TTC 35+ Thread 8

[quote JessWi]@Feanorous I have no idea what I’m talking about but that sounds very early to be testing?? X[/quote]
It is...when I was pregnant last time I got a BFP at 9/10dpo so I just thought I'd give it a go :)

@Feanorous I have no idea what I’m talking about but that sounds very early to be testing?? X

[quote Twelvestars]@Feanorous which test did you use?[/quote]
FRER and an easy@home strip. Not even a hint of a line...

@Feanorous which test did you use?

9dpo and a BFN! 😢

I know it's still early, just feeling like it's not the month!

Thanks @wj82 I've ordered the book. I started out TTC on Pregnacare, but it always seemed to be sold out in my local pharmacy and supermarkets, so I switched to seven seas pre-conception last month. My husband is on Wellman conception. I also took a high dose of vit C for a couple of months, as I was concerned about my short cycles (22-26 days) and read it might help. I've since got some experience with OPKs and realised I ovulate quite early in my cycle and get about a 12/13/14 day luteal phase, which would otherwise be ample. So I stopped taking the extra vit C.

@TTCat39

And if you are not on any prenatal vitamins yet, start now. Your partner needs that too.

I started with pregnacare because it seems to be the most popular but switched to the ovum after reading more and more. Find one that suits you and start asap.

@TTCat39

I did a fertility mot and the doctor who was reluctant to recommend any supplement recommended coq10- i read up on it and it seems promising.

Do read the book - the author had diminishing ovarian reserve but she did a bunch of changes + supplement. Per the book she broke the record of the number of eggs retrieved and all of them made it to blastocyst (ready for transfer).

It's not the dead end. You only need one egg and it seems like egg quality can be improved. It doesn't age like we do...eggs go through major transformation within 3-4 months prior to ovulation so you can still fix it (or at least the book says so ). She's a scientist and did back it up with research.

@lemonade83 thank you, I'm going to have to start getting some done privately I think and then see where we are after that!

@Katiekattty I got my ubiquinol from Amazon

@TTCat39 Oh and as someone else said it doesn’t mean it’s impossible, as long as you’re ovulating and releasing that one egg (it only takes one!) then it can still happen naturally. But we’ve been trying for 21 months and need some proper help now rather than months and months waiting between tests and appointments on the NHS.

@Katiekattty I get my Ubiquinol from Woods Health supplements, they have a 3 for 2 offer at the moment.

@TTCat39 I’m so sorry to hear it, I found out about my low AMH a week ago and have felt panicked and sick ever since, despite my best efforts to stay hopeful. There’s been A LOT of breaking down weeping.
The NHS won’t treat me so we are going private ASAP. I’ve done nothing but research since last week and we are organising a consultation with the Lister in Chelsea. It’s all eye-wateringly expensive of course but we have to try.
Yes you can improve egg quality so I would make that a priority.

Those who take ubiquinol where are you buying it from?

@Noodella18 Thank you. I feel like I'm grieving without actually knowing the full story. I just can't help it.
@Kitekat81 We have only been trying for 6 months, so we're new to this really. But our ages made me seek help from the GP as soon as I could. We will keep trying, but I have to admit I don't think I'll be able to separate these feelings when it comes to dtd and I'm likely to become a weepy weirdo at precisely the wrong time.
I would absolutely love to be pregnant with twins. Love to you and @Misty84, as the newest reluctant member of your crew. xx

@marvellouslymadman

Sorry to hear about that long wait. Id go for it if you can...it would be hard to wait until Nov? Happy belated birthday btw!

@noodella18 @kittykattty

Thats a shame you are both out also. :-(
Fx for someone to get a bfp this month.

I am in cycle 5 this time so getting close to point of going to doctor (will wait another 2 cycles) and dreading the tests...im a head in sand type of gal! I think amc is a bit unreliable?

Well I’ve started spotting today so I know I’m out for this month. I’m going to make a proper effort to start losing weight and get back into my exercise routine.

@thislittlebird that's what I'm not sure of, I guess I'll have to start looking into all that now and see what I can do next. I just know that if I go to a fertility clinic they're going to want all the tests to be paid for first then probably send me straight toward ivf because of my age!

@Noodella18 that’s a lot of running, impressive stuff!

@TTCat39 sorry to hear that you may be joining @Misty84 and me in the low ovarian reserve club 😔 I would say don't panic yet - it doesn't necessarily mean you won't conceive naturally. We had a lady in this group with fsh 15-17 and amh 0.9 who conceived twins after trying for 8 months. As long as you are still ovulating, there's always a chance that you can get pregnant naturally. I would say based on my own experience that it probably is making things harder though (we've been trying unsuccessfully for 12-15 months-ish). I can't remember how long you said you had been trying? You still need to get your progesterone done which will give you more info. I got my afc done when I had my referral to the fertility clinic, but had to get my amh done privately as the nhs don't offer it where I am. That seems to differ by location though. Has your partner had his SA yet? I would say don't panic, stay calm and keep trying naturally, but keep the ball rolling on getting all your tests done so you can build up a full picture of where you stand, then you'll be in a good position to start thinking about next steps x

Yeah clomid privately is expensive because of the monitoring @Marvellouslymadmum, it’s annoying.

Will anywhere let you get the AMH and AFC minus the consultation? It seems unnecessary if you’re saying “I just need these to take with me elsewhere” kinda thing. But I did find the lack of chat about clomid frustrating when I spoke to the private consultant. It was all very “don’t leave it too long, you’re nearly 38”, yeah yeah I know that, no need to remind me 🙄

@ttcat39 I'm afraid I can't offer any advice but just wanted to send a virtual hug xx

I think so yeah @TTCat39 but I had mine privately because didn’t want to wait for the nhs to do those. It might give you a more accurate idea if you can get those.

@Marvellouslymadmum I'm sorry about the delay, that's such a pisstake.

@lemonade83 I'm out today too! Roll on next month, hopefully ovulation won't be so late this time, 32 day cycle sucks!!

Thanks everyone! I should reiterate, it was bloody hard and I really didn't enjoy it, so I'm well chuffed I completed it! @twelvestars I thought I would do 3km most days and a few long runs but obviously it didn't work out like that and I had to cram in a lot of running the last week. I ended up running to places I would normally walk, like to the shop or nursery, just to rack up some extra metres!