TTC 35+ Thread 8

Wow that’s really good that is helped so much @MgW1. I’ve only been on them a couple of weeks, I can’t tell what to make of it yet.

I was ovulating late too, other than the acupuncture month, will be interesting to see how it all pans out when my body gets back to normal.

@thislittlebird
I have been prescribed sertraline 50mg , felt shocking week 1, less shocking week 2 and then gradually felt better. Been on them 6 weeks. Felt a lot better and sleeping 8-9 hrs per night which is not like me!! Anxiety completely gone , i regret not taking them sooner and suffering for months. Im hoping it helps my chances of conceiving because with the stress i was ovulating way too late. Im hoping to O around day 16 /17 which is right for my 31 day cycle. X

Thanks @Kitekat81, yeah I’m a bit better!

@Noodella18 yes, the skin is much improved. Still healing, but it’s much better than it was a month ago. With the anxiety drug, I find it hard to gauge, if that makes sense? Yesterday was my worst day in a while and I didn’t lose it or anything, but I don’t know if that was the drug helping. Hopefully it will help when I get back to ttc.

@Geriatric1234 thanks, it sucks lol. I never really wanted ivf but I guess we are running out of options with the odds against us. At this stage I just want to get on with it really. Felt a bit better today though, yesterday was the worst. are you feeling any better now than you were this morning?

I know exactly what you mean about it being step one. I just can’t think beyond getting the bfp one day, it’s too big to wrap my head around. But I know exactly what you mean. Oh, the LIMBO. The goddamn limbo. It’s tedious.

@MgW1 I haven’t felt like my meds have made a vast difference but it is a low dose. How do you feel different on them? I’m curious because I can’t tell if it’s doing much (is only early days).

I didn’t want to waste any months either and kind of lost it that I had to lose this month. But it looks like I never ovulated anyway so....yeah. Not much I can do.

Pretty sure we should be eligible for one round, yeah. I’m 37 still and we have no kids at all between us.

@TTCat39 🙌 indeed! Nothing more powerful than the determination of a strong woman 💪 whatever the outcome - we will all be ok 👌

@Bombshell85 I started on CD6 because last month and it was my first time using OPKs and I don't feel like I did it properly - am now taking them around the same time each day and just making sure i haven't guzzled loads of water. Seems to be vaguely working as I've seen steady results for three days and now on CD9 a bit of an increase, whereas last month it was all over the place (and then I didn't get a proper peak and even then not til CD20!)

@thislittlebird I've been meaning to ask, how is your skin and how is your anxiety? Have either of the meds made a difference?

@Geriatric1234
@Kitekat81
@Loladoodle

Thank you - I have just read through your conversation this morning. I really needed to hear your experiences and your wisdom, to know that my feelings aren't unjust. This whole process is so emotional and often it's painful to look ahead, but also painful to be in the moment. We are stuck, worn down, but determined.

@Geriatric1234 tbh it’s usually your realistic posts and guidance that makes me feel better! We all have down days it’s good that we can lift eachother up again 💪 I guess we need to see this as a big adventure that we won’t know the outcome of until December! And if it hasn’t happened then we will get excited about the next adventure and all the spare £££ we will have to enjoy life! We only get one shot at life and I’ve realised that even more recently due to some life events. It’s too short to keep things on hold indefinitely! Life’s for living 💃 so let’s do that 🙌

@Bombshell85 I think it depends on your cycle length, mine is is 28 days so I start on CD7 until I start getting highs then 2-3 times a day through the peak until I get lows then I stop.
I buy cheapies 30 for under a fiver on eBay which allows me to test so much.

How early do you start using the ovulation sticks? Im a week after AF stopped so am i CD7 or do i start from the 1st day of AF?, sorry it gets confusing 🤦‍♀️

@Kitekat81 You’ve just made me well up (which is not something I’m prone to!)! Thank you, I just really needed to hear that from someone who gets it. You’re completely right, the stats are more on our side than against ❤️ And yes, I think you’ve hit the nail on the head with that feeling of limbo - it’s like I’m not sure how to define myself right now.

@Loladoodle Totally agree - we’ve put December as end date too. It’s too disruptive being on this treadmill forever!

You two are so WISE!!! Thank you! 😘😘

@Kitekat81 wow what a fab explanation. I really agree that whatever will be will be and is all for the right reasons. Life will go on. I’m feeling better now we have an end date of December as this continuous limbo isn’t good for me- I need to live my life to the full and having a timescale is important so that I know this isn’t going to go on and on and on with the cycle of af-fw-dtd-2ww-af, I’m prepared to do this for a time limited period now as I’ve already done this for a year and by December I feel I need to start making plans for my life that can’t be made right now due to ttc/not knowing if we will be having a baby.

