TTC 35+ Thread 8

@Geriatric1234 glad you’re feeling a bit better! I am hoping we will get one round of nhs ivf. But it’s only one round where we live. Still, I will take one over none.

[quote MgW1]@thislittlebird
Iv peaked on cd13 which is earlier than before. Before i started on a.d's and stress and anxiety levels were through the roof I was having a peak on cd20 for 2 months. See if it makes a difference to your cycle?
I read that exercise 3 times a week can boost sperm count up to 30% so I gave my husband a kick up the arse and hes glad I did because hes feel fitter, happier and his clothes fit him better. Will you OH do some exercise ? X[/quote]
I don’t think I’ve been on the ADs two weeks yet so I need to see how they go. I’ve just had my second acupuncture session after a break and I’m hoping that will help too. The other month I had it I ovulated on day 15 (rather than more like 18) and had a normal period. I’m not that hopeful this month since my body didn’t seem to ovulate but hopefully next month. I’ll start the b6 etc again soon.

He used to exercise much more in the past but he has had plantar fasciitis for the last few years and isn’t super keen. I need to encourage him somehow because he does need to lose some fat round the middle. Not a lot, but a little bit.

@Bombshell85
Couldnt agree more about health. There is scope there to cut down but only when you are ready. Have you spoken to your doc? X

@Misty84 so heartbreaking reading what you've gone through ♥️so sorry 😞

@Misty84 I'm so very sorry for your loss. You have been through, and continue to go through a lot - remember to be kind to yourself. Take care xx

@Misty84 I am so so so sorry. ❤️

@StarL2021 forgot to say I've been trying over 2 years now, but last year I think I was permanently stressed, like I had high anxiety but functioning if you know what I mean, put so much pressure on myself xx

@Geriatric1234 yes! I want to do camping and drinking on summer evenings, and see more of the world! And I also hate mess and clutter 😂

But I also want to show our beautiful world to a child and see their eyes light up ☹️

@StarL2021 I think the spotting is caused by both the erosion and just general pre-period spotting.

I think the hormones in the latter part of the cycle affect the cervix. Towards the end of the cycle the womb lining is thicker, so those cells on the cervix are most likely thicker too? Hormones do affect everything down there throughout the month really, from discharge to cervical position etc, so it makes sense.

What how much B6 were you taking? Did you take with B complex too? Xx

@selina37 Ohh I am the same. Is your spotting caused by the erosion? I wonder why it only happens in the luteal phase. It's so confusing.
I tried b6 and it did not really do anything to be honest. I'm still taking it.
How long have you been TTC?

@TTcat39
Thank you for that, it gets so confusing! Im having period pains right now and was only on 9 days ago i think i have 1 week in my cycle pain free its annoying.

@StarL2021 I am the same re spotting. @Loladoodle recently recommended taking 50mg of vitamin B6 (together with B complex) and honestly it's worked a treat.

I also have erosion/ectropian, which I think is caused by years taking the pill. I bleed after sex in the latter part of luteal phase, as well as (embarrassingly) when I strain fir a number 2.

Try the B6! 🙂

@Bombshell85 The month starts on your first day of AF, which is the first day of full red bleeding (not spotting etc). Is that what you were asking?

@Misty84 I think he will be more disappointed than he’s letting on. And I can see he wants it more than what he was saying to start with- but he says he is happy with us as we are and a baby would be a bonus. I have tried to prepare him for December when we stop ttc if it hasn’t happened as best I can but I’ve also advised him that he won’t know how that feels fully until the time comes. I have no control over whether he will be ok with it or not- but I’m not going to worry about things that haven’t or may not happen. We will cross that bridge as we come to it. He’s very calm and resilient in nature, whilst I do know he will be disappointed and probably quite gutted- it’s out of our control and I feel 99.9% sure we will get through it if that happens and start focusing on our plan B (live life to the full, new house, lots of travels, dogs, much more finances/comfortable style of living). I will accept whatever card I am dealt.

Yes im going to have to come off most my meds im really worried about it tbh :( but the babies health is far more precious 💖

Im so sorry about your sister, unexpected death of close ones is so traumatic i wish you and yours love and healing ❤

Im reading a book at the moment called The Two Week Wait and its just a convo between 5 women on a forum like this going thro similar stuff, i really recommend it i read it in 2 sittings 🤣

Ill check out that pod cast!!

