TTC 35+ Thread 8

@Marvellouslymadmum still can’t believe it’s 8 months!

Thanks @Kitekat81, I hope so too! Let’s see what tomorrow brings

@Misty84 they cancelled it after suggesting it????? Weird. It’s funny because I’ve been reading ivf afc amh threads a bit today and it’s surprising how much some people’s amh and afc especially can vary. You’d think they’d want a clearer picture so would redo it. Did speaking to the consultant help?

I’m going to re-start taking ubiquinol soon, but I was only on 200mg.

@M4v3r1ck sorry you had a wobble, I still very much have my head in the sand and am pretending these new and imminent babies don’t exist 🙃

@TTCat39 yeah, you just need that SOMETHING to anchor your hopes onto! It’s so hard to just be floating around aimlessly without any goals or hope of progress.

@Henslovetoscratch thanks!

@ShirleyValentineManc I think some of us have just had the worst experiences but I think not everyone has it so bad, I would just do whatever you can to push them when you get to that stage. I trusted them too much, should have been all over the GP like a bad rash from the word go.

@Misty84 wow that's awful! I'm so sorry they're letting you down like this! I take ubiquinol 400mg a day and the oh is on 200mg a day I'm Running low so just about to search for some more online as the ones I got last time won't arrive for a week

Anyone on Ubiquinol, what’s your daily dosage? It’s not the cheapest supplement eh? 🤯

Thank you @Henslovetoscratch @M4v3r1ck @TTCat39 🙏

@Kitekat81 Apparently they cancelled the AMH because it’s already been done in last 12 months (and yet they were the ones who suggested I got it redone- honestly it’s a real shit show!) What a waste of time taking that morning off work was!

Aside from that they didn’t tell me anything new...still a 6 month wait for the laparoscopy, still surprised my level is so low, still can’t predict how I’ll respond to treatment! So I just can’t do any more with the NHS.

Anyway I’ve had such confusing advice from all sides that just going to press ahead with IVF now, do a cycle and see how I respond!🤞£7k hopefully well spent 🥴

In other news, TWW starts tomorrow! Wouldn’t it be great if after all this it just happened naturally 😂

@Misty84 how was your consultation today? Did you get your updated AMH test result?

@thislittlebird argh so sorry to hear that. Cancelling the appointment with no explanation and no rescheduled date is just not on. I hope you get somewhere with your complaint!

@M4v3r1ck hi cycle buddy! Glad you are getting on with the opk cheapies. Not sure yet when I'm going to ovulate, it's usually day 13-16 for me, haven't had a positive opk yet. Sorry you had a wobble last night, unfortunately I think it is going to get harder for us all as the lockdown is lifted, it's been easy (or at least easier) to avoid seeing friends with babies but with life getting back to more like normal (which of course is very welcome!!) it is going to be harder to avoid. We just have to see these little babies as the future playmates for our little ones when they finally arrive 💕

@TTCat39 I often have dips like this in my luteal phase and you have much more of a rise in the Lp than I ever get too!

@Henslovetoscratch my thermometer is so quiet that he can't even hear it over his side of the bed lol

@Yumcoffee made me lol at your app getting excited this month 😂

@thislittlebird you'll have to let us know if you get anywhere ringing them or complaining! I've got my doc appt on Friday to try and persuade her to do more tests or get me bumped up the 8 month wait list for a referal or both!

@thislittlebird @Misty84 I'm so sorry you've got delays to deal with on top of everything else. I can completely identify with using appointments as your cornerstone - we're in the middle of tests to enable a referral and being busy in that way has made this month much easier to deal with. I am focused on data collection at the moment and it will really help me to have dates to work towards. Thinking of you and hoping your complaints are handled swiftly.

@Yumcoffee awww fab! I think I will wait it out tbh and try do no testing as I just don't feel like it's going to happen this month, Already feel AF lurking as per usual!

Really sorry to hear you have another delay @thislittlebird. I really hope your complaint is heard and you get seen asap. Stay strong x

@Misty84 awful you also experienced such delays.
Covid has had such a huge impact on sooooo many aspects of our lives. I hope everyone gets seen soon and starts to see some success. Got to stay hopeful! Xxx

Hearing that some of you might be testing this week is soo exciting! I thought I'd feel really jealous, but I want us all to be able to leave this group, strange huh? not many groups that you join because you don't actually want to be in it?!

Hey everyone!
@thislittlebird reading about your circumstances aren't giving me much hope about access to treatment! I'm trying to hang on to 'it will happen when it's supposed to' do you think like this too? It's so hard holding onto hope when it feels like time is against us!