@thislittlebird sorry you were having a bad day yesterday. Hope you feel a little bit better today xx

@Geriatric1234 sorry you are having a bad day today! This whole journey is so up and down isn't it. Re the miscarriage risk, my understanding is that it is indeed a little but higher for 'geriatrics' like us, but still it is a LOW risk, and statistically it is much more likely that our pregnancies will be successful than that they won't be! And I think that every pregnant woman holds their breath for 9 months regardless of age, it's just the nature of pregnancy that you will never completely relax until the baby is out and in your arms. With regards to the feeling of limbo, I think we can all identify with that. It's like we are standing at the fork in the road, with two completely different paths ahead of us, one with children and one without, and the path we take will determine the rest of our lives. Both of those paths will lead to fabulous, fun and joy-filled lives, but we can't get on and enjoy either of those paths yet because we are suspended in motion until we know if we'll be able to get pregnant or not! The good thing is that you recognise that there are two paths and they will both be great. If you don't manage to get pregnant, it will NOT be because you have failed!!! It will be because fate has decided that you should take that other fabulous path xxx

@thislittlebird
Gynae dept and yes unexplained. We are still trying though whilst waiting , cant bear to even waste 1 month. The stress of it all took its toll a few months ago .. im on anti depressants myself and they are helping massively. Yes id be like you and research into ivf , i think there is a lot of choice. Are you eligible for first free treatment on NHS? X

How are you feeling this morning @thislittlebird? My heart honestly breaks for you guys and all the knocks you keep getting.

Feeling a bit “bleurgh” myself this morning. I’m generally pretty positive but I’ve never wanted children and now I’m scared I’m doing this because I think I should and it’s just so stressful staying positive about all the risks. The BFP is just step one, then I wonder if I will basically be holding my breath for 9 months.... I think the problem with us all talking this through (which I love) is being far too hyper-aware of the possible negative outcomes.

I’ll perk up I’m sure. But I’m sort of annoyed I’ve even started trying because now I know I’m in pretty good shape fertility wise, no health issues, normal weight... I wonder if I’d have been happier just not trying, whereas now if I don’t end up pg I’m a failure. It’s weird. I don’t doubt my life will be great without without children (have brilliant step kids and niece/nephew), same for my DH, but it’s a funny no-man’s-land not knowing what’s going to happen.

I read statistics on live births vs pregnancy rates in women 42-44. I shouldn’t have (I’m 42). Can’t even drink wine because 2WW 😫😫😫🤣

Sorry. What a shite post to write first thing. Might delete later. Xx

@MgW1 what dept is your appointment with? Are you guys “unexplained” right now? Mine seems to be at the hospital, it says I need to go to Dr whoever’s gynaecology clinic.

He’s on impryl, private fertility doctor recommended it at a clinic once before.

I guess I can use the time between now and the appointment to investigate best ivf options and clinics for us.

@thislittlebird
I have my apt on 7th may as well , its just an info gather telephone apt , I think it will take a few months to get to bottom of our prob. What supplement is he on? Sounds like your doing apl you can x

I’m not sure @MgW1. Nhs referral appointment is May 17. I don’t know if they’ll say it’s not worth us trying with clomid or something (for my progesterone issue) which is what I assumed they were going to say before today. Now with his second results being as bad roughly I wonder if they’ll say ivf is the better option? If it is that’s fine and we can get to it ASAP. But I feel in limbo waiting for the nhs appointment because I don’t know what they’ll say. I guess we’ll “try” again next month since I’ll be finished my drugs but I don’t have much hope of success.

@thislittlebird
What are your thoughts moving forward ? Have you been referred to fertility clinic? X

Thanks @Katiekattty, I haven’t had a drink but it’s very tempting lol

Sending you lots of hugs and positive energy @thislittlebird if there was ever time for a drink and some chocolate

Thanks @Geriatric1234

I could cry my eyes out tonight. All this just feels so crap and I had and really bad day at the home office. Never met my deadline, will have to get up early and do it, I’ve lost the will right now.

@Pamparam Just found it by scrolling through another thread and you beat me to it! 🤣 xx

Here’s the one she linked:

Superior Quality Shilajit by Mountain Blood® (30g) UK-Tested, 3 Months Supply. Organic Non-GMO, Vegan, Ethically Sourced, Independently Lab-Tested in The UK, Packed in UV-Glass www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B072YY51PW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_578VY4GQCX5VRG5Y7S6T?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

Thanks, I’ll have a look @Pamparam

Right now he’s annoyed that his results were better pre-supplement, but he has six more weeks to go on it. There’s so many options out there, it’s confusing.

Shilajit - proper medical study that showed it increases most spent stats. Maybe worth a try? pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20078516/