Still no one can tell me if i start calendar month at beginning of AF or just after AF?

Good luck to those testing soon ❤❤

Thank you @Geriatric1234, I wish I could cut myself some slack like you said! It’s difficult isn’t it, the pressure is full on.

@TTCat39 Yes I tried a whopping 7 different counsellors but none of them helped unfortunately. Only time made a difference in the end, but I still continue to struggle with it on a daily basis. And when I get upset over anything else it always turns into my grief for her again.
I’m so sorry that you’ve had such tough times too, and it seems very unfair that everything has made you have to wait so long to try. It must be so frustrating and upsetting. 💐

@Loladoodle Thank you so much. I can understand why you’re refusing to go there again after 3 years TTC your ds. Do you think your OH is ok with accepting potentially not being a father?

@thislittlebird re the meds, I think the changes I felt were gradual but significant, and I only really noticed how much better I was feeling when I compared it with how I had been. I've described it as feeling like me but without the layer of craziness. It didn't make me feel euphoric or happy all the time, it just meant that I didn't feel gnawing anxiety all the time and more able to cope with everyday ups and downs without getting totally consumed by them.

@Geriatric1234 it's 10 days ish. But my day21 bloods came back fine. It's so frustrating. I think it's hormonal changes or something. I do have a cervical erosion too x

@Geriatric1234 no not me, though I'm hoping the docs will suggest it if I ever get to have an appointment! My Lp is varying from 9-17 days and possible pcos.

Hugs and kisses to everyone finding things difficult at the moment. I think the time of year with all the baby animals isn't even helping at the moment!! 🤦🏼‍♀️

*don’t lose hope (that was supposed to say)

@Misty84 ah I’m so sorry to hear all that has happened, things have been far from easy for you. I’m similar in some ways, OH is 31 and has no children of his own although when we first dated I told him I wasn’t planning any more children which he accepted and said he wanted to be with me regardless. Despite this, and now things have moved on to me ttc and wanting a child together - I feel guilt for him if it doesn’t happen as I can see how much he wants it. But I also know we will move forward if it doesn’t happen and will be happy. Don’t lose though- if you are prepared to do anything to have a baby you will get there. I’m taking a very different route as I don’t want tests or anything to obsess or worry about- we both take all the vitamins we would need regardless and we are generally fit and healthy- for me if it’s meant for us it will happen. Praying 🙏 for you that it doesn’t take much longer as I can tell it’s really taking it’s toll and I know how that feels as it took 3 years to conceive my ds and I really was not in a good place throughout that journey (hence I refuse to go there again)x

@StarL2021 How long is your LP? I think spotting can be a symptom of low progesterone so probably worth getting that checked, as low LP can prevent implantation and cause MC. But my understanding is that it’s also relatively easy to sort.

Was it you @Marvellouslymadmum who was using clomid? Apologies if I’ve remembered that incorrectly!

@Misty84 I'm so sorry for your loss. What a truly awful situation to lose someone so close to you, I can't even begin to comprehend how you cope with that. Do you mind me asking, did you and your family take any counselling to help to cope with your loss? It is something I have never done myself, so I don't have any experience of it, other than friends saying it helped. Sending you and your family lots of love. xxx We have also lost family members recently, and I now go through cycles of thinking that this is it, we'll feel devastated and down trodden for the rest of our lives. There's no joy, just pain. Frightened of being optimistic because it leads to disappointment.

You have inspired me to share my story. I hope you don't mind. My husband and I have been together for nearly 18 years, and for the last ten years we have talked about starting a family. I have been off the pill for ten years, lost 10kg and have kept it off, we both got fitter, ate better, all in preparation for TTC. But things just kept going wrong for us and we didn't feel able to start that journey. Times have been tough, really tough, with financial issues, health, loss of family members and some friends too. It has brought me and my husband closer than ever and when we lost someone really close to us last year, we talked and knew that what we couldn't leave it any longer, we desperately want to have children and despite not feeling like we are where we wanted to be when we enter into this, we just have to go for it. And now...it seems like we might have left it too long. Life has conspired to rob us of what we have been working towards for so long.

@Geriatric1234 Cups of tea all round. You are very welcome

@Geriatric1234 I had the spotting about 4 days before my period when ttc 1. This time round it's worse and I spot pretty much the whole luteal phase on and off x

Hello @StarL2021! Has that spotting always happened for you? Or is it since #1?