@thislittlebird In October they booked me an appointment for January. One week before the appointment they rescheduled for March. So that was 3 months waiting extended to 5. I absolutely know what you mean about it being a cornerstone so it was a massive blow. When the March appointment finally arrived they gave me a junior doctor instead of the consultant I was supposed to be seeing, and he couldn’t answer many of my questions. That was the final straw for me and I emailed complaining. They immediately booked me in 3 weeks later with the consultant (who I spoke to today, finally, 6 months after the initial booking!!) x

@Misty84 did they cancel on you too? It’s good to hear your email worked. I might email PALS tonight. Like you, I’ve lost SO MUCH TIME waiting for them and I’m fed up of it. I’m going to take a leaf from you and email them later, so sick of all this.

6 months lost to them giving out the wrong results, now 3/4 months lost waiting for an appointment that isn’t even happening. Waiting for that appointment has been the cornerstone of the last few months for me.

@thislittlebird Just saw your comment saying they did not reschedule. I emailed PALS complaining and they sorted me out an appointment 3 weeks later. In fact the fastest they’ve ever got anything done is when I complained so it’s worth doing!!

The amount of time wasted waiting has actually been the worst part of this whole process for me.

@thislittlebird It is the most frustrating thing ever when that happens. What reason did they give and have they rescheduled?

@Yumcoffee Thank you. I’m sure that stressing about being stressed only makes it worse! I’ll definitely try and think about it the way that doctor said now :)

@Yumcoffee they did not reschedule

I’m just livid tbh but also very, very tired and done. They’ve cost us so many months of waiting for nothing. I think I’m going to call PALS tomorrow and complain.

@thislittlebird oh no what a let down! Did they reschedule or just straight up cancel?! Rude!

@henslovetoscratch I'm 7dpo too! Weirdly my app which is always cautioning me not to test to early said you can test from 7dpo today!? It's caught the POASitis ! Im waiting till friday how about you?

@misty84 re stress I just read this from a lady on one of the other boards which made me feel a bit better about my major stressy ways - hope it might help you feel a bit better
'My doctor told me early on that stress doesn't affect fertility unless it becomes distress. (He actually went on about the stresses of life in days long gone when we lived without houses amongst dangerous animals.) That advice really helped me not to stress about being stressed. And we all know the "relax and it'll happen" is ridiculous and untrue.'

My attempt at censored swearing went very wrong there lol. You get the drift.

The NHS just cancelled my f*Clint appointment. I’m livid. Got TWO letters cancelling it through today, but I’d been in bed with a migraine and didn’t see them until just now.

I thought they’d tried to call me last week but wasn’t sure if it was them and when I rang back the number didn’t receive incoming calls.

@Henslovetoscratch it’s tough to do it discreetly (as it’s not like you can get up to do it!). When I was temping I’d quickly shove it under the bed covers when it started beeping which definitely helped minimise the sound!

@Henslovetoscratch My thermometer beeps like a vehicle reversing! Good job my husband is a heavy sleeper. If you do get one, make sure it's a proper bbt one, with two decimal places. The temp variance is so slight that you'll gain no insight from a normal thermometer. You have to take it at exactly the same time every day, after at least 3 hours of sleep, don't move when you wake up.... there are a lot of parameters!

@TTCat39 ohhhhhh that's interesting, thanks for sharing!!! I might start doing that if I feel the urge...but I am trying to not share all my mad googling with partner just to keep it low pressure with him. So how can I take my temp without him noticing... 😂 Wonder if you get thermometers that don't beep!

@Henslovetoscratch I would LOVE a belly window. But would totally reinforce the old saying 'navel gazing' - I still wouldn't get any work done!

I've been temping to try and see if I feel a bit more in control / in the know.....that remains to be seen! I've posted a screenshot below and (I can't believe I'm actually explaining this to someone else because I have NO idea what I'm doing, but then that seems to be typical of my adult life!) I was hoping that my temp didn't dip below my cover line (ovulation temperature) as it should stay elevated in the luteal phase. Dip is too early for implantation, might be a sign of increasing estrogen, might have been a bit cold in bed who knows!

@TTCat39 😂🤣 Scratchy Helen noooooo not even my name!! Apart from being VERY ITCHY (joking..) I am fine other than not able to concentrate on work and just being the Uber Googler. I haven't taken any temps as I am just not patient nor have a good memory but did use OPK the last two cycles. I sometimes wish we had a wee see-through panel/inspection hatch that you should see an actual egg being ovulated or something!! Does a high temp mean potentially good sign?

Hello again scratchy Helen  [grin]@Henslovetoscratch
I'm 5/6dpo today, so right there with you in the TWW. Going for my progesterone test tomorrow as it's my best guess at 1 week prior to AF. How are you getting on? My nose-diving temperature went back up again today, so not sure what's going on, but as usual we wait patiently and see.....hahahaaha! Oh dear....