Missed miscarriage: experience or advice?

I found out at 7w+5 that baby had stopped growing. I waited 9 days for the bleeding to start and although the waiting was awful I think it helped me accept and come to terms with the loss. So when the bleeding started I was mostly relieved and I wasn't so sad. In my mind the MC had already happened so I wasn't too upset about the actual process. If its any reassurance, I had a period 4 weeks after the bleeding started (2 weeks after it stopped) and although we had planned to wait 2 cycles before TTC again, I accidentally got pregnant after 1st cycle...I think my ovulation date was a little out of synch after MC. So far this pregnancy is progressing normally.

So sorry this is happening to you, its shit isn't it.

I had a mmc in early December at 10 weeks, it had stopped growing just after a scan showed all was fine with heartbeat at 6+4. I started spotting at 10 weeks exactly, 12 hours later cramping and heavy bleeding started and then 2 days later I passed the sac. I then was given the drugs for retained tissue but they did nothing, and my period arrived as normal barely 3 weeks after the mc began, about 10 days after it ended, which was good.

So that was December and we conceived again in February, currently 9-10 weeks now if all is going well. I've found it very difficult after the mmc because I had so many symptoms last time and they meant nothing so its so difficult to wait for weeks to pass this time, I had an early scan at 8 weeks (I found out at 3 weeks so even that was a long wait!) due to bleeding but would've paid for an early scan if I wasn't having that one.

@GeorgiaMcGraw so sorry to hear about your loss. I had a loss discovered at 10 weeks in December. I left it 1 week but psychologically I needed to be able to move on and opted for surgical management. I have to say whilst being devastated, I felt surgery was the right choice for me having read horror stories about medical management.
Have you got private healthcare with work at all? It’s an avenue to explore if NHS is not offering any intervention. I have to say that mine happened in the second wave and I was offered medical or surgical intervention by the NHS so if you didn’t feel able to wait I would push them for options.
Sending you lots of strength, it is a horrendous time xx

I had a MMC in Nov at 8 weeks after TTC for 3 years. Mine happened naturally a week after my early scan. I felt and went through everything you’ve described. I’m sorry you have to go through this too. Life is so cruel sometimes. I had a scan after the initial bleed and was told it hadn’t completed. Took the pessaries they gave me at the hospital and nothing further happened. Booked for a D&C, but fortunately I asked for a scan the day before and they told me it had completed naturally with no further bleeding.
The reason I’m telling you this, is because I think I had the follow up scans too early and I got different advice from the nurses compared to the doctors on what to expect pain and bleeding wise which panicked me.
I wanted to rush to the end, to be able to try again, but would have saved myself a lot of distress if I’d have let nature take its course. We’re now 3 months in to trying again and no luck conceiving yet, but a dr recently told me that it can take our bodies a few months to fully recover and I didn’t feel right until recently. I’m totally hung up on my due date too. I would have given birth in June and I was hoping to be pregnant before then again. With my last period, it meant I’ve missed out on having a baby this year.
My advice is to go through the grieving process and let your mind and body heal, whatever route you take with the MC. And wishing you lots of luck TTC again.

I had a MMC in 2018, baby had stopped growing at 5/6 weeks and on,y found out at a scan at 13. Seems my body hadn’t realised the baby had stopped growing. I had a D&C as they didn’t think it would happen naturally (after my body not realising for so long). Mentally it took me a long time to get over it, I felt like I wasn’t good enough and took a lot of processing; for me.

Positive note: I became pregnant again in May 2019 and had a scan at 6 weeks where I found out I was carrying twins, cue the most worry I have ever felt. I was petrified for the whole of my pregnancy that something was going to go wrong and I wouldn’t know. My girls are currently playing next to me and are 14 months.

It feels like crap and like no one gets it but we do. It’s ok to mourn for what might have been and to feel rubbish. I found talking about it helped me and I don’t shy away from talking (if someone asks, I don’t randomly start chatting about it). I hope you are ok.

Hey, I couldn’t read and not reply to you bless you, this was me a few years ago I honestly didn’t think I would get through it. I went for my scan and was told the baby had no heartbeat and like you I was told to wait a week. Nothing happened in that week so I was offered medical management or surgical. I chose medical so I had medication to make my body realise the pregnancy had ended and then I think it was the next day I went In just for the day and was given medication to make me dilate. I passed the baby around 6 hours later, I had to ask for some diamorphine for the pain it was like really bad period pain but wasn’t unbearable. I passed what needed to come and then I was allowed home, after that i don’t remember any pain really and just bled for a few weeks like a period.

I’ve gone on to have a full term healthy pregnancy and now I am carrying my second.

I hope you are ok? Please don’t be scared it will be okay and you will absolutely get through this, you can dm me if you have anymore questions or anything x

Sorry for your loss
I had a scan and found out my baby stopped growing at 10 weeks. I was sent home for two weeks to wait for the bleeding to start, unfortunately it didn’t so I was given tablets and spent the night in hospital to manage the miscarriage.
I found the waiting to bleed really difficult, take care of yourself OP.

I'm really sorry for your loss, @GeorgiaMcGraw. My baby stopped developing at about 6 weeks, I found out at a scan at 8 weeks, and I miscarried naturally at about 11 weeks. I absolutely hated the waiting (and, like you, am now counting the months until I could possibly have another baby), but for various reasons they wouldn't give me the medication and I ended up miscarrying naturally. It was very painful, but only briefly - about an hour - whilst I've heard that medical management can be more painful.

I hope you heal quickly x

Morning hun. So so sorry. Similar thing happen to me. Had a mc at 11 weeks. Didnt make it to my 12 wk scan. Can only think baby stopped growing before than. It was hard as I didnt know what to expect but I thank God it happen natural. Read to many negative stories about surgery etc. So hard cos only God knows why it happens. Since then fell pregnant but also bleeding again at 5wks and this is how the last one started. 🤷‍♀️🥺. I've read some ladies bleed for unknown reasons and still have successful pregnancy. I have call booked with gp and after bleed with call epu. I doubt they will be able to see much now anyway. I hope ur ok anyway 🙏