TTC after MC - new thread for newbies / lurkers on other threads!

@Flopsy88 @ItsMeantToBe Feeling good thanks! Getting slight twinges every now and again, and occasionally feeling a little sleepy and really hungry, but otherwise pretty normal.

@Flopsy88 I think the main thing was DTD more tbh! Also I was perhaps a little more active. I put a list of thoughts in this post if you’re interested! - 29/05/2021 12:57. Sounds like you’ve put yourself in the best possible position! And had a nice healthy and fun few weeks in the process - ideal. Hope you can have as chilled a 2ww as possible!

@ItsMeantToBe So I’ve actually already self-referred.. I filled in the form before I even told DP! I’m running the risk of having to cancel it if doesn’t go well, but if all goes well I want to get a booking appointment asap and last time the appointment was scheduled at 11 weeks! Plus I kinda want it on the record as a pregnancy so I’m a step closer to getting tests if the worst happens. Though trying to think positively!

@flowermil Ooh I reckon I can see something on those tests.. and I know lines don’t show up well in photos! Worth taking another just in case?

Line progression after 48 hours! 😀 11DPO - 13DPO. Today’s is way darker than one I did at 15DPO last time, which makes me hopeful. Come on sticky bean!! How is everyone else?

Welcome @flowermil - this is a thread for TTC after MC.. you may have more luck asking on general TTC threads about symptoms as well..! For me CM has never been particularly helpful to track - it just varies so much. I think it’s more about what’s normal for you and how it compares with previous months. When was your last AF and are your cycles regular so does it make sense for you to have ovulated last weekend rather than this weekend? For me that OPK looks like a “low” so perhaps it’s on its way down after peaking a few days ago. Was the second line much darker last week? Do you use the Premom app? I find that quite helpful as it avoids me having to work out the darkness of lines myself.

@ItsMeantToBe Just read your update properly - I think that would be such a great way to tell him! And I understand the superstitious feeling but one way or another you’ll want that top for your DS one day so I’d definitely allow yourself that one purchase! I told DP yesterday after the envelopes thing yesterday that I knew the next few weeks would likely be full of anxious moments (as the last few months have been), so I just wanted to allow ourselves that one moment of joy and celebration without fear!

Easy to say but try not to read into how you’re feeling in the first week of the TWW. I think all of that is just normal progesterone related. I had a stark white BFN on a FRER at 9 DPO so realistically none of the bloatedness or feeling emotional before that could have been due to being pregnant at that stage. Hope you can distract yourself over the next few days - I definitely struggled with the wait to get to double figures DPO!

Thank you ladies! I wrapped up the frer in some tissue paper and put it in an envelope propped up on the side. He came in and after a while asked what it was and I said “oh yeh, that came today - I got one too - early wedding present I think.” Nice and vague and misleading to throw him off the scent! He was confused opening it but then saw it and gasped and his first reaction was to say “BAD GIRL!” 😂 because I was meant to wait until today to test. But he was very happy. Like me, he’s just taking it as a nice confirmation that our eggs and sperm like each other and my body wants implantation to happen.. so fingers crossed this one sticks, but either way we can feel positive.

Woke up at 6am with a prickling sensation behind the pelvic bone. And just now had a very light throbbing sensation. Hopefully it’s burrowing in deep. Will do another FRER tomorrow and hope I get line progression 🤞

So sorry to hear you’re out @bea19. Hope you’re feeling positive going into the next month though. All it takes is that one time - it’ll happen!

@Flopsy88 - do you temp lovely? I’ve forgotten. Any sign of ovulation following your peak?

Happy Sunday all - hope it’s a relaxed and happy one.

@Flopsy88 So pleased for your positive OPK! It’s such a relief when you know your cycle has normalised. Brilliant news about the grapefruit juice too - people do seem to swear by it! I have everything crossed for you this month. Have a fun weekend. 😉

Eek! It’s really there! BFP! Faint but there. Here’s a FRER and another boots strip (cos why not..!). Not FMU - second wee after 4 hour hold, but still got lines within 3 minutes. Yay!

