DP has said he doesn’t want to know I’m going to test he wants to find out in a nice way if I am pregnant because last time I didn’t really ‘announce’ to him so you are the only ones I’ve told 😂 x

You are so close to tomorrow!! If you test tonight you're more likely to get a false negative, especially with a cheap test. It's always better use first morning urine. Be strong!! 💪🏻You are so late now that you must surely be pregnant! Is your HR still up? Xx

Still no AF here. I have two cheap tests upstairs and really want to test. But don’t know what to do. I said I’d wait for tomorrow 😩

@CMcA21 yes folicular part length can change so ovulation can change day each month but your lutetual phase normally stays the same for most people so they say. So if your LP is 14 days you'll always be due on 14 days after ovulation whatever day ovulation occurred whether cd15 or cd25 etc x good luck xx

@ItsMeantToBe I think your ovulation day can change on different cycles you know, it’s not always exactly the same @justwant2beamum I don’t know exactly when I ovulated this is the problem... I don’t feel pregnant though if that makes sense, like last time I knew I was but I just don’t feel pregnant this time. I’m gonna wait until Saturday to take a test anyway so we will see what happens before then!

@CMcA21 omg so you're 2 days late? I definitely think you'll get BFP- do you know when you ovulated cause luteul phase stays the same so you'd only have a longer cycle if you ovulated later 🤞🏻🤞🏻 for you.

So exciting @CMcA21 I know that fear every time you go to the loo! Fingers crossed.

Hope everyone is having a nice evening!

I'm CD10 today. I've had a big temp rise and OVK rise- is that normal around this time in the cycle?? Last month I got my peak on CD 13/14.

@Flopsy88 thanks 💜

Keep expecting my AF when I go to the loo, today is my CD30 and I normally have 28 day cycles but I don’t know what it will be like post MC.

@CMcA21 It's completely understandable that you should feel that way. I don't think getting a positive test will ever feel the same after a loss. Keeping everything crossed for you ❤