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How to accept.

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Basicbitching · 25/03/2021 13:12

I'm on month 9 of trying...evry single month I'm sure it will be THE month, every single time I'm trying to symptom spot and I have the achy boobs very early on which I don't when we're not trying..then inevitably I get the heaviness in my uterus that means my period is on its way in a couple of days 😔. I always have hope but nothing happens.
How can i just accept that I'm not going to have another.
As not to drip feed or be insensitive, I already have 2 both of whom were conceived in the first month. Im also 36 so I'm not young anymore although we both eat clean and are fit and well.
I'm happy with my 2 and i know I'm lucky I have them..but I think its more the feeling that I may be too old to have anymore that's bothering me the most rather not the never having a third child iygwim.

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Basicbitching · 25/03/2021 15:26

I've been tracking ovulation but not used the lubricant. I'll give it a go. I'm 2 days away from my period being due but i can tell it'll come as u have the same symptoms every month since it began.

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FayLivvie · 25/03/2021 14:58

Have you used anything like concieve plus fertility lubricant? I have heard lots of good things about that giving you a helping hand. It is so much harder getting pregnancy than you think. I also have two but would love a third. I never tracked ovulation before and now I am it's very frustrating when you get a negative!

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Basicbitching · 25/03/2021 14:41

@Frankie2015 I will give them a call in that case.i honestly thought they'd only help if I had no dc.
My cycles are very very regular. I tell myself each month that I shouldn't worry and just accept it won't happen but that little bit of hope won't go away. It's harder isn't it when previous dc were conceived so quickly, so you kind of have that confidence in the beginning that it'll happen then it doesn't and its so disappointing. I love my 2 to bits too but due to other reasons we haven't been able to try until 9 months ago.

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Frankie2015 · 25/03/2021 14:39

I don't whether it's because of the irregular cycles that she was more keen to help but all she ask me about me other 2 was how old were they and when did I stop breast feeding my youngest so see if that would have any affect. Worth a try though! X

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Basicbitching · 25/03/2021 14:37

I didn't think the gp would do anything if I've already got 2 dc?

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Frankie2015 · 25/03/2021 14:27

I'm in exactly the same position. I have 2 children already and have been trying for a 3rd for some time now also mid 30s. First 2 pregnant within a month. It's hard to explain the need for another baby I feel like I am craving my third so much and all I've ever wanted is a large family but feel so guilty that I already have 2 and should be happy (obviously I love them to bits) but just feel so unfulfilled. Its basically all I think about and think it's going to happen ever month and symptoms spot like crazy and always convince myself! I've had a few chemical pregnancy which has been horrible.

My cycle is all over the place and irregular so just had a hormonal blood test. I would definitely recommend calling your GP. I was surprised that they were willing to help.

AliBear90 · 25/03/2021 14:09

Have you spoken to your gp? If you’re over 35 they will do fertility checks after 6 months of trying