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TTC first baby (dc1) after MC

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justwant2beamum · 20/03/2021 16:10

Hello, I know there are similar threads for TTC after miscarriage/loss, but I thought it would be good to have a thread for those trying for their first baby. Personally, I know a few friends who've sadly had MC but they were all pregnancy number 2 having already had a healthy baby on first pregnancy. All 3 are now pregnant again which gives me hope but I can't help but be stressed/worry if I will ever have a healthy pregnancy and be able to carry a baby to full term. So I feel like I'm in a slightly different position to those TTC after loss who already have babies. I hope that isn't insensitive. Hopefully there are others TTC their first and we can support eachother.

My story is 27yo, came off pill sept 2020. Pregnant January 2021, had a scan at 7 weeks, dated 7+1 and saw a HB. Had a scan at 9+4 and baby hadn't grown and no HB so MMC. Had surgical management so ERPC on 5th March. I have just finished bleeding earlier this week snd trying straight away before first period. 🤞🏻

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justwant2beamum · 24/03/2021 17:55

Aw @TTC94 sorry to hear that :(

I've no clue when to expect AF - I only stopped bleeding last wed. If I get AF my usual 28 days after ERPC then it's due 3rd April. But as yet opks are blank so don't know if I've ovulated/if I even will or when AF is due. Depressing. I really wanted to at least get some positive opks so I'd have a last shot at a 2021 baby

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TTC94 · 23/03/2021 08:56

@justwant2beamum Af arrived overnight...

Depressing but not surprising!

Are you still waiting for yours? X

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justwant2beamum · 23/03/2021 08:38

@TTC94 did you test or did you get AF? X

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justwant2beamum · 21/03/2021 17:27

Thank you @Chanel05 looks like I'm hopefully heading in a similar direction - think I'll do another IC midweek and hopefully will be fully negative then will maybe do some opks so I know if I ovulate. Good luck to all those in TWW - keep us updated if you're testing hopefully we'll get some positive stories of hope of our own in this thread. 🤞🏻 baby dust to all ✨

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Chanel05 · 21/03/2021 15:25

@justwant2beamum CD1 is the day of your erpc Thanks.

When I had my erpc I eventually got a negative test on cd21 and ovulated on cd31. I caused myself so much stress that month so please be kind to yourself.

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justwant2beamum · 21/03/2021 13:54

I'm CD17 if you count ERPC day as CD1 - no idea when I'll ovulate or be due AF this month as I've not had a period yet post MC (except the MC bleeding). Nearly at a negative today though this was my test with FMU so I think HCG nearly out my system so hopefully I might ovulate?

TTC first baby (dc1) after MC
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TTC94 · 21/03/2021 12:29

I’m also in the two week wait, but my period is due today or tomorrow!

I’m not feeling positive though! Quite the opposite.

It will be my first period since my miscarriage though so I guess having one will be a sign of reassurance that my body is back to normal.

I have no symptoms of pregnancy and do feel like twinges of my period are coming...

Hope you all find your two week waits go fast and fingers crossed for you all!

@ploopypleepy @Notabs xx

Notabs · 21/03/2021 10:39

I’m currently in the 2ww @ploopypleepy 🙏 xx

ploopypleepy · 21/03/2021 10:23

What cycle day is everyone on? According to Flo i ovulate tomorrow, is anyone going to be with me through the 2WW? X

Notabs · 21/03/2021 10:15

Yep I am the same! I am convinced that it’s going to be me going through this a million times 😭 however the research shows that even people who have been through mc, for example, 10 times it’s still extremely rare for them to never have a baby so I’m clinging on to that hope that it will happen one day! 🌈 Are you going to track your ovulation or just dtd now you’ve stopped bleeding?

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justwant2beamum · 21/03/2021 10:06

Welcome @Notabs so sorry for your loss. Yep exactly how I feel. I know MC must be awful for everyone in their individual ways but definitely the not knowing if you can have/carry a successful pregnancy is the most torture for me. I'm driving myself mad. Then a lot of threads are people with recurrent mcs and that just sends me into a meltdown wondering if that will be me. 😩

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Notabs · 21/03/2021 09:39

Hi ladies can I join? 🤗
Im 25yo, I had a mmc (8+5) detected on New Year’s Eve 😞 Had MVA on 21st January. This would have been DC1 for me too. I know exactly how you feel about worrying if I’ll ever have a healthy baby. Before conceiving my periods were every 8 weeks or so for about a year so I already didn’t think it was possible as I had no idea what my body was doing. I was doing blood tests for the GP when I found out I was 3 weeks pg. Now I’m wondering when/if it will ever happen😞 it’s so hard when it’s DC1 to feel any hope at all.
And I agree with PP everyoneeeee seems to be pregnant right now which makes it even harder. Xx

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justwant2beamum · 20/03/2021 23:32

Hey @TTC94 aww I know exactly how you feel, celebs, influencers, friends, family. It's pregnancy announcements or babies or pregnancy posts atm. I deleted my facebook and Instagram and haven't looked back x

Welcome @ploopypleepy

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ploopypleepy · 20/03/2021 19:48

Hey guys! Sorry to hear about your losses, such an awful thing to have to go through. I'd love to join, I had a partially molar pregnancy and was given the all clear in February. This is my 2nd cycle TTC x

TTC94 · 20/03/2021 18:57

My miscarriage was February 21* @justwant2beamum so I was trying for about 11 months before I got a positive pregnancy test x

TTC94 · 20/03/2021 18:56

Hi @justwant2beamum I’m sorry for your loss! Sending my love to you.
I’ve been off the pill since March 20 and really actively trying since about July 20 (tracking ovulation avidly etc).
Unfortunately, I had a miscarriage in February - I was only about 5 weeks.
I haven’t had my first period since my miscarriage yet. And I’m still very emotional and sad.
I’m 27 too and my husband is 29, every time I log onto social media or walk into work, someone else is pregnant - it’s breaking my heart.
I hope we both get some good news soon.
Try to be strong and positive, but I know it’s so difficult xx

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justwant2beamum · 20/03/2021 18:36

Hey @Mellous sounds like very similar stories I am just a bit behind you. We also had an early scan at 7 weeks and saw a HB so stupidly thought everything was ok and told close family and friends (parents and about 3 friends each) then at the next scan I still measured 7+1-2. So cruel baby's heart basically stopped the day we saw it 😩. I've been Googling like mad and still don't understand how you can see a healthy HB then it just stop 😩

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Mellous · 20/03/2021 17:09

Hi, I’ll join!

First pregnancy in November 2020, found out on 30th dec that baby has no heartbeat and measured 6wks (we saw hb at 6wks so must have stopped soon after). Had Erpc on 11th jan 2021 and have been ttc ever since! xx

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justwant2beamum · 20/03/2021 16:34

Hey @Chanel05 aw thank you so much for sharing I'm so glad to hear a positive story that you got your rainbow baby. I hope and pray every day that will be me soon 🤞🏻

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Chanel05 · 20/03/2021 16:19

Sorry for your loss OP. I had a mmc on my first pregnancy in 2019 and had an ERPC also. It was completely awful! I fell pregnant again 8 months later and am now looking at my 6 month old rainbow baby girl having a cuddle with her great Nan (our bubble). Good luck!

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