TTC 35+ Thread 8

@02Carol I'm nearly in the tww already! Time has flown by git a flasher yesterday and peak today - great ov warning 😂

@Twelvestar
❤️ Your message to Misty84, such good advice.

I'm in the TWW, 8 days until expected AF, I'm not going to do any early testing, just wait and see if she comes to town or not.

@Farfaraway1 yes fertile window is the way I always use it but some say fertile week 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Marvellouslymadmum thank you! Pardon my ignorance.. what does FW stand for? Fertile week?

Pulling up my chair 🪑 ❤️

I had such a busy day and week. I barely managed to go through the thread. It’s probably day 2 and it’s already 6 pages!!! Are we the best thread on mumsnet or what? 😂

Btw, anyone in the tww with me? I’m 6dpo.

@thislittlebird good thing you don’t have sleep issues like I do. How do I get by? I don’t know how I’ve ever gotten by all those years. I just get by I guess. I’ll have a few months of very bad sleep (with intermittent good nights) then I’ll have a relatively good month then back to a few bad months then a few good weeks and so on and so forth 😅

[quote Twelvestars]*@Misty84 I just randomly came across the account of a British woman living in Canada with her husband. She was saying she had amh 1.6 but was on the government’s waiting list for IVF! So I wouldn’t rely on the NHS in telling me if I am eligible or not.[/quote]
@Misty84 I meant to say the instagram account. Definitely seek a second opinion and if finances allow for it, go private ASAP. Make sure you research all reputable clinics. Some of the ladies here have recommended good options.

For now, cry all you want. Let it all out. You need it. But soon, get up, dust yourself off and keep trying. One or two or three more times. Or however long it takes. Until you just can’t anymore. If it works, then great. If it doesn’t, at least you’ll know you’ve given it your ultimate best.

Sending you lots of love and hugs

@Misty84 I just randomly came across the account of a British woman living in Canada with her husband. She was saying she had amh 1.6 but was on the government’s waiting list for IVF! So I wouldn’t rely on the NHS in telling me if I am eligible or not.

@Misty84 Create offer mild ivf which has some stimulation drugs but not as many as normal ivf; natural ivf which has no drugs at all; and natural-modified ivf which from what I can see is somewhere in between. Remember you are also still relatively young, so even if you only manage to retrieve a few eggs through ivf, they are still comparatively young eggs (three years younger than mine!) so they should be better quality.

Thank you @Kitekat81. That was from the consultant at the fertility clinic, not my GP. It has knocked me for six. Not something I ever expected as I didn’t know the NHS had a cut off with AMH.
I’ve been looking into Create this evening and will watch the webinar tomorrow (when I’m hopefully less of an emotional wreck!)
Is that the “mild” ivf they talk about?

@Misty84 oh no I'm so sorry to hear that!!! 😢😢😢 You know I am right there with you in the low amh club, mine's lower than yours and my afc is lower as well 😔 Was that your GP who told you that or the fertility specialist? I would have thought it's unusual for a GP to make a decision like that, all they are supposed to do is refer you to the fertility clinic. NHS ivf is not an option for me because of age / length of waiting list so I've booked consultations next month with two private fertility clinics, one of which as @thislittlebird said is Create. They specialise in treating people with low ovarian reserve and don't have a minimum AMH level for treatment. They focus on the quality of the eggs they can collect from you, rather than focusing on getting the largest quantity (which is what normal ivf clinics focus on). You can sign up for a free webinar with them to find out more. I would recommend you do that as you will see that there is still hope, you are still ovulating and there are still eggs in there, all is not over yet!xxx

Yeah it’s nice @Marvellouslymadmum. I can’t tell you how long it’s been where I’m not itchy at least somewhere every day or night. Right now it’s a relief to have a break.

I got to week 5 before Christmas @M4v3r1ck, would be nice to finish it! Join me aboard the 🏃‍♀️ 🚂

@thislittlebird it must be such a relief for you, steroids usually give you the boost you need to continue to heal in your own so 🤞🏻

@Gtcttww86 welcome to the group, it's so hard when you've no idea why things aren't working, what have the docs said is the next step for you?

@Misty84 I'm really sorry, hope you can get a second opinion and they have some better news for you

@VixFromThe6ix welcome to the group and sorry for your losses, I've not heard anyone say they've been tested for prolactin before 🤔 it's a new one on me!

@M4v3r1ck im actually feeling a little positive this month - which is probably silly after so long 🙄 but I'm hoping with my iron levels returning to normal and all the added vitamins etc that something may work - ever the optimist 😂

@Geriatric1234 It's a hormone that has something to do with your body making breast milk ... Somehow they linked that some women who miscarried had higher levels of prolactin. It also somehow affects production of estrogen and progesterone hormones.
It's not so high that they are worried, they are just trying to rule everything out since my tests all came back good.
So they out you on medicine that I'll start the first day of my period and continue till I get a confirmed positive test.
This one is confusing, I don't fully understand it myself... But honestly I'll do just about anything at this point 🤣🤣

It's a hormone that has something to do with your body making breast milk ... Somehow they linked that some women who miscarried had higher levels of prolactin. It also somehow affects production of estrogen and progesterone hormones.
It's not so high that they are worried, they are just trying to rule everything out since my tests all came back good.
So they out you on medicine that I'll start the first day of my period and continue till I get a confirmed positive test.
This one is confusing, I don't fully understand it myself... But honestly I'll do just about anything at this point 🤣🤣

@VixFromThe6ix that a very decent amount of follicles - don’t be down!! What is prolactin? I’m relatively mew to all this too but I haven’t even heard that one!!

@Misty84 I think you’ve had an unfortunate series of knocks and, combined with lockdown, they’ve really knocked your confidence and stress. I think you are going to be fine, honestly xxx

Me neither @Misty84! I was only aware of pre and post ovulation as “phases”, didn’t know there was so many until I entered this rabbit hole.

Hi 🙋‍♀️ @VixFromThe6ix, welcome!

Yeah, honestly, a minefield. My friends with kids don’t even know what I’m yapping about half the time, follicles and AMH blah blah blah because they just got pregnant in a few months and that was that.

I really think if we understood all this better at least we could be more informed and plan. Choose to freeze some eggs in our twenties or whatever after some tests, that kind of thing. I dunno, it just seems odd that at it’s not something we’re taught.

Every follicle counts, ladies!

Thank you @Geriatric1234, it’s always good to hear a positive story!
@thislittlebird it’s so true, I didn’t even know there were phases to my monthly cycle before all this, let alone the wealth of knowledge I have now!!

I found out one of my ovaries only has two follacles and one has 9. I've been down about it when I found out last week. Considering I have no babies yet, I'm praying these will result in at least one. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

Hi everyone 👋
Glad to have found this thread!!
I'm 37, my partner of 3.5 yrs is 32 and we are trying for our first baby!
We had two miscarriages. Both were empty sacs.
We had our appointment with fertility clinic who took multitude of blood and ultrasound tests. All is well except my prolactin is a tad hightened.
If I am negative for this month I will start the meds and hope for April's BFP :)
Hope everyone is staying positive 💪

This whole process has just made me so aware of how little we learn around important information on own bodies until we have to be, suddenly. No one even mentions all this stuff until you’re in this boat.