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Period after neonatal death

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flb53 · 05/04/2021 19:07

Hi, I was just hoping for some information before I drive myself crazy.
I lost my DS in January, two days after he was born, due to complications during delivery. I had to have an emergency ceserean where they did a 'T' incision on my uterus.
I had bleeding after delivery which gradually became less + less but seemed to pick up abit after about 4 weeks ( I assumed this could be my period, although it wasn't very heavy)
The bleeding stopped 11th February + I haven't had anything since. Has anyone found that after ceserean or loss of their baby that it took a while for their periods to return? I'm now doubting if I've had a period at all + becoming more + more anxious that I could suffer from fertility issues as a result of what I've been through. I know getting stressed won't help but I'm not sure how I can't be stressed after what we've been through these last 3 months. Charlie was our first baby 🤍

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ElderMillennial · 05/04/2021 19:58

OP I'm sorry for your loss

I lost a baby at full term two years ago. My period returned within a month but that seemed to be quick compared to others for whom it took months. That had no bearing on fertility though as it took us a while.

The thing is when something like that happens to you, in my experience, you are likely to worry about those around you, your fertility. I generally found I thought the worst. I had pain which turned out to be a UTI after giving birth and I had started thinking I probably had an infection of my uterus making me infertile...

It will take time to come to terms with what happens and you will have bad days when you are angry or stressed or simply very sad Flowers

ChelseaCat · 05/04/2021 19:57

I’m so sorry for your loss OP Flowers

I’d guess your body is still full of hormones and trying to settle down. I’m sure the horrendous stress of losing Charlie must also play a part in your periods not having returned yet. Make sure you’re eating and drinking well, getting plenty of rest and looking after yourself.

Sending you very best wishes

angelopal · 05/04/2021 19:55

So sorry for your loss. Mine took 3 months to return after loosing our first at 4 days.

LilacIris · 05/04/2021 19:53

I’m so sorry. I’ve always loved the name Charlie. Are you getting lots of support?

I’ve had four c sections and also experienced a neonatal death. I’ve had a similar amount of time bleeding regarding of the gestation my baby was born and whether they survived or not. It’s usually been around four months after giving birth before my periods have returned. It’s also been quite normal to have a bit of a stop and start with lochia.

Were you given medication to stop your body producing milk?

alpenguin · 05/04/2021 19:49

I’m so sorry for your loss.

My period returned about 13 weeks after my first section and 15 weeks after my second.

jessstan2 · 05/04/2021 19:46

I am so sorry you lost Charlie.

It takes a while for the body to get back to normal after having a child. I expect you are fine but if no period - or excessive bleeding - in three months, seek medical advice if only to reassure you.

All the best for the future.

SummerHouse · 05/04/2021 19:41

Periods can take a long time to settle after birth. But on top of that I think emotions can also have an impact and you have been through the worst mill there is. Mine stopped for six months in my early 20s for no apparent reason.

ekausbsj · 05/04/2021 19:22

Sorry for your loss OP Thanks If it's at all reassuring my periods were all over the place for a couple of months after giving birth.

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flb53 · 05/04/2021 19:18

Thank you for replying @SummerHouse
I had an appointment with the GP who told me it was still early days and that what I had after 4 weeks was possibly a period. She said to leave it another month or two and contact her again if I still didn't have a period. I was just wondering what other peoples experiences had been, I can't help but over think. Also forgot to say.. there's no chance I could be pregnant.

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flb53 · 05/04/2021 19:13

Thank you ❤

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SummerHouse · 05/04/2021 19:13

I am so, so sorry. How utterly unfair life can be. I am sure you are fine but it's no wonder you worry that you are not. I would make an appointment with your GP and talk it all through.

Madeoftea · 05/04/2021 19:10

I don't really have any knowledge or insight but I just wanted to say that I'm so so sorry for your loss ♥️♥️