Obviously still super early and I know CP stats are like 1 in 3. Right now I’m just going to try to be grateful to have cleared a few hurdles - a normal cycle, ovulation, a fertilised egg and at least a bit of implantation!

Hang in there everybody. At 5DPO I was actually sobbing down the phone to my mum, saying I felt like everyone was getting pregnant and it wasn’t going to happen for me. Things can change in an instant. Many hurdles still to get over but for today, I’m happy and I’m pregnant!

In case anyone is interested (I know I always am!), things I did this month that I didn’t do (or not as much) last month:

• DTD every day from CD 10-14. I think I ovulated on CD 13 based on BBT. I also always seem to ovulate the same day as my peak, so that’s one to look out for! We did the same DTD every day last time we conceived in Feb (first cycle TTC). Then a break in March, tried again in April but missed the day before ovulation.

• propped my hips up on a bolster cushion for about 10 mins after DTD - i think that makes the pelvis tip backwards - feels like it helps anyway. But I probably shouldn’t have done this as I got a UTI!

• oil of evening primrose capsule every day until ovulation (thanks @Flopsy88 for the tip!)

• small glass of POM pomegranate juice a day for about a week after ovulation, pineapple (including core) in my smoothie each morning for about the same time, a few Brazil nuts almost every day since O (I think I just like them now!).

• started doing yoga every other day again from half way through AF, plus a couple of other cardio classes. I was doing this religiously when I first conceived but lost my motivation after the MC.

As for symptoms...

• 3 DPO - sharp twinge on LHS but near the middle. I think I ovulated from this side. Could it be the Fallopian tubes contracting to move the egg along? I read that somewhere.

• 5DPO - super emotional! Slight twinging on LHS.

• 6PO - super bloated. But just normal progesterone related I guess!

• 7DPO - vivid dream about getting a BFP on a FRER. Bloated.

• 8 DPO - I think implantation must have started today. Prickling sensation low on LHS kinda behind pelvic bone. Itchy left nipple. Tingly near left nipple. Weird how it was all on the left! Bloated. Achy low back but at the time I put it down to sitting at work chair.

9DPO - BFN on a FRER. Silly me. Low back ache. Increased CM - mainly watery I think.

10 DPO - bloated. Slightly crampy low back ache in the morning that then faded. DP commented my skin was looking good (I’m prone to breakouts but it’s v clear atm). Odd tingling sensation in both nipples over dinner! Realised my usually easily-breakable nails have been super strong the last few days. Thought DP smelled AMAZING while we were out at dinner 😂 (that happened last time).

11 DPO (today) - Slight pain/pulling like.. inside V / pelvis when woke up. I think it’s called lightning crotch! Slightly stuffy nose. Squinter with FMU on a boots own strip. Streak of blood when I wiped. BFP with a FRER! Now just super hungry.

DP is out for the day so I’m trying to think how to tell him. We both now know that a BFP doesn’t equal a baby, but he’ll obviously be happy to have cleared this hurdle. What should I do to tell him?! Just fling the stick at him when he walks through the door?!

Thanks @Flopsy88, I’m swinging between feeling so happy and a bit nervy... definitely need a FRER to confirm! The line went pinker in the next few minutes, and I also got a shadow on a crappy Waitrose own test (who even knows why I have those in my cupboard).

The other thing (and sorry for tmi) is that I had some blood in my CM when I wiped this morning after doing the pot for the test. Real shock! A definite streak rather than a few dots. I didn’t have IB last time and I never ever spot before AF (which isn’t due till Wed at the earliest anyway), so I’m really really hoping that this one (assuming it is real..) has burrowed deep!

@CMcA21 - sorry just saw your question! Is it possible that the EWCM is.. err.. aftermath of DTD?! That’s why I struggle to track CM during my FW. I think some people get a little bleeding when they ovulate, so perhaps it’s that?
And @bea19 don’t despair! I think the window for implantation is 6-12 DPO, so you could still get a BFP - you’re not out till she shows 🙂